caseinpoint Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Men, how many of you have met women you like, asked her out (kind of) and given her your number (instead of asking for hers)?
Sabali Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Well, I never do it. I am asking for your number so you know I am interested in having it for some reason or else I wouldn't ask so I am very likely to call. On the other hand, if I give you mine, it becomes a game that I don't want to play. No thanks. A little over a week ago I asked a woman for her phone number and she told me she had a "phone phobia." I never heard that one before. I told her "for God's sake, don't ever use that one again. Ever. You seem too smart to come up with crap like that. Couldn't you come up with something else?" I walked off without offering mine and she then decided to give me her phone number. I took it but told her that I won't be using the phone number since she wanted to have a phone phobia and to instead give me her email address. She gave me her email address and told me that she will make me want to call her. I emailed her to set up a meeting for light drinks. It was a pleasant experience and we set up to meet two weeks from then. Bottom line: there is more than one way to skin a cat and the immediate alternative is not to give your phone number instead. You don't want to play that game. A mutual phone number exchange is good though.
dispatch3d Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 If there's no connection/I have no feelings for her I don't bother with getting a number. Useless to have. I generally invite them to some thing I'm doing, since girls flake like mad anyways. I may start going for actual dates again (I did this once and it worked, another time I said "we should hang out sometime" and it didn't). The time it worked I had to harass her for the 2nd one - she flaked on the first. Anyways, this is partly women's fault anyways for ****ing around so much .
dispatch3d Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 yeah Sab has the right idea. I like how you treated getting her number at that point. I wouldn't have called it either, so being upfront about it is great. Like your attitude too... she ****ed up, how is she going to make it up to you.
somedude81 Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 There is no point in a man giving a woman his number, unless, she is really into him and she asks for it. 99% of the time it will not happen that way. In the vast majority of occasions, a girl will not be the first one to call a guy.
dispatch3d Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 yeah if she asked for my number I would refuse to give it, and I wouldn't bother giving a woman my number either. You've had success with this?
Author caseinpoint Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 So it's safe to say that if a guy gives a girl his number, he's not that interested in her?
alphamale Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Men, how many of you have met women you like, asked her out (kind of) and given her your number (instead of asking for hers)? yea i've done it but they never call
somedude81 Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 So it's safe to say that if a guy gives a girl his number, he's not that interested in her? No, he may very well be interested. It's just not a common thing to do as it has a very low success rate. A guy is much better off getting the girl's number and contacting her first. Instead of giving her his number and hoping that she calls.
Author caseinpoint Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 yea i've done it but they never call Not true. I've called back and arranged dates. But I was told that in general guys who do that aren't as interested.
meerkat stew Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Lately I just hand them my phone and say, "here, don't you want to give yourself a call?" and then laugh. It works better than it sounds, but I never do that until I know they have some interest. I ask for their business card too sometimes, if they don't have one, I take one of mine, and ask them to write their number on the back. Can't remember ever actually just giving a woman my phone number.
jamesum Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 (edited) But I was told that in general guys who do that aren't as interested. You were told by other women right? A phone number is something private. I wont give it away to someone especially a stranger I have no interest in. Simple logic. Generally guys ask for a number because firstly, its the usual thing people do when they are hitting on someone, and secondly, it gives them the power to call or not to call. Edited August 30, 2010 by jamesum
Author caseinpoint Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 You were told by other women right? A phone number is something private. I wont give it away to someone especially a stranger I have no interest in. Simple logic. Generally guys ask for a number because firstly, its the usual thing people do when they are hitting on someone, and secondly, it gives them the power to call or not to call. Not just by other women. It's a mixture. Most of the posters here also seem to indicate likewise.
Mad Max Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Not for nothing, but I'm not giving my number to someone I'm not interested in. Not only is it a waste of her time, but it's a waste of my time as well. I've never offered my phone number to a girl, but I have given it to a few if they asked for it.
jamesum Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 Not just by other women. It's a mixture. Most of the posters here also seem to indicate likewise. You didnt explain what you mean by how he KIND OF asked you out? If he made the effort to get your attention, really asked you out then gave you his number, then he wanted you to call him.
Disillusioned Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 No way would I give my number to any woman until we've had the Interview (= picking each other's brains about what we want in a relationship). It's been my experience that people will wake me up at ungodly hours if they have my number and they don't know me very well.
Author caseinpoint Posted August 30, 2010 Author Posted August 30, 2010 You didnt explain what you mean by how he KIND OF asked you out? If he made the effort to get your attention, really asked you out then gave you his number, then he wanted you to call him. We've met each other before briefly because of work. When he gave me his number, we were at a noisy bar with me and my friends at a table. We spoke briefly (because of the noise) and he suggested dinner after my coming work trip and gave me his card.
dispatch3d Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 You were told by other women right? A phone number is something private. I wont give it away to someone especially a stranger I have no interest in. Simple logic. Generally guys ask for a number because firstly, its the usual thing people do when they are hitting on someone, and secondly, it gives them the power to call or not to call. getting a number doesn't give us any power... you obviously aren't a guy. Girls give out numbers like it's their job. We don't give our numbers to girls because they aren't going to ****ing call us unless it's very unusual circumstances. It's much much much (like 3 million percent) more likely she shows her friends the phone number and laughs that she got it, or tosses it on the ground cause she doesn't care, than she calls us. We don't get numbers because we want power, we get them because giving doesn't work.
jamesum Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 and he suggested dinner after my coming work trip and gave me his card. He suggested it so he was at least interested to see you. Call him.
Gattica Posted August 30, 2010 Posted August 30, 2010 After weeks of flirty and such, my coworker asked me to take down his cell phone # and when I offered him my phone #, he hesitated and then accepted it. I found the fact that he hesitated was quite strange. He also thought it was odd that I gave him my home phone # and not my cell. Anywho, he landed up being the first one to call a couple of days after the # swap. I didn't call him first because I am very shy at first and was put off a bit by his reaction to receiving my home phone #.
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