Indian guys in interracial relationships are rare, so have you seen exceptions?

[zengirl]

Really? What part of the South did you live in? I grew up in the South and I remember hearing people say "all mixed kids are so cute" and the black boys went crazy over the biracial girls--but these girls were pretty hot so I understood why. Did you live around a lot of black people? I notice that the whole color-discrimination thing does not happen everywhere, but it was very real where I grew up.

 

At first, I lived in working class neighborhoods, which were latino/black/white, and then I moved to an upper class white neighborhood. Things were easier in the second neighborhood for me. But NOBODY was really Asian. And nobody really looked like me. And the other kids only ever saw my Mom, who's white, so they couldn't figure out why I looked so weird. They weren't all mean about it. Some were, some weren't. Some of the mean kids were white, some were black, some were latino, and so were some of the nice kids. Most of my friends in that neighborhood happened to be black girls. I don't remember boys coming into the equation yet.

 

When I got older--- like teenager, I felt weird looking for awhile still (you know how it is at that age? People who want to tear you down will smell out the things you're insecure about, and I was still insecure about it at that point; I also got teased for being thin---who does that happen to?), but I am a pretty gal and yeah, I got plenty of male attention. But I had two white parents (Mom and Stepdad) so lots of people were always trying to figure out why I looked the way I did. My mom has long, curly strawberry blond hair and blue eyes, and my step-father is blue-eyed and has dirty blond hair. They both have loads of freckles.

 

Anyway, it's weird. I feel like I looked more "white" as I grew up. Possibly because my hair lightened so much, and I have very light Japanese skin. I used to be tan all the time as a kid and have black hair. I've never had the eye-fold, but plenty of Japanese girls don't. I have "Western" eyes as they say here. Most Americans wouldn't know for sure I was Asian, I think. Several white people have been surprised.

Edited August 20, 2010 by zengirl

[Sphere]

Why is race an issue?

 

If a girl is hot, kind and has all the qualities I want in someone then I'm dating her, I couldn't care less if she was purple, yellow, maroon or aqua.

 

I think racial fetishes are pathetic and are racist within themselves, a preference they are and a preference rightfully held, but it is racism nevertheless.

 

America seems to like telling the world it is the most advanced nation on earth and this I agree, but when it comes to racial issues, America is as backwards as countries like Zimbabwe and Russia.

[Labster12]

America backwards? Yea, at least we don't throw Bananas at our Black sports players like fans of club soccer do to players in Spain and Italy, don't preach this garbage to us, Europeans are JUST as bad and if not that worse. Don't single out Americans and preferences are preferences, deal with it, that's life.

If anything I have seen tons of Europeans brag about having "exotic" girlfriends and wives, don't see how that doesn't count as a fetish. Don't even get me started on most Asian countries, try being a Black person in Japan and see if you don't get stares in most areas.

 

Also, I have been in the deep south for the past 6 years and lets just say that I have heard countless shares of racism but surprisingly the rich Christian White kids that get the bad rep have been the nicest to me.

 

Oh and guys, I found that girl today in my class, when we were outside I told her she dropped something. She tried to take it from my hand when I was bent over and as we came closer, I took the risk and kissed her. We held it together for 5-6 seconds and then she looked at me, smiled and laughed and walked away......

[ViciousViolet]

Why is race an issue?

 

If a girl is hot, kind and has all the qualities I want in someone then I'm dating her, I couldn't care less if she was purple, yellow, maroon or aqua.

 

I think racial fetishes are pathetic and are racist within themselves, a preference they are and a preference rightfully held, but it is racism nevertheless.

 

America seems to like telling the world it is the most advanced nation on earth and this I agree, but when it comes to racial issues, America is as backwards as countries like Zimbabwe and Russia.

 

Race matters because...well it does. I think the main issue is physical attraction. A man who prefers green-eyed, redheads probably will not be attracted to your average Native American woman. Culture is another issue for many. Luckily for me, I love all types of men. I find fair skin as sexy as deep dark skin and I love being immersed in a different culture as long as my differences are respected. A majority of people are not like this and simply prefer familiarity when it comes to relationships as they see intra-racial relationships as less complicated.

