Ok, put life on hold.... or suck it up and admit I'm that guy?

[SlevinKalebra]

So here I am 30, separated, going back to school, and back with the folks.

I am in the process of divorcing and had to move back in with my folks. I am working but definitely under employed. I have my BA, but worked less hours to be with my young kids while wife worked 40 hrs. I was smart enough to go for a degree in liberal arts, you know philosophy, psychology underwater basket weaving. So money is not particularly flowing. I am going back for my degree in the medical field with less than 2 yrs left before I graduate again.

So my question is do I suck it up for the next few yrs and live like a celibate hermit until I graduate? Or do I try to run with the "hey I'm a 30 yr old starving student, with kids, wanna go back to my parents place and make out?" (I do have a self deprecating sense of humor at times. not what I'd say but I'm sure that's what they'd hear)

I don't think I'm unattractive, and have been focusing on exercising and self improvement. For the most part feeling pretty good, but I don't know if I can go for a year dryspell let a lone a two year drought, already fall into slumps feeling lonely and most guys can attest when you don't have the ability to attract the OS your self esteem take a dive.

Thoughts?

[melodymatters]

Avoid online dating, wherein the whole premise is to come up with a shopping list and then the checking of desired traits.

 

Besides that, as long as you are honest, who cares ? Not everybody is looking for "perfect on paper", many of us just want a kind soul we can cuddle up to when life is cold and lonely. At least you are moving forward with your life.

[Eeyore79]

I don't see any reason why you can't date, as long as you're prepared for a few rejections. You may find a woman who really likes you and is willing to stick it out until you graduate and get your own place. A lot of women might be put off by the fact that you're not yet divorced though...