PerfectImperfection Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Sex isn't something that our relationship is built on, but we do have a quite an active sex life. However, he point blank refuses to receive a BJ. I have been best friends with him nearly all my life, and neither of us have been with anyone else apart from each other, and I know he wouldn't have had a bad experience, because we were each others firsts. So he couldn't have had a bad BJ, because he's never had one, so how come he is so against it?! But whenever I go to initiate it, he'll take my hands in his and distract me with something else. And honestly, I don't particularly even want to give him one, I just don't want him to feel unappreciated for anything. He means the world to me. I have known my boyfriend since I was four years old, and we began going out when we were sixteen, and have been that way for the past six years now. Advice, please :/
meerkat stew Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 One thread on this is enough, no need for three of them.
stargirlxo Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I don't think you have a problem. He doesn't want one, and you don't particularly want to give him one. You just think you should give him one. But he doesn't want one even when you offer, therefore he is not missing out on anything...
kalikula Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Stop reposting this! Neither of you seem into the oral thing... So thats fine... Whatever.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 The only problem I see with this is that he very likely might not be willing to give YOU oral. Has he been? Because if you have experienced that, there is no going back. It will be a dealbreaker if your lover won't do it. If he hasn't given you good, proper oral yet, that is the real tragedy.
Author PerfectImperfection Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 Yes - he has given me oral. He's always keen to do it, that I won't let him anymore, because I feel selfish as I know he will never let me give him it back.
K'aycie Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 Sex isn't something that our relationship is built on, but we do have a quite an active sex life. However, he point blank refuses to receive a BJ. I have been best friends with him nearly all my life, and neither of us have been with anyone else apart from each other, and I know he wouldn't have had a bad experience, because we were each others firsts. So he couldn't have had a bad BJ, because he's never had one, so how come he is so against it?! But whenever I go to initiate it, he'll take my hands in his and distract me with something else. And honestly, I don't particularly even want to give him one, I just don't want him to feel unappreciated for anything. He means the world to me. I have known my boyfriend since I was four years old, and we began going out when we were sixteen, and have been that way for the past six years now. Advice, please :/ Has he ever mentioned why he doesn't desire one? If not, would you feel comfortable enough to ask him? The thing of it is, is that no one here knows why he is against it, but him. If it's something your boyfriend can live without (and based on what you say, it sounds like you don't really mind not doing it either), then it shouldn't be a major deal breaker, unless it becomes overly bothersome for you or for him.
Author PerfectImperfection Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 No, he's never mentioned why, i'll go to ask, and once again, he will distract me by doing something else. I've only ever gotten a 'not now'.
K'aycie Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 No, he's never mentioned why, i'll go to ask, and once again, he will distract me by doing something else. I've only ever gotten a 'not now'. Well if you've asked and he sidebar's it, then maybe that would be a good time to discuss what his reasons might be for it.
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