Dating Anxiety

[golferguy1]

I hate talking about my dating life. I always get embarassed because:

 

1.I have never been in a serious relationship

2.I used to be super shy around the ladies

3.Family members are always asking me if I am dating anyone, my younger cousins bug me about have you had a gf....I tell them it's none of their business.

4. I have never had my first kiss yet. I am 28 and didn't date in HS. I started college then moved and took a job and haven't finished my degree.

 

 

I am trying to get out of debt right now, I am in therapy and trying to get my depression under control. I have been focused on my career to this point and am trying to make some changes. I want to date but feel incredible anxiety about dating.

 

 

What to do?

[TouchedByViolet]

Start with small steps

 

1- Make yourself look good: Exercise (something you enjoy!), personal hygiene, fashion upgrade.

2- Talk to women: Whether you are particular interested in them or not just start conversations and learn a little about interacting with females.

3- Put yourself in areas with high female to male ratios: Ex. If you are in anyway artistically/musically talented take a related class and there are sure to be plenty of females

4- Act confident, and never put women on a pedestal. I've read enough posts on this website to realize how few quality women their are

[hydorclops]

This is the wrong forum I think. I posted something similar and got very little feedback.

 

If you're a woman and you're sad because you can't attract the hottest guys, the men here will pile on with concern and will try to make you feel better.

 

If you're a guy and you want to brag about hitting the "sluts" but wanting someone "nice" for a girlfriend, the women will write lots of posts "arguing" with you.

 

You should start threads that are puerile and salacious if you want feedback.

 

Maybe most people here are in the dating lifestyle, as opposed to hoping for some way to start an actual relationship.