[Sphere]

America is by far the most racist nation on the planet and the stats don't lie.

 

I'm not European, so you are preaching to someone who isn't from there.

[Feelin Frisky]

...Oh and guys, I found that girl today in my class, when we were outside I told her she dropped something. She tried to take it from my hand when I was bent over and as we came closer, I took the risk and kissed her. We held it together for 5-6 seconds and then she looked at me, smiled and laughed and walked away......

 

Nice. Savor that one.

[Labster12]

Back to the topic though, I wonder this because my teacher brought it up years ago. He said that 90 percent of all Indians would most likely marry another Indian and the rest of all Indian men will only marry White women.

 

In my personal experiences traveling, Indian guy - White girl has been so common and so heard of. Why is Indian guy - White girl so common while Indian guy - Black girl, Indian guy - Asian girl and Indian guy - Latina is almost unheard of?

[taiko]

America is by far the most racist nation on the planet and the stats don't lie.

 

I'm not European, so you are preaching to someone who isn't from there.

 

Statistics of what pollitical perceptions or something measurable like percentage of inter-racia or cross cultural relationships?

[Sphere]

Statistics of what pollitical perceptions or something measurable like percentage of inter-racia or cross cultural relationships?

 

No these statistics are based on discrimination at work, at schools and in institutions.

 

Whether or not these are accurate is something I can comment on as I'm not from the United States, but from an outsider looking in, it seems like many Americans are racist, well at least on the internet.

[lso802]

I'm not sure how America compares to other countries, but we are definitely not color-blind by any means. We strive towards it, but our very institutions are still racist.

 

I've seen Indian guys go after Asian girls, but yeah, I have not seen a lot of inter-racial relationships between an Indian girl/guy and someone of another race.

[ViciousViolet]

Back to the topic though, I wonder this because my teacher brought it up years ago. He said that 90 percent of all Indians would most likely marry another Indian and the rest of all Indian men will only marry White women.

 

In my personal experiences traveling, Indian guy - White girl has been so common and so heard of. Why is Indian guy - White girl so common while Indian guy - Black girl, Indian guy - Asian girl and Indian guy - Latina is almost unheard of?

 

How about asking why Indian men aren't pursuing these women? Indian men tend to prefer fairer women, so that can explain the low numbers of Indian-Black and perhaps Indian-Latina pairings.

[Labster12]

How about asking why Indian men aren't pursuing these women? Indian men tend to prefer fairer women, so that can explain the low numbers of Indian-Black and perhaps Indian-Latina pairings.

 

I would ask that but before this site I was on the yahoo answers site. I asked this question like 6 times on different sections there, all I heard was that because Black women and Latinas are pickier than White women and they tend to chase after White men in most cases and don't like Indian men at all.

[ViciousViolet]

I would ask that but before this site I was on the yahoo answers site. I asked this question like 6 times on different sections there, all I heard was that because Black women and Latinas are pickier than White women and they tend to chase after White men in most cases and don't like Indian men at all.

 

There might be some truth to this. If an Indian guy like yourself, one who is more assimilated, approached a Latina or perhaps a black girl, you'd have more luck than most. The same goes for most people trying to enter into interracial relationships.

[bac]

If you ask about a serious relationship which equals a marriage for most people with Indian background, it is hard to imagine that a guy would go for that without approval of his parents. But, there are exceptions, of course. If you ask about casual sex, especially ONSs, FWBs, there are tons of Indian guys online, who practice the type relationships with girls of any race who are willing participate. Obviously, neither Eastern Indian nor Middle Eastern girls are not going participate in casual sex before marriage.

[Labster12]

There might be some truth to this. If an Indian guy like yourself, one who is more assimilated, approached a Latina or perhaps a black girl, you'd have more luck than most. The same goes for most people trying to enter into interracial relationships.

 

Thing is though like I see and hear of Asian guys with all sorts of girls, Black guys with all sorts of girls, White guys with all sorts of guys and Hispanic guys with all sorts of girls. I mean I have heard of Asian guy - Black girl and Asian guy - Latina before, Asian guy - White girl is pretty common but with Indian guys it is just Indian guy - Indian girl or Indian guy - White girl.

