Rallylover342 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Hey all, sorry I don't know if this is the right place to post this. Anyway I am Mike and I am 19. So the other day I went to one of my friends house who is a girl to hang out with her for a little before she had to go to work. When I got there she had one of her friends over who came down for about a week. I found this girl really cute.(shes 19 also). During the time we sat in her room we did not talk much in the beginning but after an hour she started talking to me a lot. I laid down on my friends bed and then little later she laid down too, and started playing with my key chain and cellphone and talked about how nice it was lol. She laughed at all my jokes and I can see her looking at me with her eyes a lot. When my friends boyfriend came we went out to get something to eat at some icecream/cady store and sat down at one of the tables. For a while we were there I noticed she looked at me a lot. And for the rest of the night as we drove she still laughed at a lot of my jokes.Then when we got back too my house I went to my room. Later she and her friend came and she sat behind me on my bed. I started watching tv and I asked if I could use her as a pillow when she was laying down, and she said it was fine. And while I watched TV I noticed again she looked at me a lot from the corner of my eye, not a lot but sometimes. NOW. I know a lot of you are saying "O my god you idiot its obvious isnt it" BUT here is the thing that REALLY confused me........she lives an hour away and HAS a boyfriend. I only heard her talk about him a few times but nothing special. PLEASE someone help me out, I really think I like this girl and she is so beautiful and a great personality. But I don't know what to do. She is also leaving in about 6 days so I have to do something. Thank you for your time Mike.
Mike B. Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 It seems she likes you and an hour is not too far away. You're both adults. Do you drive? I would not confess my love for her or anything at this point. Just try to spend more time with her. Casually ask if she wants to go with you to the beach or whatever is going on in your town that is fun but doesn't seem like a date. I wouldn't tell her that I like her or think she is cute or anything. I would just try to continue to build a connection but not push anything since she has a boyfriend. If she decides that she is more interested in you than the other guy she is dating, let her make that choice without you being pushy. Just keep doing what you have already done, basically. It seem to work.
Cracker Jack Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Yeah, this is a tough position. I'm pretty sure you know she likes you, tho. Just be her friend right now; I don't think you'd want to intentionally sabotage a relationship. If she likes you as much as I believe, she'll give you a legitimate chance. For now, just get to know her more.
Author Rallylover342 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 oh no, in now way do I want to sabotage anything in any way. I have tried not to give out any hints that I like her in anyway. I am trying to go for the "stay cool and with the flow" tactic. My problem was I just don't know if she even likes/loves her boyfriend. I mean if she did she would never let me flirt or even sit next to her right? yet she let me use her body as a pillow for my head and I even said "nah Im just kidding Ill get a pillow" and she told me "no its fine you can if you want". Personally I think it is a bad idea, but I also want yours gals and guys opinions before I do the wrong thing here.
Cracker Jack Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I think going with the flow is the best thing to do in this situation. Like you said, you haven't made it clear that you like her--but her actions clearly show that she's into you. So yeah, that doesn't say much about her boyfriend's feelings--which means she could likely do this to anyone; but I don't think it's fair to jump to conclusions on someone so quickly. What exactly do you want to do at this point? Get to know her more in terms of friendship? Possibly get physical with her and stay friends while at it?
Sphere Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 She's taken. Find another girl who is single. Befriending her just to date her at a later date is a chumpish move. Be her friend by all means, but do not harbour for anything more. This sounds a lot like the case of the girl using you as an emotional tampon while she goes back to her current boyfriend for sex. Don't be an idiot caught in a love triangle, it's just not worth it.
Author Rallylover342 Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 Well so far she knows I'm funny, I guess she thinks I'm cute and she knows I enjoy stuff like working on cars, and like to drink sometimes, but not too much. I told her things like I don't smoke and she liked that. But what I want to do is express my personality more to her. I want her to find out I am a really nice guy without making her think that I am some a-hole and I don't care if she has a boyfriend or not. Problem is I only have 5-6 days to do this...
Mike B. Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Well, I wouldn't be too eager to show her that you are a "nice guy." Just don't be an a***ole. Don't try top hard to impress her. That seems to backfire a lot. Don't start bragging or anything.
Sphere Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I can't believe people on this thread are encouraging this boy to go and pursue a taken woman. If she does get with you and leaves her boyfriend for you, then somewhere a long the line, she'll do the same to you. Aren't there any single women you can be interested in? Why mess around with a taken woman? It's such an AFC'ish move man.
Author Rallylover342 Posted September 1, 2010 Author Posted September 1, 2010 I would love to find a single girl where I live, but my town is not like that. Its not like a city where you can go in a club and just find a great girl, they rarley come here so often. Most girls where I live are dirty and bi**chy. This girl is everything you want, funny, mature, down to earth, clean, really really cute. But I think going for someone already involved in a relationship is a bad idea, its just that she does not seem fond of her boyfriend in anyway, so far since shes been down here she has not mentioned him once to me. I mean I seen her text him once or twice but thats it.
Sphere Posted September 1, 2010 Posted September 1, 2010 I would love to find a single girl where I live, but my town is not like that. Its not like a city where you can go in a club and just find a great girl, they rarley come here so often. Most girls where I live are dirty and bi**chy. This girl is everything you want, funny, mature, down to earth, clean, really really cute. But I think going for someone already involved in a relationship is a bad idea, its just that she does not seem fond of her boyfriend in anyway, so far since shes been down here she has not mentioned him once to me. I mean I seen her text him once or twice but thats it. I can guarantee she will not leave her boyfriend for you. She can't be that great of a girl, if she has contempt for her boyfriend and doesn't mind using you as an emotional, ego stroking tool. You hardly know this girl and you are placing on her on the pedestal that one would find a statue of a Goddess bestowed upon. That's very sickly and you need to change that. Say you end up with this girl, who is to say she won't treat you with the same contempt down the line? As they say, a leopard never changes its spots.
Author Rallylover342 Posted September 2, 2010 Author Posted September 2, 2010 I never said she wouldnt leave him, and your taking this way to seriously and now insulting me and calling me "sick". Really? I obviously know it would be a bad choice to make. But the way she acts with her boyfriend it seems she has no feelings for him. When my friend asks about him she just says something boring about him and changes the subject, its like he does not even exist. I mean you dont have feelings or love someone if you completly ignore them everytime they are brought into a conversation. If this girl ever said she loved him or talked about him more, then In no way in hell would I try anything, but the way things look she might as well break up with him. But whatever, I already made my choice that I am not going to try anything anymore a long time ago, I will just let time do the rest for me. Ill act myself and no flirting involved. If she truley likes me Ill accept it.
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