somuchforthat Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 lets say you meet a girl and you start dating and such and you are crazy about each other etc....and three weeks later you are given a ultimatum that you either convert to her religion or the relationship is over? That is only choice you are given? Even if you try it out an go to church and worship and whatever else and its still not your thing the relationship is still over! You yourself are not religious btw. What to do? Dammed if you do dammed if you don't?
USMCHokie Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Insta-LAUNCH. And I wouldn't lose even a wink of sleep over it. And I personally would be very wary if I was supposedly "crazy" about some girl only after dating her a couple weeks...but that's just me...
Cee Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Basically, she's asking you to marry her. After 3 weeks of dating. Wait, no, she is demanding that you marry her. On her terms. I can't imagine what this religion is. In my family, there are a few interfaith marriages (Catholic or Christian-Jewish) and nobody converted. Including my parents. Run for the hills. Committing to a religion is not something that can be forced on anybody. But it sounds like you are crazy about her. Here's Plan B. I suggest that you investigate the religion and if you don't like it, then break up with her. If you don't like the religion, then you aren't compatible b/c religion is central to her.
a_woman Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 run for the hills. she is asking you to change your value system because she is not prepared to accept yours! if that's not hypocrasy I don't know what is. I really really hate that
Author somuchforthat Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 I can't imagine what this religion is. In my family, there are a few interfaith marriages (Catholic or Christian-Jewish) and nobody converted. Including my parents. christian pentecostal Run for the hills. Committing to a religion is not something that can be forced on anybody. my thoughts exactly- i told her that too. Its not something that i magically become... But it sounds like you are crazy about her. Here's Plan B. I suggest that you investigate the religion and if you don't like it, then break up with her. If you don't like the religion, then you aren't compatible b/c religion is central to her. I did suggest that as i said in the middle of my post but she wouldn't have any of it. She said that religion was a big part of her and that its important to her and this and that. I said that's fine but you know where i stood on religion long before we dated ( we were friends before) so idk why this coming up now. So i went through hell basically after it ended.... Basically i felt used, cheated and wasn't even sure if she was into me or if she was into me to get me into her religion.
Cee Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 whats insta-launch? lol I think insta-launch comment means automatic break up. From what you have added, dump her now. Don't even think about it. It's almost like she wants a new convert, than a boyfriend. Who has ever heard of converting to a religion without investigating it for a long period of time. When people convert to Judaism they are supposed to take classes, participate in services, and reflect for a period of time. Seriously, run. I'm afraid of her. Insta-launch. Now.
Author somuchforthat Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 (edited) I think insta-launch comment means automatic break up. From what you have added, dump her now. Don't even think about it. It's almost like she wants a new convert, than a boyfriend. Who has ever heard of converting to a religion without investigating it for a long period of time. When people convert to Judaism they are supposed to take classes, participate in services, and reflect for a period of time. Seriously, run. I'm afraid of her. Insta-launch. Now. yea i know i ended it. After it ended it was hell.... i felt like it was all a facade or something. I just don't understand how anyone can do something like to someone and have such great disrespect or even put someone in a position like this. There was no where to go....i wasnt gonna fake myself into being something im not... I told her to think about what she is asking from me several times...but to no avail..... I felt like the relationship was under false pretenses.....she didnt see me for me but rather she requested that i change myself ..... Edited August 30, 2010 by somuchforthat
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