4thofjuly Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 I'm Confused! Here is some background info: ]I dated this guy for 3 months. I recently moved 6 hrs away due to a job. We knew I would be moving from the beginning of our relationship. At the beginning he was very attentive to me.. he would frequently initiate texts/convos, asking when he can see me next. 2 months in I met his family for the weekend. He’s met a few members of mine. Towards the end of if he became more distant. I would be the one initiating 90% of our convos away from each other and asking when I could see him. (At the beginning we would see each other 2-3x per week, towards the end it was only once). Even though he was distant when we were not together, when we were everything was perfect, comfortable and normal with him-even down to my last day. We parted with a hug, kiss and him saying “see you later.” We never really talked what was going to happen once I leave (stupid on both our parts, I know) but I guess sort of had our own assumptions I am now gone and away from him. We still text (me doing the initating again) and the texts are no different from the end of our time together. He still responds and keeps a short convo. I saw he put up a new profile up on a dating website so I get how he wants things now however I asked him when I am in town next if I could see him. His reply was definitely if he was not away I just don’t know what to make of it. I feel sort slighted that we spent 3 months together, there was no official “this is it” with us but he has a profile up. And he still wants to see me if we are around at the same time. Should I let him go? Still see him when I am back in town? Tell him that I saw he had a profile up and what does he want from me if I go and see him? I don’t want to be used and I don’t feel comfortable not being the only girl but at the same time I still like him and if I hadn’t move I still think we would be together…
VeveCakes Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Well, you dated him for 3 months and never discussed your relationship or your plans once you moved, that was your first mistake. Honestly I think your best bet at this point is to just ask him what the situation is.
that girl Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 He doesn't sound interested in anything but sleeping with you (as long as he doesn't have anything better to do). A guy who was interested but thought you two weren't serious would call, text or email you regularly. He doesn't. In fact, he put up a dating profile. You can something, but I would be very clear about what you want and not get your hopes up.
Sabali Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Always expect distance to be a huge hurdle to romance. Always! When you "parted with a kiss," you parted with a decent chance of making that relationship work.
BiAxident Posted August 21, 2010 Posted August 21, 2010 Given that neither of you took the time to discuss where the relationship was going to go, it can be somewhat difficult to predict what will happen next. On the one hand, if he was really into you, he would have raised the question (not to mention initiated contact now and again). On the other, it isn't as though you proposed that the two of you try to work it out, only to have him shoot you down. If you are going to try to keep him, you'd better act fast given that he has the dating profile up.
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