The Crown Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Some background so the first date we went out for drinks and dinner and ended up talking for hours after dinner and seemed to hit off. After wards the follow up texts were all positive and flirty. The next week I did not see her because she has 2 jobs and was really busy and our schedules did not mesh. She then informed me she was going on vacation for a week but def wanted to see me when she returned. She seemed enthusiastic. I texted her when she got back and she responded promptly and agreed to see me on Sunday (the 1st full day she was home from vacation). I picked her up and we went out for lunch and drinks and had great conversation and things were flowing nicely. I go to drop her off and as we are saying our goodbyes and we end up kissing on the lips quickly as she was getting out of the car. She says she had a great time and to call her cause she had off tuesday and wednesday. I text her tuesday and she says she has a lot of errands to run for her new job (this is true she starts monday) and dinner for her brothers birthday (which is also true) she says she will try and finish up early to see me. I respond by trying to play it cool and I say don't worry about it lets just go out next time you're free no worries. She responds "ok :)". I have a good feeling she likes me I have not really caught any negative vibes. First 2 dates went well. I need to have a perfect 3rd date planned where we can be more intimate and at least "hook up", i really like this girl she is great and I want to have a natural progression. I want to take the next step. She lives like over an hour from me so unless its the weekend it may not be realistic for her to come over my place. First date we met halfway and second date i picked her up since i was coming from a friends house near her area. I can't just have repeats where we just go out to eat and it ends. I have not had the chance to really be intimate without coming on toooo strong. I probably could have hooked up with her when I dropped her off but it was a small window for me. My question is what would be a good third date to progress things given the first 2 dates were just restaurants. My goal is to make an advancement to send the message that I want to take things further. Please all ideas and feedback are appreciated.
refurb Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Do something fun. What does she like do? Go wander around a museum or go to some place that has live music or do some fun outdoor activity. However, you state you want the date to progress "naturally", but then you want to make sure you "hook up". Those two don't really jive. Either you want things to happen naturally or you don't. My best advice would be to setup something fun, but keep it casual and show her some obvious signs of affection. If you're both into each other, it should all work itself out. RF
reservoirdog1 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 My third date suggestion would definitely be dinner at your place, long drive be damned. You've already seen her twice and she's been enthusiastic and flirty, so she's probably decided that you're not a creep or an axe murderer or anything in between. Which means that she'll probably say yes to that. Arrange the start time early enough so that she doesn't have to rush off after two hours in order to get home. And, while being a good host, do your best not to be seen to be plying her with booze so that she won't be able to drive. Play it cool. Don't expect anything physical to happen beyond making out, and don't push things in that direction... but if they go that way on their own, great. Sounds like things are off to a promising start, mang. Rock on!
AverageJoe Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 My third date suggestion would definitely be dinner at your place, long drive be damned. You've already seen her twice and she's been enthusiastic and flirty, so she's probably decided that you're not a creep or an axe murderer or anything in between. Which means that she'll probably say yes to that. I agree with this, with the exception of one caveat. Go to her place. You dont know this woman at all. If she turns out unknowingly to be bat **** crazy, do you really want her knowing where you live? Be smart.
FL Lady Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Anyone???? American woman (lady) here. Take it slow. She is being measured in her responses to you. You do the same. Guard your heart. Be slow. Plan a typical dinner date. Keep talking. Something tells me she has a plan B.
skydiveaddict Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I meant to say ''best" date ever, go for it. dinner is boring
agt2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I agree with the guy above..u don't know if she is a clinger so you don't want her knowing where you live just yet...push to end up at her place...she will be more comfortable in her own place too which gives you much better odds of hooking up
Author The Crown Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Thanks all the input is appreciated. If I contacted her on Tuesday (I did this because she seemed like she was inviting me to do so) when would a good time be to set something up without coming off as desperate on one hand and not wait too long where it looks like I could take her or leave her and shes not important on the other hand?
