Ilovehim Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 (edited) I have always been a little jealous in relationships but it has always been an acceptable amount of jealousy. Lately I feel like I'm going crazy, not only because I get jealous but because when I do, it consumes me. I'm at work thinking about this and it's become like an obsession or an OCD where I just can't let it go and it's hurting me. The weird thing is that I am jealous of women who look like me IF they are around my boyfriend. I am petite but have curves, have olive skin and long dark hair and if I see a girl who has the same things as me and she is near my boyfriend talking to him, I feel sooo jealous. He is a faithful, wonderful man and makes me feel like the most beautiful, amazing girl to walk this Earth and I find myself confident so I really don't understand my jealousy. It's gotten to a point where if an attractive girl is in fron of my boyfriend or has any type of contact or communication with him, I go crazy. It's almost like I want to be the only pretty girl in the world, at least in my boyfriend's eyes. And I feel so guilty talking like this because my boyfriend constantly makes me feel beautiful and so do other people but I don't know what is going on with me. I get soooo hurt at the thought that he could find some other girl pretty or even worse prettier than me. He has never given me reason to be jealous, on the contrary I should feel extremely secure of his feeling.. And I do. I also know the way I am thinking is unrealistic because there will be people that are pretty, it means nothing.. Also please don't judge me or think I'm some conceited girl. This way of thinking is really hurting me and I want some advice to how I can change this because I was never like this before. Also I know this may sound like a shallow post but it's not.. I really am consumed l& hurt by this to the point where I even cry about it sometimes. Edited August 26, 2010 by Ilovehim
stargirlxo Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 I'm so sorry, It sounds like your having a horrible time This is a serious problem and you need to visit a therapist or counsellor to sort it out. I wish you the best.
Cracker Jack Posted August 27, 2010 Posted August 27, 2010 If you continue with this destructive outlook, you'll likely lose your man. Time to stop worrying about others and focus on yourself. You can't control how others look, only yourself. If he's as faithful and great as you believe, where and why does your jealousy arise so much? Past issues with boyfriends? Or something else?
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