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Staying Out of the Friend Zone


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There's this girl who I met last year, and we didn't really get to know each other real well, but I felt a connection. I ended up moving away but I got in touch with her and let her know that I was attracted to her. As it turns out, she is in a relationship, but she seemed genuinely interested in me still, and didn't want to reject me necessarily.

 

It's been a couple months since then, and we still keep in touch, and I feel that there is potential down the road if things fall into place. The bottom line is that I want to keep a romantic interest afloat, and I feel like I might be slipping into "friendship territory". It just seems things might be getting too casual/friendly, and I was wondering what I could do to keep it as more than friendship in the meantime without crossing the line (seeing that she's in a relationship).

 

And just to be clear, I'm not really pursuing her or trying to lead her to breaking up.

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I'd go NC on her and keep tabs, enough to know if she's still in a relationship/single but enough to not seem like a creep.

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Pretty funny averagejoe. I always thought Mario was more than just a game, but a teacher of life's lessons.

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There's this girl who I met last year, and we didn't really get to know each other real well, but I felt a connection. I ended up moving away but I got in touch with her and let her know that I was attracted to her. As it turns out, she is in a relationship, but she seemed genuinely interested in me still, and didn't want to reject me necessarily.

 

It's been a couple months since then, and we still keep in touch, and I feel that there is potential down the road if things fall into place. The bottom line is that I want to keep a romantic interest afloat, and I feel like I might be slipping into "friendship territory". It just seems things might be getting too casual/friendly, and I was wondering what I could do to keep it as more than friendship in the meantime without crossing the line (seeing that she's in a relationship).

 

And just to be clear, I'm not really pursuing her or trying to lead her to breaking up.

 

Stay in casual touch, like FB or something, but why put conscious thought in? What if you're missing a gal who's awesome and single because you're focusing on this one. You need to stop mentally pursuing her. Leave the door open, by being in touch, if you like, but anything else is pursuit.

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I don't think you ever "slip" into the friendzone. You are either dropped in there or not. You can try smacking that @$$ and see what happens but that worked better before the whole Clarence Thomas thing.

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