counterman Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 How would you approach a group situation? Today, I saw this cute girl I wanted to talk to BUT she was with 6 other friends, 5 of which were girls and 1 guy. I'm okay with a girl and her friend, but when it comes to these bigger groups, it's really put yourself out there.
USMCHokie Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 Do you know anyone in the group? If yes, then I'd approach the person I knew and slowly introduce myself to the group... If no, I'd move along...
Green Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 If it was a group of people in the middle of the day at a park or what ever i wouldn't imagine it was that hard. I would say just approach and make a show out of it. Try to win the friends over so that they don't act as cock blocks. Then instead of asking her out infront of the group, ask her for a moment of her time and bring her around the corner or slightly out of hearing distance of the group. Then just cut to the chase. "I want to take you to dinner tonight at 7..." just name a time and place and then whether she says yes or no get her contact info. A lot of girls who are single really want to get asked out. So if you see a pretty girl who really catchs your eyes might as well ask her out no matter what the situation. Also a group of 6 people at a house party would be very easy to approach... a group of 6 people eating lunch at a table would be more difficult... but really if it was me I would just do it. My gf was in a group of about 4 people all of whom I didn't know... but I just approached because it was a casual environment. Also if it was a more difficult environment you may have to resort to staring at the girl then waving her over to you when your eyes meet. You could then say "I only waived you over because I didn't want to invite you to dinner with the audience" Just TRY SOMETHING really you have nothing to lose. Being yourself is key, the version of yourself without fear. I can tell that you wanted to talk to this girl but you psyched yourself out of it.
Author counterman Posted August 26, 2010 Author Posted August 26, 2010 Do you know anyone in the group? If yes, then I'd approach the person I knew and slowly introduce myself to the group... If no, I'd move along... Nope, I didn't know anyone in the group. For the ones where I knew one person, I have introduced myself before. It was much easier and pretty comfortable. But, in front of 7 strangers? All of whom seemed to be in the middle of a group conversation? I was hesitant. If it was a group of people in the middle of the day at a park or what ever i wouldn't imagine it was that hard. I would say just approach and make a show out of it. Try to win the friends over so that they don't act as cock blocks. Then instead of asking her out infront of the group, ask her for a moment of her time and bring her around the corner or slightly out of hearing distance of the group. Then just cut to the chase. "I want to take you to dinner tonight at 7..." just name a time and place and then whether she says yes or no get her contact info. A lot of girls who are single really want to get asked out. So if you see a pretty girl who really catchs your eyes might as well ask her out no matter what the situation. Also a group of 6 people at a house party would be very easy to approach... a group of 6 people eating lunch at a table would be more difficult... but really if it was me I would just do it. My gf was in a group of about 4 people all of whom I didn't know... but I just approached because it was a casual environment. Also if it was a more difficult environment you may have to resort to staring at the girl then waving her over to you when your eyes meet. You could then say "I only waived you over because I didn't want to invite you to dinner with the audience" Just TRY SOMETHING really you have nothing to lose. Being yourself is key, the version of yourself without fear. I can tell that you wanted to talk to this girl but you psyched yourself out of it. That's the thing, I was really psyched out. Mainly because my friends were around. I did really want to talk to her and was sort of kicking myself afterwards. There hasn't been a girl who has caught my eye like that for a little while. They were at lunch and all seemed to be laughing and having a group moment. Probably still casual though. You're right, I was a bit nervous and I faltered, instead of just going for it. What do I have to lose? All that matters is if she's single or not.
Green Posted August 26, 2010 Posted August 26, 2010 Nope, I didn't know anyone in the group. For the ones where I knew one person, I have introduced myself before. It was much easier and pretty comfortable. But, in front of 7 strangers? All of whom seemed to be in the middle of a group conversation? I was hesitant. That's the thing, I was really psyched out. Mainly because my friends were around. I did really want to talk to her and was sort of kicking myself afterwards. There hasn't been a girl who has caught my eye like that for a little while. They were at lunch and all seemed to be laughing and having a group moment. Probably still casual though. You're right, I was a bit nervous and I faltered, instead of just going for it. What do I have to lose? All that matters is if she's single or not. You just have to DO IT. Like I said my gf was in a group of people but I just went foward and invited her to a party. She then just offered up her phone number to me even though she didn't really give me an answer on the party. She actualy didn't end up coming to the party but we kept in contact and began dating. the rest is history. So next time you see a girl you like more then any girl you've seen in a long time... just try something... you will be suprised at how easy... or how imposible it will be... but you never know till you try.
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