zerovandez Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 So I've managed to score a date with someone I met online. She's 34 and I'm 28. She lives in HB/Newport area and she seems pretty alive and spunky. We're meeting in person this Wednesday and I have no clue as to what we should do. Her profile online doesn't say much other than she's a personal trainer, she like tennis and golf, and she's sassy. We've chatted online for a few minutes last night and she took the inititive to suggest meeting up. This was our first and only time chatting and we exchanged numbers. I'm really not into meeting at a coffee shop and she says we don't have to do dinner. Most of my dates, actually all of my dates have been dinners so far. I think her personality is more outgoing than I am. I asked if she had suggestions and she told me to take charge, LOL! So what are your suggestions?
jadedone Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 I suggest you do what the woman says and take charge! Maybe skydiving, rock/wall climbing, bike riding, hiking, amusement park.
Feelin Frisky Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Start doing sit-ups and contain your anxiety. I would consider that I'm just going out on a "feeler-outer" and not yet a date. You don't know this sassy chick yet. I had a female friend on another forum. We weren't at all flirting. She was just so supportive and inquisitive about where I was coming from and where I want to go with the platform of vision I was revealing in a sub-section only accessible by registered members which I entitled "Cyberspace and Cyberculture". We IMed a lot and got deep into sharing deepest visions of technological potentials I and she were savvy to. As admin of our forum I helped elevate her to admin too by canvassing the other founders for their approvals and seeing to it that she could run the show. When I finally actually talked to her on the phone I was appalled at how swaggering, self-righteous and arrogant she was. I was really shocked. Nothing that went on in type prepared me for that. My wake up call was confirmed in every subsequent conversation and she actually took the liberty of stripping away my authority when I had a heated philosophical argument with another member who turned out to be just an evil passive aggressive trying to push my buttons. All that focused communication through type was worthwhile and therapeutic but it did nothing to prepare one for the actual give and take of real interplay. I got my powers back but we are now somewhat estranged. I can still share with her If I wish but I haven't so wished in quite a while. Contain your expectations my friend.
YellowShark Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 First off I WOULD meet at a coffee shop to break the ice and see if there is any physical chemistry. If there is no physical chemistry then after a 20-minute coffee you can go your separate ways with a clear conscience. If there is definite physical chemistry then after the coffee - (and because she sounds like she is an active person), go do something active! Like mini golf, a batting cage, indoor rock climbing, a game of billiards or darts. She would like that and it would be a fun bonding experience. Have fun!
Author zerovandez Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Our date is scheduled to take place sometime after 6pm. But those are some great ideas!
Author zerovandez Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Start doing sit-ups and contain your anxiety. I would consider that I'm just going out on a "feeler-outer" and not yet a date. You don't know this sassy chick yet. I had a female friend on another forum. We weren't at all flirting. She was just so supportive and inquisitive about where I was coming from and where I want to go with the platform of vision I was revealing in a sub-section only accessible by registered members which I entitled "Cyberspace and Cyberculture". We IMed a lot and got deep into sharing deepest visions of technological potentials I and she were savvy to. As admin of our forum I helped elevate her to admin too by canvassing the other founders for their approvals and seeing to it that she could run the show. When I finally actually talked to her on the phone I was appalled at how swaggering, self-righteous and arrogant she was. I was really shocked. Nothing that went on in type prepared me for that. My wake up call was confirmed in every subsequent conversation and she actually took the liberty of stripping away my authority when I had a heated philosophical argument with another member who turned out to be just an evil passive aggressive trying to push my buttons. All that focused communication through type was worthwhile and therapeutic but it did nothing to prepare one for the actual give and take of real interplay. I got my powers back but we are now somewhat estranged. I can still share with her If I wish but I haven't so wished in quite a while. Contain your expectations my friend. Thanks for sharing that! And you're right, I will contain my expectations. My expectations have gotten me into a little trouble in past dates, LOL!
Author zerovandez Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Well that's always an option but my problem is that I was never a drinker to start with. Yes, I'm a cheap date! She'll probably be able to pound more than I can LOL. Does anybody live in the HB/Newport area? What's there to check out in those areas?
sveltskye Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 In HB there's Main Street and the pier, then there's downtown Seal Beach, 2nd street in Long Beach, and then South down the beach. I also like dwntown Santa Ana and the Anti Mall in Costa Mesa. You might take her to the Gypsy Den, its a cute artsy coffee shop, and maybe a gallery across the street after. There's one in downtown Snata Ana and one at the anti mall. Lola Gaspas is a cute (but slightly pricey) bar across the street from the Gypsy Den in Santa Ana and there's a club, Proof, down the street too.
SlevinKalebra Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 I agree do not go to a coffee shop. Do not do dinner. Do not do a movie. Your first date needs to be different. Those things are all expected and none of them lead to any kind of excitement. BE UNIQUE. Tell her you need to go shopping and spend an hour or two at the mall. Be playful and entertaining. Go mini-golfing, go karting. If you are by a lake/reservoir go there and rent jet skis. If you want to do any of the same old same old do that after you have fun. They are way too sedate to do on a first date. Make it memorable!
bobdole Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 If you are by a lake/reservoir go there and rent jet skis I love jetskis and think its a great first date, but after having that shot down by so many women for a first, second, or third date I've stopped trying. Women, even good looking women, are either still to self conscious about their body or they just dislike the notion of you eyeballing them in a bikini so early.
SincereOnlineGuy Posted August 25, 2010 Posted August 25, 2010 We're meeting in person this Wednesday We've chatted online for a few minutes last night and she took the inititive to suggest meeting up. This was our first and only time chatting and we exchanged numbers. Then what did you need the 'online' part for? You could have meetings like this one when doing little more than walking down the street. I'm dying to find out what you're going to talk about during your real-life meeting. Me thinks that somebody should have first had the idea to each invest a bit more before haphazardly rushing off to meet one another.
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