hibiscus21 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 The other day I was cleaning the house, when I was putting things away in the bathroom I noticed that there were 2 condoms in the cabinet. Yesterday, I was putting things away again in the bathroom and noticed there was only 1 condom. My boyfriend and I have not had sex in that time period. He does have 2 roommates, and I asked one of them about it but he said he has his own. I didn't get a chance to ask the other roommate about it, but I highly doubt she would have taken one. I brought the subject up with him and he asked if i was sure there was 2 in there, cause he thought there was only one. I said I was sure and explained the whole cleaning thing to him. He says he has no idea where it went. I don't know what to think about this. He doesn't do anything that would make me think he is cheating, he always texts and calls me, he hasn't acted differently in any way...everything seems normal except that condoms keep disappearing. We have been together for 15 months...I really love him. I know he loves me. Could he be cheating, am I just in complete denial? Any insights in this would be great!
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 The other day I was cleaning the house, when I was putting things away in the bathroom I noticed that there were 2 condoms in the cabinet. Yesterday, I was putting things away again in the bathroom and noticed there was only 1 condom. My boyfriend and I have not had sex in that time period. He does have 2 roommates, and I asked one of them about it but he said he has his own. I didn't get a chance to ask the other roommate about it, but I highly doubt she would have taken one. I brought the subject up with him and he asked if i was sure there was 2 in there, cause he thought there was only one. I said I was sure and explained the whole cleaning thing to him. He says he has no idea where it went. I don't know what to think about this. He doesn't do anything that would make me think he is cheating, he always texts and calls me, he hasn't acted differently in any way...everything seems normal except that condoms keep disappearing. We have been together for 15 months...I really love him. I know he loves me. Could he be cheating, am I just in complete denial? Any insights in this would be great! If there are no other signs then I think you are jumping to conclusions to quick from my past experience roommates tend to lie allot if it means covering there bums.
bobdole Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 In no particular order - what I can think of is: 1. Room mate took and and is too embarrassed to admit it. 2. Boyfriend is cheating 3. Boyfriend is masturbating with condom and is too embarrassed to admit it. 4. Your hallucinating 5. The condom gnomes (cousins to the underpants gnomes) took it.
Art_Critic Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 In no particular order - what I can think of is: 1. Room mate took and and is too embarrassed to admit it. 2. Boyfriend is cheating 3. Boyfriend is masturbating with condom and is too embarrassed to admit it. 4. Your hallucinating 5. The condom gnomes (cousins to the underpants gnomes) took it. You forgot 6. Having sex with one of the roomates hibiscus21.. you are probably jumping to conclusions.. If he was gonna cheat why would he pull a condom from your inventory and risk getting caught ?
Feelin Frisky Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 ...everything seems normal except that condoms keep disappearing... They KEEP disappearing? Or, one went missing? I didn't see anything in the OP to support that they "keep disappearing". Are you heaping on some exaggeration when in fact one disappeared? Just the facts mam, just the facts.
Author hibiscus21 Posted August 21, 2010 Author Posted August 21, 2010 They KEEP disappearing? Or, one went missing? I didn't see anything in the OP to support that they "keep disappearing". Are you heaping on some exaggeration when in fact one disappeared? Just the facts mam, just the facts. Yes there have been others, but the reason I brought this one up is I know 100% that there were 2, and now there is only one.
Pink Cupcakes Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I vote for the roommate not admitting it.
SpanksTheMonkey Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 (edited) I vote for the roommate not admitting it. Exactly I mean common unless some one was fairly dense they wouldn't use shared condoms they would go and buy new ones. That would make about as much scene as him using your cell phone to call a new gf just a totally needless chance taken I highly doubt it.. Op before you accuse your bf and ruin a otherwise good relationship try this. Move the condoms to your dresser draw or something some area both you and your bf share. But yet the roommate wouldn't think to look and see how it goes from there I have a feeling it will stop. Edited August 21, 2010 by SpanksTheMonkey
EYECANDY000 Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I think the mistake that you are making is asking t he other room mates. Ask him and if he denies it, then its nothing more you can do other than trust him. I think you are putting the roommates in awkward siturations by asking them. you dont think that they are telling him that your'e asking questions about condoms?
Crazy Magnet Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 If several condoms have in fact disappeared, put them in a location that only the two of you have access to. Then see what happens.
Gallaxia Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Hibiscus21, do you and your bf even use condoms together? Because if you don't and he had a stash that is dwindling, that'd be cause for alarm...trying to get the full picture here.
Author hibiscus21 Posted August 24, 2010 Author Posted August 24, 2010 Hibiscus21, do you and your bf even use condoms together? Because if you don't and he had a stash that is dwindling, that'd be cause for alarm...trying to get the full picture here. We sometimes do, but usually we don't . We always talk about how we should use them, but we don't because he doesn't like how they feel. I don't really have that gut feeling like something is wrong, but I can't understand where this condom went...
You Go Girl Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 More intense study of the dynamics of your relationship is needed on your part. You may not have a gut feeling, but you are keen to notice this condom missing, and you then start questioning. The missing condom is not the issue. That you feel less than secure is. Study the intimacy dynamics. Pay attention to the details, the devil's always in them.
dispatch3d Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 you must set an elaborate trap to see if indeed he is stealing condoms from the condom jar. Second question, he doesn't use condoms with you because they are "uncomfortable" but is willing to use them on random girls? Wtf are random girls better than you or something?
meerkat stew Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 In an environment with two roommates and if there are guests in the house from time to time, one rogue AWOL condom isn't likely cause for concern without more info.
Raybork Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 In this situation, I would go with your gut feeling. Which is everything is still ok between both of you. I fear though, that you will be worried about that condom jar for some time!
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