dating and Weed

[elow_IN _LOve]

Hi All,

I just starting dating after a 10 year marriage.

I enjoy smoking weed, I've meet some great woman out there.

When do you think its a good time to tell these girls that i light up.

And ladies out there, do you think its a big deal, if the guy your dating smokes weed?

any other thought would be great.

Thanks All

[meerkat stew]

Never, unless she is an open and notorious pot user herself.

 

One of my best friends who had tons of experience dating before he married believes that women he dated routinely entrap men into drug use merely for the purpose of nixing or judging them. I used to laugh at him until it happened to me twice.

 

Keep weed use private until you have been married 50 years, then maybe let them know.

[USMCHokie]

Insta-LAUNCH for me...but to each their own...and I'm a guy...

[that girl]

You don't tell them on the first or second date, but you don't wait until you're several months in either.

 

At some point, it should somewhat naturally come up since I'm guessing this is a significant free time activity for you.

 

Yes, some women will stop dating you because of it. But really what is the point of dating someone who cannot stand a habit you are very attached to? It just isn't going to work.

[Feelin Frisky]

I'm not a pot head but I'm not a brick wall against it. I let a woman reveal her attitudes toward it. If she likes to smoke, I might have a hit or two at most when we're getting busy--it can make deep kissing and sex well, deeper. But it can backfire socially--on my first date with this real hottie who was in my class in night school where we dressed up and went to a Halloween party, two tokes after the party at my place and her first name just totally vanished from my short-term memory. I got nailed and she had to tell me "it's Donna". Ugh. How embarassking! Didn't stop her from offering me a HJ though. So, I guess damage was contained. I don't dig the self-consciousness weed sometimes brings on. Don't have any. Don't want any. But I guess I can be had.

[donnamaybe]

I'm not a pot head either, but I do enjoy a little from time to time. I've seen what too much pot can do, however. Bring on a lackadaisical attitude toward, well, nearly everything - EXCEPT more pot smoking of course. And then there's the drain on the finances. The putting off of prior commitments in favor of looking for more pot because you ran out and you just can't LIVE without your pot. That was my ex. I won't have it again.

[xomissraddox]

IMO smoking weed isnt a problem, unless the user "needs" it and cant go a day without it. as a woman i find that dependability on getting high or "needing it" is a huge turn off. but hey, when things get stressful it is nice to smoke a joint and be able to focus on how to fix a problem for like a hour or 2, but it is def. not mandatory... more like a luxury.