lundhunden Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 I was dating this girl, we hooked up 4 times including sex, and chemistry was good. Now she's been going unsure, and doesnt know what she wants or if she's ready for something. The weird part is, that she stated one of the reasons being that I possibly was to skinny for her liking, fair enough, i can take it. Now she writes and wants to stay friends with benefits. How does that work - if she doesnt get turned on by me, but wants to have sex?? - Another fact is, that she told me how much she really likes me and being with me etc.. And that we should just play it a little cool, and we'll see where things end up when she gets her head straight. And in this period continue to be friends w benefits. I dont really understand the motive/possible outcome here.. What do you guys think?
Sphere Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 You're not her type, she enjoys the sex with you and wants to continue it. Basically you're good enough to bed, but she'd never be seen dead with you linking arms in public. It seems you want a relationship? I'd go with the flow, if I was you. That's my ideal relationship.
Author lundhunden Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 You might be right - And obviously im not gonna pass on it, I mean, sure, a relationsship is mostly what im looking for, but im not gonna pass on going with the flow. Theres plenty of other opportunities out there Some regular sex to keep things going aint bad i guess. But one though, she actually does want to be seen with me in that sense, and we have like 2-3times.. Not to polish my halo or whatever, but im pretty good looking:D. One thing i didnt mention is that we look way different on things, im Danish and she's Ukrainian, but has been living and working here for 10 years time now. So im thinking that her way of approaching things, is probl. not similar to mine. But who knows!
dispatch3d Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 You might be right - And obviously im not gonna pass on it, I mean, sure, a relationsship is mostly what im looking for, but im not gonna pass on going with the flow. Theres plenty of other opportunities out there Some regular sex to keep things going aint bad i guess. But one though, she actually does want to be seen with me in that sense, and we have like 2-3times.. Not to polish my halo or whatever, but im pretty good looking:D. One thing i didnt mention is that we look way different on things, im Danish and she's Ukrainian, but has been living and working here for 10 years time now. So im thinking that her way of approaching things, is probl. not similar to mine. But who knows! she's a girl man. Looks aren't everything. Just being good looking doesn't mean she wants her friends to know you are dating her. Definitely a good deal for you while you look for a real relationship. Just don't have her take up too much of your actual dating time (ie. don't take her to a bunch of movies or any such crap. I doubt this'll be a problem though).
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