carealothugs Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I am now considering online dating can't be worse than the guys i've had just wondering what others think and have you done it before i'd love to hear the ups and downs of it before I go ahead lol.
Dante311 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I'm trying it... and at the moment.. i'm not liking it. too many weirdos. heh i'm in grad school nd don't have time to meet, greet, and date... oy boy
Author carealothugs Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 Lol it can't be as bad as the guys i've been with they were weird then again all guys are weird that we can never work them out hope you get a date though
Dante311 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Lol it can't be as bad as the guys i've been with they were weird then again all guys are weird that we can never work them out hope you get a date though I've met weird. desperate. zany. too wild for my liking. unattractive (sorry about this one, but true)... not that I'm some super hot guy, but yeah... I deserve a little better than what I've met. My picture (when I'm probably looking my worst LOL) is up in that rate yourself thread on the last page. No. Online dating has not fared well for me. I wish you better luck than I have had.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I did it once. I didn't find the lass appealing. I actually worried for her though. I went to her apartment as per her suggestion thinking she would come out and we'd go out somewhere. But she had me come right on in. I thought that is not a wise policy for her to invite men she's never even got to know a little into her place. I felt uncomfortable there and we never did go out. I just split. I felt sorry for her.
Stung Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I've heard a lot of bad stories about online dating, and know a lot of people who got burned out on it, but I have to say it worked great for me. I took my time, sorted through a lot of chaff, but I met my husband on OkCupid years ago, and one of my best friends met her husband on Match.
meerkat stew Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 There is a high incidence of people fresh out of marriage and relationships on dating sites. It seems net daters tend to have fewer drinking problems than people I meet in bars and clubs. So for me it evens out. For people who live in suburbs or are disinclined to go out three times a week, net dating is a godsend.
kalikula Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Eh, I met one guy, now my friend. He was really weird but normal-"ish". Other than that I just haven't met anyone cute on there. No one has been up to my standards I guess (Which arent THAT high. Theres just a lot of average guys on there).
RustyCage Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 If you're contemplating it, don't knock it 'till you've tried it, because what didn't work for someone else might be perfect for you. And if you're smart about it, you could probably weed out the bad apples and creepy axe murderer profiles, and even then you don't have to invite a complete stranger over to your house to cuddle and watch a movie.. Seriously, you then garner no sympathy from me for ending up in some creepy dude's freezer. I kid, I kid. But, really.. The risk is no greater than it is in the real world. Having saids that, no one should exclude looking online if they feel there's even a slight chance of success, but it CERTAINLY shouldn't be your primary means of dating unless you're way too busy..
Leigh 87 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I understand if some people are too busy to date.. But frankley, can;t the attractive, nice, intelligent people get dates in real life? Online dating may work for average looking, normal people. Well, that is the majority of people I guess. However, I find it unlikely that you will find very attractive AND successful people online. There r actually online dating services FOR good looking people - for attractive ppl who r too busy to find love in real life... There may be successful, great, nice people online, but if they were very appealing to the opposite sex, would they need to go online? Those r my thoughts. I am 23, andl ets just say that I am going to TRY to find sex and fuin and maybe love one day, in my real life, before going online,....
EasyHeart Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Online dating sounds like a great idea in theory, but I've tried it a few times of the past 5 years and had no luck. I have no problem at all attracting women in real life, but apparently I don't have whatever online women are looking for. I'm also suspicious of OLD services. Think about their business model: they make money by how many people use their site. So their incentive is not to get people into relationships -- they want as many single, unattached people as possible to keep their revenues up. They want you meeting lots of people who aren't right for you, so you have to keep looking. In my experience talking to my female friends, the men online tend to be (1) guys looking for quick sex, for whom dating is a numbers game and OLD is just a way to increase their numbers and (2) socially awkward men who have trouble meeting women in real life. I'd suggest staying away from the former and giving a chance to the latter, but in real life women tend to fall madly in "love" with the former and be incredibly cruel to the latter. I think the big problem with OLD is that it puts everything about meeting someone backwards. In real life, you meet someone you think is attractive, find out if they're available, then figure out if you like their personality. Talking to my friends who use OLD, the most common experience seems to be "I 'met' this guy who seemed really nice, but then when I met him there was no chemistry". In real life, you would have determined that upfront, and neither of you would have wasted your time or made any emotional investment in someone you weren't attracted to. The matchmaking services are even worse. I know two women who signed up for one of those services that sets you up on lunch dates. They paid over $100 per "introduction" and between the two of them found one guy worthy of a second date (and not a third) and four stalkers.
alexlakeman Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Works for me... I posted a thread on my experience recently.. I'll have to find the link...
RustyCage Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I understand if some people are too busy to date.. But frankley, can;t the attractive, nice, intelligent people get dates in real life? Online dating may work for average looking, normal people. Well, that is the majority of people I guess. However, I find it unlikely that you will find very attractive AND successful people online. There r actually online dating services FOR good looking people - for attractive ppl who r too busy to find love in real life... There may be successful, great, nice people online, but if they were very appealing to the opposite sex, would they need to go online? Those r my thoughts. I am 23, andl ets just say that I am going to TRY to find sex and fuin and maybe love one day, in my real life, before going online,.... Well, not always. Someone may fit your description of successful and very attractive and might live in the middle of nowhere or in a city where their gender outnumbers the other by a great deal and they can't find many dates? I don't necessarily think it's a sign of being average or dull, because there are plenty of people like that out there right now. Hey, maybe I'm wrong, I just personally think that some people might find it appealing, because it's easy to find someone if you actually know what you're looking for, I guess. You'd probably find people who you KNOW what to date and are probably interested in something long-term.. And I think people should do one WITH the other. Why limit yourself?
Leigh 87 Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I do not want to online date yet, because I see lots of girls who r less attractive or equally as attractive as myself, who get boyfriends. So I still see hope for me, without having to bother online. You can sense a weirdo, a person who you do not want to get o know, on first talking or looking at them. Where as with online dating, there seams to be a high turnover of girls meeting less than satisfactory guys. I think I have more chance meeting guys at the gym at this point. ONly place I can meet people atm as I just moved states.
Philetus Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 I am now considering online dating can't be worse than the guys i've had just wondering what others think and have you done it before i'd love to hear the ups and downs of it before I go ahead lol. I LOVED it but I'm a guy. Almost every woman I dated (mostly aged 34-47) had horror stories. Men tend to be boorish *******s, sorry. More than once I apologized on behalf of my entire gender. I heard from more than one woman that guys who they just met would ask questions like, 'how large are your breasts'? Ugh... (One had a great comeback, she would say, "how big is your penis? Oh, and does it WORK." Keep a big sense of humour and treat each experience for what it is. I suspect most of the 'good guys' are dating a bunch of people simultaneously. I dated 2 or more people at a time, always. But I was open and up front about it. To use a crass analogy, if you're a 40 something male, it's a buyers market. My buddy put it perfectly, 'men are now the hot cheerleaders' and it's absolutely true. Problem for you is most men know this and they'll treat you like you're disposable.
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