LoveLace Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Reads: "I want a woman I'm SO attracted to that I can't stop thinking about her day and night, and makes me feel like the world doesn't even exist" Seriously?!! And men wonder why us women think that attraction is all that matters to them!! This is what makes me think a man will NOT fall in love with me unless I'm the most beautiful thing he's ever seen on earth. And this guy is in his 40s, attractive, and successful (as it appears), so I couldn't say he's a young and inexperienced fella that doesn't know reality of the world. Just saying, this man is representative of the reasons why I have moments of thinking men are scum and all they care about is looks. This man is the kind that makes the rest of ya look bad. This makes it seem that it doesn't matter if I'm very cute, or just pretty, oh no I have to be a Goddess of all Goddesses, or a good looking successful guy would never fall in love with me. This is just entirely frustrating and majorly unfair...
Shakz Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Reads: "I want a woman I'm SO attracted to that I can't stop thinking about her day and night, and makes me feel like the world doesn't even exist" What is it about this statement that gives you the impression he's only talking about physical attractiveness?
meerkat stew Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 You probably haven't read many female profiles, but assure you lots of them say things like "I have it all and want it all in a man," "I want to feel butterflies everytime I see him," so yes it's ridiculous and telling, but more a general flaw in the dating pool than a specific "looks" thing that men have.
JohnnyBlaze Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Shakz is right; there's more to it than just looks. Yes, initial attraction is about looks, but if there isn't anything else than just looks, the attraction will die off quickly enough. Sadly, I know exactly what he's looking for. I say "sadly", because the one I found currently has a boyfriend (one that isn't me). I don't think she's perfect; I know she's far from it. She may not be the greatest woman in the world, but she's the greatest woman in my world. That's what the guy is looking for; that one girl who, just merely thinking about her makes him grin like an idiot. And believe me, it takes a lot more than just a cute butt or a push-up bra to elicit that response.
Author LoveLace Posted August 25, 2010 Author Posted August 25, 2010 What is it about this statement that gives you the impression he's only talking about physical attractiveness? It sounds like all he cares about is looks. That was ALL he said, not a darn thing else to describe what his interests or what he'd like a mate's interests to be...so to me it sounds like all he cares about is looks.
TheLoneSock Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Reads: "I want a woman I'm SO attracted to that I can't stop thinking about her day and night, and makes me feel like the world doesn't even exist" Seriously?!! And men wonder why us women think that attraction is all that matters to them!! Umm, it is all that matters - in all it's forms. What Shaks said. Also, he says he wants a woman he's "SO attracted to", not "I want a woman who is SO hott...". Slighted much? Even if you aren't what he's looking for physically why does it matter? Just move forward.
phineas Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Why did you spend more than 10 seconds looking at his profile? Some women have very similar profiles too. Lots of women put in they need to be psyically attracted to a man or no dice on their profiles. I don't get it though because it's stateing the obvious. Unless some people think because they signed up their entitled to date the hottest people on the site reguardless of how they look?
Cee Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 I read the guy's profile differently. I would've nixed that guy for being too sappy & romantic... so attracted to a woman that the "world doesn't exist." That sounds like a teenage, emo girl or boy writing, not a grown man. I am completely grossed out by romance cliches in profiles. I am more drawn to critical thinking, sharp humor, and skepticism. I'm not the type to gaze into my beloved's eyes until time stands still & then have us "make love." I realize my comments are off topic, but thank you for letting me rant.
Cracker Jack Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 It's not nice to generalize based on a random profile you happen to not like.
2sunny Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 LL - have you ever considered that attractive to one person leave loads of room for interpretation? why are you taking this personally? attractiveness is totally subjective. the guy sounds very immature in his expectations... this may have nothing to do with you and everything to do with him...
sagetalk Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Reads: "I want a woman I'm SO attracted to that I can't stop thinking about her day and night, and makes me feel like the world doesn't even exist" Who wouldn't want that? He sounds like an intelligent guy to me. Attraction isn't always physical, there are many other ways to attract someone. The only thing wrong here is your low self esteem. What he said is what I hope for everyone that is looking for someone. Who would want anything else?
lab_brat Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Reads: "I want a woman I'm SO attracted to that I can't stop thinking about her day and night, and makes me feel like the world doesn't even exist" Thats what i want in a relationship - that insanely strong sense of physical attraction. Doesnt mean they have to be be traditionally gorgeous, most of the guys i've dated haven't been technically good looking at all (really, one bore a more-than-passing-resemblance to shrek)- but theres this spark there, this chemistry, might be the way they smell, or the way they touch you, or just the way the two of you fit perfectly together during sex, and all you want to do is touch them and be with them and around them. I've only felt that way in two relationships, and neither of them worked out, but its definitely what i'm looking for in an LTR...
