Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Would you befriend a female friend of a friend you never met if you weren't interested in her physically and/or romantically?
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Would you befriend a female friend of a friend you never met if you weren't interested in her physically and/or romantically? I would never befriend anyone on FB who I've never met.
Author Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Ok well thanks for taking the time to type out your completely inapplicable input.
jadedone Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Not likely. Unless I actually just wanted access to your wall or photos to stalk someone else like he friend in common.
jadedone Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Ok well thanks for taking the time to type out your completely inapplicable input. In fairness I thought his reply was pretty relevant.
Author Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Not likely. Unless I actually just wanted access to your wall or photos to stalk someone else like he friend in common. Ah I didn't think of the “middleman” scenario, good one. Thanks
Author Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 In fairness I thought his reply was pretty relevant. How? Knowing whether he asks stranger to be his friends or not has absolutely zero relevance to what I asked.
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 In fairness I thought his reply was pretty relevant. Well, the thing is that OP posted a disguised question using ambiguous terms...I'll speculate as to what she actually meant to say: This guy, whom I've never met but is a friend of one of my friends, recently befriended me on Facebook. Do you think it means he wants to date me? If OP had just asked that to begin with, then she'd get what she'd consider a "relevant" response. So to be more "relevant," I'd say he's interested...at least based on physical attraction...
jadedone Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 How? Knowing whether he asks stranger to be his friends or not has absolutely zero relevance to what I asked. It implies that there is likely an ulterior motive, and it's not normal to befriend someone you haven't met.
GorillaTheater Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Ok well thanks for taking the time to type out your completely inapplicable input. I wouldn't "friend" anyone grouchier than me.
Mad Max Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 If were about to meet or if I went to school but didn't actually talk to her, I would add her. I don't have to be interested in a girl to add her.
dispatch3d Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Would you befriend a female friend of a friend you never met if you weren't interested in her physically and/or romantically? The only time I did this was when one of my female friends really talked up one of her friends so I added her considering I may invite her to stuff. I never did and probably wouldn't do this again.
Author Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Well, the thing is that OP posted a disguised question using ambiguous terms...I'll speculate as to what she actually meant to say: This guy, whom I've never met but is a friend of one of my friends, recently befriended me on Facebook. Do you think it means he wants to date me? If OP had just asked that to begin with, then she'd get what she'd consider a "relevant" response. So to be more "relevant," I'd say he's interested...at least based on physical attraction... Does it really matter how my question was worded? I mean you could have come here and reworded your underhanded comment to simply read: "I feel I need to assert myself by making a belittling statement due to the fact that I'm better than you because unlike you I don't cruise facebook to meet girls. It also gives me a chance to talk about myself." See it's not how you word it it's what you say. The reason I asked my question in the way that I did is because I was trying to keep short and to the point. Yes someone befriended me on facebook and is quite active on my page yet gives me every indication that he is in fact not interested in me. I tried to see what the reason for that could be but didn’t feel it was necessary to go into the whole background story.
northstar1 Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Hard to say..........are you hoping he is interested in you? Just the fact that Facebook has become such an ingrained device in how we live our lives and interact with other people makes me sad. I look forward to the day people knew how to live each day without clicking a 'like' button or letting their 476 virtual friends know they just watched Bachelor Pad.
USMCHokie Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Does it really matter how my question was worded? I mean you could have come here and reworded your underhanded comment to simply read: "I feel I need to assert myself by making a belittling statement due to the fact that I'm better than you because unlike you I don't cruise facebook to meet girls. It also gives me a chance to talk about myself." Yep, there was definitely some underhandedness in my comment at the time I wrote it, but it was necessarily not directed at you specifically...more towards society's fascination with the frivolities of Facebook...
meerkat stew Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I feel I need to assert myself by making a belittling statement due to the fact that I'm better than you because unlike you I don't cruise facebook to meet girls. It also gives me a chance to talk about myself. Seriously, to the topic question, I have done that and would. If she assumed I was interested and I wasn't NBD with that either. I'm old though and don't place the same emphasis on social networking sites as younger folks seem to.
Author Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Hi Northstar1 I was hoping he liked me, he’s super cute and has a lot of things in common with me, but that was a month a go. Now I’m just trying to figure out if he’s a weirdo. We’re both going to see said mutual friend’s band this weekend (he own the label that put out my friend’s record, I’m just there as a supportive friend) which would be the first time I meet him but I’m not so sure I even want to say hi. We didn't discuss meeting there I just know he'll be there. Like I said he is extremely active on my page always posting pictures and videos of music we both like or just clicking like under everything I post but refuses to have an actual conversation with me outside of one or two sentences. This has been going on for quite a while so I have no idea what his deal is. I would think if he wasn’t interested he would stop posting stuff on my page every day. It’s like he tries to get my attention but if I say so much as hello he disappears. Oh and he's extremely tall so there is no way I can go to this show and say I didn't see him so that's why I didn't say hi. Of course he could also ignore me and say he didn't see me but I'm fairly tall and have bright red hair so he's not really going to miss me.
Author Ilovecake Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Yep, there was definitely some underhandedness in my comment at the time I wrote it, but it was necessarily not directed at you specifically...more towards society's fascination with the frivolities of Facebook... That's OK. At least you can own up. I don't use internet dating sites so when people start threads about internet dating I usually don't respond as I have nothing of value to add. I guess if I didn't use facebook I probably wouldn't type in those threads either.
witabix Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Would you befriend a female friend of a friend you never met if you weren't interested in her physically and/or romantically? No I wouldn't. Even if I were 'interested' I would wait to meet her in person, and if Facebook came up, well that is possibly a way to make a connection. But I find his behaviour slightly weird the way you describe it.
northstar1 Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 Hi Northstar1 I was hoping he liked me, he’s super cute and has a lot of things in common with me, but that was a month a go. Now I’m just trying to figure out if he’s a weirdo. We’re both going to see said mutual friend’s band this weekend (he own the label that put out my friend’s record, I’m just there as a supportive friend) which would be the first time I meet him but I’m not so sure I even want to say hi. We didn't discuss meeting there I just know he'll be there. Like I said he is extremely active on my page always posting pictures and videos of music we both like or just clicking like under everything I post but refuses to have an actual conversation with me outside of one or two sentences. This has been going on for quite a while so I have no idea what his deal is. I would think if he wasn’t interested he would stop posting stuff on my page every day. It’s like he tries to get my attention but if I say so much as hello he disappears. Oh and he's extremely tall so there is no way I can go to this show and say I didn't see him so that's why I didn't say hi. Of course he could also ignore me and say he didn't see me but I'm fairly tall and have bright red hair so he's not really going to miss me. Well, social network sites dont' always lend themselves to very meaningful or deep conversations. People get used to short exchanges/notes. So hard to gauge his interest level purely from his correspondence from your page. Why not just approach him at the show and chat about mutual bands you like etc. Keep it very casual, like you would anyone you share interests with. You'll probably get an idea if he's interested based on your in person chemistry and chat and go from there. If you feel a good vibe from the chat, then you can always send him a note on FB about the show and hopefully open up some ongoing dialogue Good luck!
Eclypse Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 I did it once, except it was my friends younger sister, who I'd never talked to before. Yes I did have intention of dating her as she was super hot. I was a bit scared to talk to her directly, so like this guy I guess. We began talking in school soon after though, and we never worked out.. lol. How old is this guy? I was like 17 and I'd never add someone on fb to try and date them now. Oh wait that's how me and my gf began dating. Except we knew each other for a few years but never talked till I added her hehehe.
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