zerovandez Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 My dating experience has been pretty interesting so far. I've met lots of women online and in the real world. I really haven't met anyone that I thought I have an intimate connection with. So lately, I've met a really nice lady online. She's pretty, goal driven, ambitious, and I think she might be into me. She's given me her personal email and we've emailed back and forth. She also gave me her phone number yesterday! So I called and we chatted which she stated she liked my smile and eyes and thinks I'm really attractive. But..... Recently, while at a family wedding, she was introduced to another man who lives out of state. She expressed that she was interested in him and did talk to him frequently on the phone. The problem is, he's out of state otherwise I think she would've given him the opportunity to date her. She was open and honest about this fact and I'm glad she told me. We haven't met in person yet but there's something there between us. I guess I'm wondering how can I win her over? I'm really interested in her at this point and would be rather hurt if the opportunity wasn't given to me. Thoughts, comments, suggestions?
elow_IN _LOve Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Ask Her out on a date as soon as possiable, and remember you cant control how she feels, Win her over with just Being Who you are.
Author zerovandez Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 I got a date with her on Tuesday! She seemed to be very accepting of my request to meet. We've been talking on the phone for an average of an hour at a time talking about almost nothing. She doesn't seem to take compliments very well either. I just hope the spark is still there in person. I don't think I've ever been this nervous going into a date before. Maybe it's because I think she's way too pretty. We'll see, i guess.....
Sabali Posted August 29, 2010 Posted August 29, 2010 (edited) I got a date with her on Tuesday! She seemed to be very accepting of my request to meet. We've been talking on the phone for an average of an hour at a time talking about almost nothing. She doesn't seem to take compliments very well either. I just hope the spark is still there in person. I don't think I've ever been this nervous going into a date before. Maybe it's because I think she's way too pretty. We'll see, i guess..... I am glad you got off to a good start here. Unfortunately, I believe you kind of destroyed some of your momentum. "We've been talking on the phone for an average of an hour at a time talking about almost nothing." This is a big "no no." Meeting someone new is exciting and you have to take advantage of that excitement and set something up sooner than later that will have you in her presence. Don't spend time yapping on the phone, especially about "almost nothing." Boooorrring... Talk for a few minutes. Set up the date and the next time you speak to her should be at the meeting. Continuously speaking on the phone without meeting up with her is a downhill trek to the friendzone. You see, we men tend to talk too much and we destroy our chances at anything as more crap comes out of our mouth without any real action. So your crap-out-of-mouth to action ratio gets too high and next thing you know you know someone else will catch her eye and you are left with yet another date with Rosey. Stop talking on the phone so much. If you want to talk with her for a prolonged period of time, you really should set something up for you to talk face to face with her. Her being way too pretty means nothing. It's so many ugly guys walking around with drop dead gorgeous women that I don't see why this is ever an issue. It's the quality of the man and his understanding of the woman. Don't worry about it being the first date. I tried online dating for about two weeks and met some really cool women during that time (their cool so far). The coolest woman I met that I still see was my first meeting using this venue. I made a significant blunder on that first meeting but I didn't lose my cool and I think that made a big difference. I don't think you will do what I did and will be good. Whatever you do, just maintain your composure and you will be fine. Also, don't try to squeeze every second out of that first meeting. Try to keep things relatively short. If you two are really really enjoying each other's company, ride it out a bit longer but not to a point where things are anticlimactic. The most important thing is to take it slow but keep it constantly moving. Edited August 29, 2010 by Sabali
Author zerovandez Posted August 29, 2010 Author Posted August 29, 2010 Yeah, I get what you're saying. I mean we don't mean for it to go that long but it just does. I should re word or rephrase "talking about nothing." I meant to say we'd talk about random things and just go on and on. None of it is repetative. But yeah I should cool it. Especially knowing that I highly be just an option or a number 2 to her. I tend to be on the shy side of the spectrum and because of recent events in my life, I've been a little insecure about a couple of things. She's just soo pretty that I think I'm going to kill it for me. Her personality over the phone is so different from the way she looks. She's a really down to earth person and is "real." Thanks for your tips. I'll keep my cool but not too cool, haha! Anyhow, I'll keep this updated.
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