toucansam84 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I've been dating my girlfriend for about three months. Last night, we started to talk about the direction of our relationship. She thought things were moving too fast, and she wanted to go back to the "dating" stage, where we date each other and not get into all the "i love you" stuff. Neither of us have said we loved each other yet, although we both said we were falling in love with each other. Anyways, she wanted to go back to that stage in our relationship, which I agreed to because I want to be with her. What does this mean for my relationship?
wishing4thefuture Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I've been dating my girlfriend for about three months. Last night, we started to talk about the direction of our relationship. She thought things were moving too fast, and she wanted to go back to the "dating" stage, where we date each other and not get into all the "i love you" stuff. Neither of us have said we loved each other yet, although we both said we were falling in love with each other. Anyways, she wanted to go back to that stage in our relationship, which I agreed to because I want to be with her. What does this mean for my relationship? You can't really go back like that. Talk to her about what can be improved in the relationship, not to reach "the holy grail of 'I love you!'", just what can change to make things more fun.
phineas Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Are you having sex with her now? Will this mean you will stop having sex with her? Will you spend less time together? As in give her enough time to date somebody else?
Author toucansam84 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 She is notorious for taking things slow. We are still exclusive and not dating anyone else, just "redating" each other. No, we haven't had sex yet. Again, she likes to take things slow. She also is stressed with school starting up again, because she is a third-year law student.
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 My general rule of thumb is if a girl suddenly asks to "back up" or "slow down" or "rewind" in any relationship, LAUNCH. She's simply not as interested as you are. And besides, law students are weirdos. Why the heck would she suddenly want to "re-date" you if things are going well in her mind?
Star Gazer Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 She is notorious for taking things slow. We are still exclusive and not dating anyone else, just "redating" each other. No, we haven't had sex yet. Again, she likes to take things slow. This confuses me. You shouldn't be "re" dating as much as still just dating. If she wants to go slower than the incredibly slow pace she's already been taking it, it's not a good sign. She also is stressed with school starting up again, because she is a third-year law student. 3rd year is the EASIEST year of law school.
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