jl5099 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Okay here goes.. I was just recently at a sporting event where we camp for the weekend. I've been attending this event for years and have gotten to know all the people around me very well, except 1 group of people.. I am currently going through a divorce and have only been single for about 5 mos. Possibly why I haven't gotten to know these guys, my ex was a very jealous person. Well anyway, this one particular guy made it a point to come up and introduce himself and at this point he told me we met last year, but I vaguely remembered him. Anyway, there is a TON of alcohol consumed over this weekend and I was there to party with all of my friends and of course with new ones too.. So we ended up hanging out all weekend. We slept together on the first night. Then we hung out during the day and then we slept together again the next night. Hung out for a part of Sunday and then he and his group left. Not before me getting his phone number and him kissing me goodbye. Well he is from the same area as my boss and they all actually know each other pretty well. So I found him on facebook and added him as a friend. His facebook profile pic showed a girl sitting on his lap. I thought it was odd, but was hoping I was wrong. Well turns out his 40th birthday was the next Wednesday so I called him to wish him a happy birthday.. He admitted he has a girlfriend and they've been together for over 2 years.. I was crushed.. But we continued to talk, and he doesn't sound thrilled with her and continued to ask about me and my life.. Also giving me the advice "don't jump into anything serious with anyone so quickly".. Saying that he regrets doing that so soon after getting divorced from his wife. So after getting off the phone with him he texted me right away, and we said we'd be friends. I said okay to friends and then he told me the rest is up to me. I still don't understand what that means... I really like this guy, he's totally what I'm looking for, but I'm not into breaking up relationships.. However, I don't get why he would pursue me the way he did at the event, and then continue to leave it open after we talked. He didn't really say he was unhappy with her, but he didn't show any remorse about me. I've been told twice I should totally just let this guy go, but he's really done a number on me. Will I just get my heart broken, or is it worth a try?
kalikula Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Don't pursue him.. He cheated on his gf with you! He is a loser. He pursued you because he cheats on his girlfriend. He left it open so he could possibly see you and sleep with you again sometime in the future. If he's really interested in you, he will be fair to his girlfriend and break up with her before pursuing you. That really sucks though. :-(
Mad Max Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 He cheated on his GF. He is scum and has no character. Is that someone you want?
Author jl5099 Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Ugh.. I know that's the right answer.. I'm having a really hard time accepting it tho.. Thanks for the reply...
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