Raderick Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Take her skydiving. beat date ever. What the skydiver said.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 I need to have a perfect 3rd date planned where we can be more intimate and at least "hook up", i really like this girl she is great and I want to have a natural progression. If you want a "natural' progression then let it happen "naturally" I can't just have repeats where we just go out to eat and it ends. I have not had the chance to really be intimate without coming on toooo strong. I probably could have hooked up with her when I dropped her off but it was a small window for me. Really why not this is only your 3rd date not your 3rd month seeing each other? . Why the rush to "hook up"? if things are going well let them keep going that way why put a time line on dating? When the times right and it feels natural it will happen soon enough. She def sounds interested so thats good I mean you have already kissed to there has been physical contact so you know their is attraction why the need to rush into sex so soon?
meerkat stew Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Go to her place. Excellent advice. Take it slow. She is being measured in her responses to you. You do the same. Also great advice, and I will extend it by saying this one may not be ready for the "hookup" date yet. You will know she is when she starts looking at you like a meal. Until then, don't assume, especially with the distance involved. Pressure kills more things at this stage than most anything.
kalikula Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Nothing wrong with wanting to make out a little... Either offer to cook her dinner at your place and watch a movie afterward, or do something fun and then suggest going to your place to watch a movie.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Nothing wrong with wanting to make out a little... Either offer to cook her dinner at your place and watch a movie afterward, or do something fun and then suggest going to your place to watch a movie. If I read "hook up" the wrong way I apologize to me it means sex if that wasn't the ops intention then sorry op I meant why rush into sex so soon makeing out is different.
CLC2008 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 You will know she is when she starts looking at you like a meal. lol, what does that look like exactly?
meerkat stew Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 lol, what does that look like exactly? This is a good question, and could clear up lots of the "does she like me in that way" threads. Have found that women who are sexually attracted look at me differently than others. Their eyes are opened slightly wider, pupils slightly more dilated, the eyes may be a little bit glassy. Overall a very attentive look in the eyes, a stare even, and their eyes will follow my movements more closely and won't be looking around the room or at others. The muscles in the lower face are slack as opposed to tight, their mouth may hang open just a bit, their lips may be slightly protruded. Interestingly, they are usually not smiling a big smile or showing teeth during this look. They lick their lips and swallow more than usual, maybe due to salivating more. Their face is slightly flushed OR slightly drained of blood, have seen both ways. It looks like a dog waiting for it's supper, and so the PUAs call it "DDBL" "Doggie dinner bowl look." If guys would strive to get this reaction and wait for this look before pressing physically, even with GFs or wives, what happens next will generally be much better for both IMO.
CLC2008 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 This is a good question, and could clear up lots of the "does she like me in that way" threads. Have found that women who are sexually attracted look at me differently than others. Their eyes are opened slightly wider, pupils slightly more dilated, the eyes may be a little bit glassy. Overall a very attentive look in the eyes, a stare even, and their eyes will follow my movements more closely and won't be looking around the room or at others. The muscles in the lower face are slack as opposed to tight, their mouth may hang open just a bit, their lips may be slightly protruded. Interestingly, they are usually not smiling a big smile or showing teeth during this look. They lick their lips and swallow more than usual, maybe due to salivating more. Their face is slightly flushed OR slightly drained of blood, have seen both ways. It looks like a dog waiting for it's supper, and so the PUAs call it "DDBL" "Doggie dinner bowl look." If guys would strive to get this reaction and wait for this look before pressing physically, even with GFs or wives, what happens next will generally be much better for both IMO. That's a substantial amount of information just for someone's facial expression, but, I didn't realize there was an actual abbreviation/term for it...
NYCmitch25 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Hey, why don't you do some research and figure out what interesting things there are in the area ? Somthing you can do in the area that you both might really like? Trail hiking would be cool, maybe get a chance to stop in a semi-private and romantic spot and give her a hug, if you are lucky a kiss. Also like what other people have said, it's probably easier and safer to take it slow. Good luck, let us know who you "make out" :-P
Author The Crown Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 So whats the verdict from everyone for a good third date? And when should I call (I talked to her on Tuesday) don't want to come off as desperate or on the flip side uninterested? Thanks PS love the facial description lol
meerkat stew Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 That's a substantial amount of information just for someone's facial expression, but, I didn't realize there was an actual abbreviation/term for it... I had forgotten the term, but dug it up as recall reading it a few years ago. Google it for some of the amusing PUA ebusiness sites. OP, get on citysearch or cityscape net sites, can't remember the exact term, or get ahold of a free paper in your area. Cram full of interesting cheap date ideas.
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