zuz Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Hi there, So I met a guy online. He has three children and his wife has passed away four years ago (well, that is what he said). When we met at the first time, we went for a walk and it was great and then he called me at midnight immediately. I didn't pick up but I texted him back. He called next day and wanted to see me. And then he talked to me almost everyday on msn and said he really liked me and really wanted to keep seeing me. So we met up and ended up making out in the car. There was strong spark but that time I was a bit confused too as it was going too fast. I asked him what does he want, he said "when he is with someone, he ususally looks for long-term but we'll see if we are both ready." and at that time, I didn't know what I am looking for too. So we kept seeing each other once a week for almost two months. Well, everytime we met we were making love. Most of the time I went over to his place when his kids were asleep and sometimes he came over to my place. So this is just mainly intimate relationship and we both had a great and sweet time and he always talked to me after the weekend on MSN and know each other more. Sometimes we talked on the phone too. I suggested we could go have dinner or lunch together, he said he could arrange and plan a day. And then I didn't bring up again and it never happens. So lately he has been so busy as his kids are out of school and sometimes he didn't message me back when I messaged him on MSN. He told me he was too tired and fell asleep and he apologized and always made it up to me. He just came over last sunday. I know he got three children to take care of and it takes him so much energy. But last week, I messaged him a day or two on MSN and he disappeared. Last night I called him and tried to meet up, it went to voice mail. I left a message. I tried to call him home, no answer. This morning I tried to call him home, voice mail too!! What happened??? Is he done with me? It is no fun to just keep calling and no answer. So I now just calm down and don't contact him anymore. Any advice? Thanks for reading and thanks for for your advice in advance
atlnay Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Did you two ever go out on a formal or even informal date over that two month period? Did things end up solely being sexual every time you saw him? You weren't sure what you wanted before you started sleeping with him, do you know what you want now?
Author zuz Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 no we didn't go for a formal date. We just kept kissing and intimate to each other everytime we see each other. Now that I was thinking of should I keep seeing him and then I can't reach him anymore. Thank you for your response.
Author zuz Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 also the reason why i looked for guys at online dating site is because I got somehow sadden when I heard some news about my ex. He is the first guy I met in person from online dating site. And he kinda looks like my ex.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 So you guys never formally dated, and the first time you .met, you were already making out. This type of scenario usually already meant the guy already had his cake without paying for it. You never gave him a chance to try to " date" you, hence there wasn't a challenge. You sleep with him everything you meet which equates to a typical booty call. Add to that you met him online ( he apparently resembles your ex) it's no wonder he disappeared. He could also have met someone else.
EYECANDY000 Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 Is this the kind of relationship you are seeking? just an intimate relationship? if so then thats what you have. # kids is a handful, but not that much where you cant pick up the phone and send a quick text. or a quick email. In his defense though if you are saying its going straight to vm it doesnt sound like hes avoiding you, it just seems like hes not home, or his phone is cut off. maybe there is someone else in the picture?
Author zuz Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 (edited) xpaperxcutx: thank you for your opinion. I was so sadden and confused at that time and got immediately intimate to a guy. I know I shouldn't do this but I just did. EYECANDY000: I still saw his msn. He is AWAY as He always to be. Thank You. Edited August 23, 2010 by zuz
D-Lish Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 What good do you think it's doing you to chase him? He hasn't returned your calls, yet you keep seeking him out, why? He's not interested in you, he's not treating you with respect- dump his ass.
Author zuz Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 D-Lish: I will wait and see what happens. I am not in love with him and if i don't hear anything from him i will pretend he is dead. It's just not feeling great when I can't reach someone. Thank You.
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