ShadowBlue Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Okay, how do I ask a girl out on a date whose phone number I don't have that I only know online? Do I say "I'd normally ask you in person but I don't have your # so...I wanted to ask you out to dinner..." or is that not good? I saw the online video where the guy needs major help to ask a girl out and his friends help him get about a page of rhetoric down to one line. But the girl says "next time, ask me in person". Well, what if I can't ask a particular girl in person and only know them via online? What then? How do I ask in this situation? I'm still extremely shy and have a very difficult time getting the guts together to ask girls out (yes - I've never been successful - how embarrassing - 30 and never successful at such a simple thing) but there's this girl that I want to ask out and I would like to do it in such a way that saves me the embarrassment if she declines or worse doesn't even respond (which is always the case). I don't even want to go into my last embarrassing failure at this.
Lost Fish Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 Shadow, this is easy. Accept that she might say no and go for it. Or better yet - ask for her number! Then you can talk a bit and kind of feel if she'd say yes to you or not. Get her away from the online chat and get into her ear. The only way to get better at asking girls out is to ask a lot of them out, lol. Accept that not everyone is compatible dude. You will actually find that you get more confident the more you do it. It's like when I first was learning the trombone. I wasn't very good so I didn't play loud at all. Finally an upper classman told me I wasn't being a true brass player - and he said "even if you make mistakes, make them gloriously." So I started playing louder and sucking, but also got encouragement for at least using my true breath support. Then I found confidence and got my act together and practiced and improved a ton, and soon found myself first chair with a nice college scholarship to boot. A long-winded analogy maybe , but it's true. Accept that she might say no. But no matter what she says you will be a better person for having asked her. But for now just get her on the phone first. Good luck man and let us know what happens.
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