2sunny Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Who wouldn't want that? He sounds like an intelligent guy to me. Attraction isn't always physical, there are many other ways to attract someone. The only thing wrong here is your low self esteem. What he said is what I hope for everyone that is looking for someone. Who would want anything else? well - i prefer a man that has more balance than that. who wants a man to think of me while he's pooping, exercising, or washing his car, reading a good book, playing with his kids? i want HIM to be interested in life enough that he is busy and productive. IF he has enough outside interests - he thinks of a ton of other things during the course of his day besides me. IF he is thinking of me - it's always nice to have him reach out and allow me to understand that - but not 24/7 - that would just be too stifling and completely out of balance.
Author LoveLace Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 well - i prefer a man that has more balance than that. who wants a man to think of me while he's pooping, exercising, or washing his car, reading a good book, playing with his kids? i want HIM to be interested in life enough that he is busy and productive. IF he has enough outside interests - he thinks of a ton of other things during the course of his day besides me. IF he is thinking of me - it's always nice to have him reach out and allow me to understand that - but not 24/7 - that would just be too stifling and completely out of balance. I agree with that. I want someone who thinks about me plenty of course, but revolving everything about his world around me would be way too smothering. So guess I wouldn't want the guy anyway And I didn't see his profile for longer than 10 seconds, because it only took about 5 seconds to read that one sentence...and after reading it, it bothered me. And actually, he's only stating the obvious of what anybody wants eventually...duh...guess I'd rather see him put effort into describing himself for his profile, the deep stuff comes later...way later... And yes everyone needs SOME physical attraction to go out with with another, of course, but I would never put in my profile something like "I need a VERY very attractive man"...wouldn't you either think I was conceited or aiming too high? That's why my profile just says, "I do need to feel some attraction to get things off the ground but I think this is true for anyone"....instead of saying look, I want the Cinderella fairy tale people!
2sunny Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 you know what's interesting and funny - even ugly people perceive themselves as attractive... and say so in many profiles. what's with that? are they so used to looking at themselves that they think that is the baseline of attractive? i don't get it when ugly people think they are truly attractive... someone enlighten me on this one.
Author LoveLace Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 you know what's interesting and funny - even ugly people perceive themselves as attractive... and say so in many profiles. what's with that? are they so used to looking at themselves that they think that is the baseline of attractive? i don't get it when ugly people think they are truly attractive... someone enlighten me on this one. Gosh. The other day I saw photos of a such a skinny, shy, nerdy lookin' guy that I felt sorry for him. I thought to myself, oh this poor dude is probably the sweetest thing ever, but so pathetic looking...if I dated people I feel sorry for, he'd the pick. Lol. But I don't know he rated himself...I personally do not advertise myself as "attractive"...I stick with "average" because that's how I see it. I stick to just describing my personality, and leave my opinion of my own looks out of it. the photos are all we need aren't they? If someone will claim they are "attractive" then you know they are confident (or pretending to be) but that doesn't mean it's true...LOL Why I don't use "above average" because who's out there, "Who is this chick thinkin' she's above average!! Ew!"...my way says well at least she isn't stuck on herself...
Woggle Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Do you honestly think that women are any better?
Author LoveLace Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Do you honestly think that women are any better? Nope from what guys tell me some of the women are pretty bad too.
PJKino Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 (edited) Theres a few threads on here of women saying there only attracted to extremely hot Men and they are coddled in their posts yet a Man rights a vague profile and hes a pig? Women are just as shallow if not more then Men but Men get mroe **** for it for some reason.. Edited August 26, 2010 by PJKino
Author LoveLace Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Theres a few threads on here of women saying there only attracted to extremely hot Men and they are coddled in their posts yet a Man rights a vague profile and hes a pig? Women are just as shallow if not more then Men but Men get mroe **** for it for some reason.. I've never said that women there are not shallow too because I'm sure they are. It's only how I interpreted 1 profile and how it made me feel. So obviously the guy isn't for me and that's that..others might be turned on by it and that's their right, but it didn't do that for me...and that's my right...enough said.
hydorclops Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 you know what's interesting and funny - even ugly people perceive themselves as attractive... and say so in many profiles. what's with that? are they so used to looking at themselves that they think that is the baseline of attractive? i don't get it when ugly people think they are truly attractive... someone enlighten me on this oneSo if you think ugly people are funny, because they think they are attractive, then you think that you're not ugly - that you're attractive. But if you think you're attractive, and ugly people think they're attractive, how can you be sure that you're not ugly?
NYCmitch25 Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Reads: "I want a woman I'm SO attracted to that I can't stop thinking about her day and night, and makes me feel like the world doesn't even exist" Seriously?!! And men wonder why us women think that attraction is all that matters to them!! ........ <snip>. Perhaps he's mincing his words? Maybe he meant more than just physical attraction ? Like soul mates or something to that effect?
Author LoveLace Posted August 27, 2010 Author Posted August 27, 2010 Perhaps he's mincing his words? Maybe he meant more than just physical attraction ? Like soul mates or something to that effect? Very well could be, but that was not how I took it....oh well, if other women take the other way he can have them... Hydorclops LOL:laugh:
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