Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Ok..i will make this short as I can I was seeing a man for 7 months...we broke up for a few months and have now been seeing each other for two months now...we spent at least 3 nights a week together, he was always contacting me..saying sweet things...etc. Now we went from all that to short and snippy in a day..we were together and everything was fine..a day later he is very short and not responding to my messages? I asked him if I had done something to upset him but he did not reply.
dispatch3d Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 You did something to upset him. It was recent. So what have you done recently to him? Why did you go on break for two months?
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Im not sure what I did...I think he may believe I was messing around..i only say that cause for two saturday nights in row he texted me late at night...both times I did not answer. One was at 2am and the other at 1200am. He knew I was out with friends both those nights..he was invited but he already had plans so he declined. Both those nights by the time he texted me I was already sleeping. But the last time I seen him he commented on what I was doing that I couldnt text him back like he did not believe i was sleeping. That is all I can think of. I sent him a text last week asking him..stating i wanted to know what was up..he commented .... OMG..sometimes you drive me crazy..lol.. You go on vacation and I will talk to ya when you get back. WTH does that mean? We split before because we both had personal issues to work out..its a long story I am confused...................bigtime
xpaperxcutx Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 So are you guys casually dating or did the two of you offically made up? I'm confused here because you didn't state the nature of your " relationship" except that you guys hang out alot. So either he perceives that you're becoming very clingy ( with your text messages) or he's seeing other people on the side. The latter is only a guess.
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 We were dating...we had agreed not to see other people; he stated he would not and I agreed. We went to dinner, concerts, beach, we spent three nights a week (overnights) together. He even called me his girl to one of this friends on the phone... I have tried not to appear clingy....I dont over text him..just get frustrated when I ask if Ive done something to upset him and he wont answer at all........just ignores it..why does he just not tell me .. ive told him if there is another person or whatever I am good..just want him to be honest before this goes any further and I get hurt
xpaperxcutx Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 We were dating...we had agreed not to see other people; he stated he would not and I agreed. We went to dinner, concerts, beach, we spent three nights a week (overnights) together. He even called me his girl to one of this friends on the phone... I have tried not to appear clingy....I dont over text him..just get frustrated when I ask if Ive done something to upset him and he wont answer at all........just ignores it..why does he just not tell me .. ive told him if there is another person or whatever I am good..just want him to be honest before this goes any further and I get hurt I see. Well first of all, I don't think it's so much as excessive texts as the way you question him about whether you're upsetting him or not. To certain people, that normally screams low self-esteem, like you're trying to make him validate you. You shouldn't need to have to question him whether you're a cause of a problem. You're not. Second, I have to ask, how much do you normally interact in terms of texting and talking on the phone, minus actually seeing each other in person? How many times has he ignored you? Does he do it often?
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 I see. Well first of all, I don't think it's so much as excessive texts as the way you question him about whether you're upsetting him or not. To certain people, that normally screams low self-esteem, like you're trying to make him validate you. You shouldn't need to have to question him whether you're a cause of a problem. You're not. Second, I have to ask, how much do you normally interact in terms of texting and talking on the phone, minus actually seeing each other in person? How many times has he ignored you? Does he do it often? Well, we text at least a few times a day...he always responds unless something is astray..always explains what is going on like if he has activities with his kids...etc. ..texts are communitive. Now..they are one words like..no or driving... and then he started ignoring me.. this has been going on now for two weeks.
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 oh..he sent me the OMG text last sunday...right before i went on vaction stating he would talk to me when i got back..i am home now and texted him at 3hrs ago to let him know i was home. So this week there has been no communication at all. Is he just mad and wont say it
a_woman Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 no communication at all. Is he just mad and wont say it Yes. I dated men like him and I can tell you there will be always something 'you are doing wrong'. He is passive aggressive, stonewalling, etc. Walk away, he has a very immature side to him.
xpaperxcutx Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/t242745/ I came across your other thread. If you have to ask why he hasn't contacted you, I think the ' relationship" the two of you have explained it.
EYECANDY000 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 ? I asked him if I had done something to upset him but he did not reply. Have this been a pattern of his? Has he done this before?
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Yes, he did do this once before...right after we had an arguement he did this; it was a month after that we split.. am i being too crazy..it was a week ago he told me he would talk to me after I came home..i jst got home today and texted him at 130 or so.
EYECANDY000 Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 Yes, he did do this once before...right after we had an arguement he did this; it was a month after that we split.. am i being too crazy..it was a week ago he told me he would talk to me after I came home..i jst got home today and texted him at 130 or so. so let me get this straight.. you havent spoken to him since last week?
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Yes, I left for vacation last Sunday and that is the last time we spoke..i went camping with my girlfriends..he said he would talk to me after I got back which is today
Author Karmone Posted August 22, 2010 Author Posted August 22, 2010 Well maybe I should go no contact???????
Author Karmone Posted August 23, 2010 Author Posted August 23, 2010 Well he did respond back to me last night....he was canoeing and jst got done...he said he would be home in 1/2 hr...by then it was too late and I couldnt see him cause I needed to get to bed. grrrrrr.
Author Karmone Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 OK..last night he did text me...he was out canoeing and let me know he was done and would be home in a half an hour...soooo! I just dont know
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