carealothugs Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Theres another guy whos intrested in me problem is hes 20 hot/cute and seems total smitten with me I told him he should be having fun at his age not getting attached to long term with a 28 year old hes keen to prove me wrong and make me think hes different, with the whole flowers, chocolates, teddie bear thing which is cute i've never been out with anyone that young before the youngest i've been with is 24 anyone been out with younger/older guy than them was it a problem with anyone thats questions i'm thinking of.
TaraMaiden Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Yes. date him. My partner is 5 years younger. It's ok to date someone younger. Men do it all the time. Why shouldn't we?
Citizen Erased Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Not every 20 year old is the same. What you define as fun, can be different for others. Myself, I'm 22, I have only ever seeked LTR's. My fiance is 29. If he'd told me to go off and have fun because he didn't think I was mature or old enough to be in a LTR with him, we wouldn't be as happy as we are now. It's a gamble, everything. Someone your own age could be abusive. Someone 10 years older could be the love of your life. My advice is to determine if you're at the same stages in your lives and go from there.
atlnay Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Currently seeing someone over a decade younger. He's mature/serious for his age in some areas, i am silly & goofy for my age in others. Age aside we have a good time more than not. So long as you dig him as a person, give it shot!
LisaLee Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Yes..., although before I would have said no. But then I met my current SO who is younger than me, and he makes me quite happy.
Author carealothugs Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 Thanks settled my mind:love: and his, hes worried cause i'm older he thinks i'm not intrested when hes smoking hot, and told him that I am intrested last night made him happy lol its weird how someone his age wants to settle and not sleep with every girl only one, and his mates are having fun he doesnt want that not everyday you see that I guess I should take a risk and might end up my Prince
Cee Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Go for it. He likes you, you like him. I met someone last week who was 8 years younger. I thought of all the reasons that he wouldn't like me, why it wouldn't work. Then I told those voices to be quiet and I expressed my interest in him. We ended up having a really good time together hanging out and dancing. And we have a date on Monday. My sister is married to a man who is 9 years younger than her. They have a relationship, I'd like to have some day. Age is just a number. You have to get to know someone before you really know how mature they are.
Author carealothugs Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 Thanks, yeah he is more mature than the guys near my age i've been with can hold a conversation, without asking what i'm wearing underneath kinda thing he thinks were on the same level and i'm not like the others hes been with who mess around an have fun guess I should give it a go
BentSpine Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 Sounds like you should give it a try. Mental connection and physical attraction is what counts. I am utterly convinced though, that anyone who mentions the word "maturity" is TRYING to gain the approval of others: "Please don't hurt me for getting along with a younger man... boo hoo". Better for the older one to grow up and stand up to those around you that you happen to connect and that's all that matters. Mix genuine friendship with attraction and you have a good romantic relationship. No need at all to try to elevate the younger person into a "Mature" status. Own your ****.
jamesum Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 I should take a risk and might end up my Prince Lol, I have to say you are probably more immature than him.
Author carealothugs Posted August 31, 2010 Author Posted August 31, 2010 Well our first offical date is on Friday lol i'll keep you lot posted if this one lasts it will be a record.
naya1 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 i dated a 19 year old when i was 28. only because he said he was 21. lol anyway my friend kept telling me i should drop him, cause he was too young and that it was gross. she told me to date older men (like 40 plus) cause theyre refined and know what they want in life..turns out the ones she dated didnt have jobs (and couldnt hold jobs) and 2 of them were married (and lied to her about it).. its really not w/ the age..so go ahead and enjoy
Eeyore79 Posted August 31, 2010 Posted August 31, 2010 I wouldn't date him, purely because I want a committed LTR and a 20yo is unlikely to be ready for that. If he was 30 and I was 38, it would be less of an issue, but when he's just a kid of 20 there's much less chance of the relationship lasting. Personally I wouldn't waste my time dating kids who aren't old enough to be ready for commitment.
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