emely Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 hey guys!Hope you're good! A question, is it ok for your S.O to be commenting other chicks/guys and how hot they are, among their friends(not when you're there). I'm in a very good 2 year relationship, ofcourse ups and downs like everyone else but pretty much really good! We want to get married sometime in the future etc and I'm convinced he wouldn't cheat. BUT...I borrowed his phone and saw a text to a firend saying "I'm just saying one thing, Twins" and I've seen some other stuff like it, it's not often but still... I know I can comment on a good looking guy when im out with my friends but it wouldn't be like that? More subtle.. I don't know, what do you think???
AverageJoe Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I hate to break it to you. Men do this. Just because he is with you does not mean his mental penis just falls off.
Author emely Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 lovely!!! I knew there was something wrong with men...lol...just joking, yeah pok thanks for your answer!!! so nothing to worry about?
EYECANDY000 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 have you let him know that you are uncomfortable with him making comments aloud? and you stated that the relationship is good, but why do you feel the need to look through his phone?
AverageJoe Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 have you let him know that you are uncomfortable with him making comments aloud? and you stated that the relationship is good, but why do you feel the need to look through his phone? Hmm I didnt read it as him talking about it out loud, or in her presence.
Author emely Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 No nothing in my prescence or out loud, what I know anyway... I wasnt going through his phone, I sent a text from it and saw this message then.. teah maybe should say something but then I know guys need a bit of space and stuff, or is that just BS?? He literally spends all his free time with me(we live together) he doesn't really wanna go out if i'm not coming etc..
AverageJoe Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I know guys need a bit of space and stuff, or is that just BS?? No bs, its true, and thanks for clarifying. No worries, you will be fine.
Author emely Posted August 27, 2010 Author Posted August 27, 2010 ok thanks Average Joe and all you other!!
Imajerk17 Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 You'd be better off not looking at his phone. Seriously, checking his texts is an invasion of privacy. When I was in a relationship I noticed other women. I never cheated and never would, but I did notice.
that girl Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I think the texting is a little much, but I'm guessing you're college aged or younger. Everyone notices other people, casually talking about how someone is hot among friends isn't a big deal.
Author emely Posted August 27, 2010 Author Posted August 27, 2010 well "that girl" no we're way older than college!! But I se what you mean, i think it's a very childish behavior as well!! so what do you think?
Author emely Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 soo quick update.. I talked to my BF, he had noticed I was behaving abit stand offish so we talked. And I told him I had seen the text, that I didin't like it, thought it was childish and disrespectful etc... And he became very regretful, said he didin't mean anything by it, just a way to get it out of his head, he was just texting one friend that he knows wouldn't read anything in to it etc...And he said we won't do it again, I told him that if this is something u have to do to "get it out of his systme" as he said, then he should. But he said no he didn't want me to feel he disrespects me and so on so on..so all good! The only thing I'm thinking about though is that it is not until getting caught he will change, What's wrong with guys? I'm pretty sure he wouldn't just stop if I hadn't seen the text? Well anyway!Thanks for listening!!/ neurotic girlfriend
AverageJoe Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 The only thing I'm thinking about though is that it is not until getting caught he will change, What's wrong with guys? I'm pretty sure he wouldn't just stop if I hadn't seen the text? Change? What do you mean by that? I am willing to bet there was nothing wrong with him until he met you. Now he just has to hide it from you more. Such a shame.
Author emely Posted August 28, 2010 Author Posted August 28, 2010 well he said as well he thought it was immature and couldn't really explain why and that it didn't mean anything and so on..sorry, what I wrote came out wrong, i don't want to change who he is, hence i told him that if this is something he needs to do..then do it...I should still be able to tell him what I think... I love my BF and weve been together 2 years and this is one of the few issues we've had, so he's a great guy, please don't misunderstand me! What I'm saying is when you know something is not really right that you're doing(not speaking only about guys) Why is it just when you get caught you change?
AverageJoe Posted August 28, 2010 Posted August 28, 2010 well he said as well he thought it was immature and couldn't really explain why and that it didn't mean anything and so on..sorry, what I wrote came out wrong, i don't want to change who he is, hence i told him that if this is something he needs to do..then do it...I should still be able to tell him what I think... I love my BF and weve been together 2 years and this is one of the few issues we've had, so he's a great guy, please don't misunderstand me! What I'm saying is when you know something is not really right that you're doing(not speaking only about guys) Why is it just when you get caught you change? Its your issue, not his. He didnt have this problem before you. He got caught being a man. Now he is tucking his little head between his knees to avoid your bitching about it.
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