tigressA Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 (edited) Things have been going extraordinarily well with C since we reconciled. Communication is much more open and relaxed--I'm not afraid to say what's on my mind anymore. We laugh together a hell of a lot more than we ever did before. There's been a real subduing of ego here, on both sides. He's even better now than he was before with the level of contact, though it was always good. He initiates almost all of it, and we talk daily, either on video chat or by phone. We've seen each other once since Sunday (we're an hour away from each other, and our respective schedules/commitments make meeting up difficult). He's very serious about making things work between us. He wants a serious, committed relationship. With me. Me! I never mentioned this in my other threads, but I always felt a little like he's out of my league, and I've never felt that way about a guy before. He's slightly older at 27 (I'm 23), and he's really got his **** together. Solid career, totally independent, prototypical "highly eligible bachelor" type. He's among the last in his group of friends to settle down, so he's going to have a lot of other women snapping at his heels, and pressure of sorts from multiple sources to take the plunge. Not to mention he's a total hottie, my exact physical preference. Yeah, I'm kind of insecure about the whole thing. The last time I tried a serious relationship, it didn't turn out so well. I really messed up. I've learned a lot, and C has made clear that he wants me to take my time. Everything he says and does points to "I want to be with you, I want to make things work with you." I have him, undoubtedly. But he doesn't have me yet. I'm still holding back a bit because of my insecurities. I don't want them to sabotage this. Edited August 28, 2010 by tigressA
spookie Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Stop over analyzing. It's only been a week since you reconciled. You are still getting to know each other.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Easy does it and congratulations if this is what you want.
Author tigressA Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 (edited) Yeah, I am overthinking. I really just need to chill. I guess I'm just a bit alarmed at his readiness to commit--well, he already is committed to me in a sense. He said that he isn't interested in seeing anyone else. I'm not either, but...maybe I should tell him to chill too. It's mostly how he's been acting, and circumstances that I can't just pretend don't exist, that's prompted this whole thing. Quite a few of my friends have been settling down too, getting engaged and/or married, so it's something I've been thinking about more. Edited August 28, 2010 by tigressA
SadandConfusedWA Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I have a question. Between the time you broke up and reconciled, how long was it? Did you have any contact during "break up"? If not, how did you handle IM? Did you block him or did you just not talk? Sorry, that was more than 1 question
Author tigressA Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 I have a question. Between the time you broke up and reconciled, how long was it? Did you have any contact during "break up"? If not, how did you handle IM? Did you block him or did you just not talk? Sorry, that was more than 1 question It's okay, SAC. There were a few weeks between the break-up and reconciliation. He called once, after two weeks, and I answered the phone, we talked briefly, just doing catch-up. I put a filter on his email address so that anything he may have sent went straight to my trash folder, blocked him from IM, deleted all online exchanges between us in order to remove the temptation to contact him. It was hard. I don't know if the lack of contact played a large part in him initiating a reconciliation. I do know that he is very serious about wanting to be with me.
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