raspy Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Okay, so recently my bf and I have became official. Now we're actually a couple rather than 2 people dating. Anyways, usually, actually, everything friday/sat night/sun he hangs out with his best friend, as obviously this means i don't get to see him on weekends. So his best friend went overseas for 2 weeks so he would ask me "what are you doing this weekend...wanna hangout" and of course i said yes. But now the best friend is back and he has gone back to just hanging with them. Should i be annoyed? I never see him on weekends? Should I start making myself a little less available on weekdays in order to force change?
AverageJoe Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 You already knew this about their friendship before he left, whats the issue now? What do you mean, in order to force change?
Stung Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Can I ask how old you guys are? Guys tend to have different 'guy time' schedules/priorities depending on what life stages they're in. Personally, I would be annoyed. While your boyfriend should have his guy time with his friends, you should be a priority as his girlfriend. That being said, does he invite you along with his friends, or are you excluded? I would be cool with seeing my boyfriend sometimes with his friends as long as we also had enough alone time, and then having my own girls nights while he went off with his guy friends. I am in my thirties though and would expect our couplehood to take some precedence. As far as limiting time with him to manipulatively force his hand one way or the other, it would be better to talk to him about it openly first. But I have to ask, are you with him all the time during the week?
Author raspy Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 I think it's bull**** he won't give me one day on the weekends but caters to her needs at ease. Every weekend I get so frustrated and it's his fault.
phineas Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Who is she? Is this the same guy that wouldn't spend time with you on the weekends you were posting about in may & june & july & now? wow. umm, just read those responses again. seriously.
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