Labster12 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hi folks, it is me for the last time on this topic, if not then you can beat me to a pulp. Yea, me, the Indian (India) guy that asked whether or not Latinas would date me, asked out a Puerto Rican girl, she said yes but then something on the back of my head kept on telling me to ask why Indian guy - Latina relationships are unheard of. Well, today when I was at the Y I met my former doctor who moved to Minnesota a year ago, he is an Indian (India) guy (really Americanized) and I saw his wife and kids. His wife was a pretty looking Venezuelan brunette with an accent and his kids were two little boys with Black hair and olive skin. Enough of that though. So we talked and talked and I told him about my girlfriend and how I am receiving flak for dating her. Of course in the town I live in, interracial dating is out of the norm. I have NEVER heard of an Indian guy - Latina pairing or Indian guy - Asian girl my whole life, and I basically got a little discouraged before I asked my girlfriend out. Now I made a BOLD move, I asked him why Indian guy - Latina pairing is so rare. He told me everything I needed to know and what he told me really opened my eyes and shocked me. He said that most Indians here in the US just do not take that kindly to their kids dating Blacks or Hispanics due to stereotypes, some Indian men date and marry White women to give themselves an ego boost and brag about how they have "made it" in American society. My former doctor (who is sort of my friend too) told me about how he was insulted by a lot of Indians who talked about him keeping an "illegal maid' as a housewife. He said that generally speaking: 1. Indians are not nearly as much in abundance as Blacks or Whites here in the US, they are less than 1 percent of the population (I even read the statistics). 2. Indians in general are very conservative and most who are in the US come from India and are not really born here, they also have to adhere to extremely strict customs. 3. In Indian society, dating or marrying a White person is viewed as an "upgrade" while dating or marrying a Black or Hispanic person is viewed as a "downgrade". He told me all of this stuff, I asked my parents and they said that sadly it was true and I should be thankful that I did not get to hang out with too many of those type of Indian people in my life. So I talked to my parents about this and I came to that realization. I realized that I am an individual American and not just an Indian. Guys, thanks for putting up with my crap. USMCHokie, Taiko, AND Vicious Violet, SPECIAL THANKS to you guys for putting up with my insecure questions and BS.
alexlakeman Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Am I the only one that is tired of this Indian guy asking the same q 20 different ways? Dude, get a grip, grow some balls, and if you like a woman ask her out.. Worse that can happen is she says no or says that you look like her gardner or house keeper... pleaseeeeeeeeee
Author Labster12 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Am I the only one that is tired of this Indian guy asking the same q 20 different ways? Dude, get a grip, grow some balls, and if you like a woman ask her out.. Worse that can happen is she says no or says that you look like her gardner or house keeper... pleaseeeeeeeeee no...................
LisaLee Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Good luck! Hopefully this really is your last post about Indian (India) guy hooking up with latinas/Asians. PS. Have you considered OKC?
Mike B. Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Am I the only one that is tired of this Indian guy asking the same q 20 different ways? No. I am really starting to see this guy as a troll.
Author Labster12 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Oh no, I am already in a relationship. Plus I heard or read on a times article that Indian men are the least desired on OkCupid, no need to get my self esteem hurt. Well time to man up. Funny how the word troll is tossed around as the word racist. Also, I find it odd since Trolls usually provoke people by making malicious and hurtful posts, I do none of the above.
USMCHokie Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I hear a faint popping sound in the distance...it appears you finally pulled your head from out of your ass...? Let's hope it stays that way... Obviously your parents are supportive of your new relationship, so stop worrying about all this interracial dating crap and have fun with your girl.
naya1 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 well labster, i really have not heard of indian guys dating girls other than indian too. i know some guys and most of them are in a fixed marriage or "betrothed" to a girl that their parents or relatives handpicked for them. of course not of all these matches are perfect.. im pretty sure its not an isolated case..girls usually dont really care about the race but its the person inside that really matters..
somuchforthat Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 1st gen parents aborad will still have traditional views....its our generations and our kids that will be more lax and open minded so to speak... the whole upgrade and downgrade is bs as a whole and u know u jnow that ( its just stupid perpcetions and sterotypes) There are plenty of indians who are just as bad and do bad stuff. We are not any better or any worse than any race its just our parents and grand parents feel like they are better than the whole world which we arnt. Go for the girl you want and take all the other bs as it comes... u will always get the stigma for this but if you its what you truly want then who cares. Atleast you know you are happy and your peers have wives who are treated as second class and who are treated as subordinates (you know what i mean here) and no not all indian men treat thier wives like this but i said it to illustrate a point!
Author Labster12 Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 I conclude my curiosity and exploration with this pic http://www.csmonitor.com/var/ezflow_site/storage/images/media/images/0521-kites-movie/7936059-1-eng-US/0521-kites-movie_full_600.jpg
desertmoon Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 Hi folks, it is me for the last time on this topic, if not then you can beat me to a pulp. Yea, me, the Indian (India) guy that asked whether or not Latinas would date me, asked out a Puerto Rican girl, she said yes but then something on the back of my head kept on telling me to ask why Indian guy - Latina relationships are unheard of. Well, today when I was at the Y I met my former doctor who moved to Minnesota a year ago, he is an Indian (India) guy (really Americanized) and I saw his wife and kids. His wife was a pretty looking Venezuelan brunette with an accent and his kids were two little boys with Black hair and olive skin. Enough of that though. So we talked and talked and I told him about my girlfriend and how I am receiving flak for dating her. Of course in the town I live in, interracial dating is out of the norm. I have NEVER heard of an Indian guy - Latina pairing or Indian guy - Asian girl my whole life, and I basically got a little discouraged before I asked my girlfriend out. Now I made a BOLD move, I asked him why Indian guy - Latina pairing is so rare. He told me everything I needed to know and what he told me really opened my eyes and shocked me. He said that most Indians here in the US just do not take that kindly to their kids dating Blacks or Hispanics due to stereotypes, some Indian men date and marry White women to give themselves an ego boost and brag about how they have "made it" in American society. My former doctor (who is sort of my friend too) told me about how he was insulted by a lot of Indians who talked about him keeping an "illegal maid' as a housewife. He said that generally speaking: 1. Indians are not nearly as much in abundance as Blacks or Whites here in the US, they are less than 1 percent of the population (I even read the statistics). 2. Indians in general are very conservative and most who are in the US come from India and are not really born here, they also have to adhere to extremely strict customs. 3. In Indian society, dating or marrying a White person is viewed as an "upgrade" while dating or marrying a Black or Hispanic person is viewed as a "downgrade". He told me all of this stuff, I asked my parents and they said that sadly it was true and I should be thankful that I did not get to hang out with too many of those type of Indian people in my life. So I talked to my parents about this and I came to that realization. I realized that I am an individual American and not just an Indian. Guys, thanks for putting up with my crap. USMCHokie, Taiko, AND Vicious Violet, SPECIAL THANKS to you guys for putting up with my insecure questions and BS. So you realized it is an Indian (India ) problem. Well, good for you! So you CAN separate your heritage from your "American self"? Or have you discovered a happy medium or able to reconcile the two? How did you do that?
Feelin Frisky Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 (edited) Wo-wo-wo I'm an Indian. Indian here oh yes Indian. Did I mention that I'm Indian from India. I'm an Indian blah, blah, blah. Knock-knock, who's there? Indian. Mohatma Ghandi not Sitting Bull Indian. Edited August 31, 2010 by Feelin Frisky
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