 

Anyways I was only worried about the Indian guy - Latina part, I have never even heard of it my whole life and I was thinking there might have been a reason for that like maybe Latinas in general hate Indian guys or something.

[bac]

Actually Sanjay Gupta, Sendhil Ramamurthy and Naveen Andrews are all married to White women.

 

Plus, Indian parents from what I have heard praise their kids for being with a White person while dating a Hispanic or Black person brings in tons of animosity.

 

If your parents are fine with you dating casually, there can not be any problems except personal preferences of girls. Many White girls like trying new things including having sex/connection with an Indian guy.

If you want a serious relationship, IMO it is better to be integrated into american culture from an early age. A real Indian man has his indian culture deep inside his mind, and it is a lot of unformation which creates a different view of reality based on the religion's stories. I do not know for sure but I would assume that Indian boys who are born in the USA are not circumcised.

[Labster12]

Honestly, I wouldn't mind an Indian girl either but the ones I have seen in the US have not been so attractive. Call me racist but I like the North Indian look, like the darker exotic Indian look turns me off, I just like that look where the girl looks more Italian or Middle Easternish. Haven't found any of those here in the US.

[Labster12]

If your parents are fine with you dating casually, there can not be any problems except personal preferences of girls. Many White girls like trying new things including having sex/connection with an Indian guy.

If you want a serious relationship, IMO it is better to be integrated into american culture from an early age. A real Indian man has his indian culture deep inside his mind, and it is a lot of unformation which creates a different view of reality based on the religion's stories. I do not know for sure but I would assume that Indian boys who are born in the USA are not circumcised.

 

I am not into White girls, I like Latinas, Asian girls and Indian girls and those are who I want to date. I am Christian and would like to keep the circumcised info to myself.

 

Take back the I am not into White girls part, Mediterranean and Italian women are beautiful but I rarely see an Indian guy pairing with those type of girls. Usually its a Blonde or Redhead, girls I am just not that much into.

 

White Brunettes are hot in my eyes too, well some of them are, Veronica Rayne is a prime example (her profession may not be appropriate for some though).

Edited August 20, 2010 by Labster12

[Feelin Frisky]

Jeez. White people aren't even white. There is xenophobia between ethnicities within the "white" world. I have experienced this with Greeks for instance. My experience in work and in my former neighborhood in Brooklyn NY, which was Greek to the core, is that they don't mix at all with anyone who ain't Greek. I don't know what they say behind closed doors in their own circles but one is prompted to wonder if there isn't a wide-spread handed-down superiority complex. There surely is with other groups who have an "orthodoxy" at their core like Hasidim, Sikhs, Islamic orthodox and what have you. "Melting pots" don't seem to figure into their world views except perhaps for gold and precious metals. I say viva variety. You don't want me? Then bah-fungula.

[Labster12]

Also since I want to stay on topic.

 

My friends from LA (los angeles not Louisiana) said that Indian men are highly looked down upon there and interracial dating there is more clique as in women only go with Black or White men. Indian men are like at the bottom of the food chain.

 

What are some places in the US where being Indian won't be that big of a deal to me? I have heard good things about NYC.

[Feelin Frisky]

Also since I want to stay on topic.

 

My friends from LA (los angeles not Louisiana) said that Indian men are highly looked down upon there and interracial dating there is more clique as in women only go with Black or White men. Indian men are like at the bottom of the food chain.

 

What are some places in the US where being Indian won't be that big of a deal to me? I have heard good things about NYC.

 

I lived in NYC all of my life until this year. I worked in the UN/NGO community as journalist, committee member, publication designer, editor for 7 years. There sure are a lot of Indian people in that community. Manhattan is very pluralistic and everything goes. One can encounter racism in the outer Burroughs however where the rank and file working class ethnicities seem to want to try to keep their bloodlines pure--purely stupid and belligerent. But of course there are Indian neighborhoods in Brooklyn, Queens, The Bronx and Staten Island as well as pockets of other immigrants ethnicities who carry forth their old world traditions in peace. America in general is becoming a scary place with all of this xenophobia and media-willingness to give it air. I don't think that people on an individual basis are represented by the sign-holders at tea-party rallies. We have the making of Nazis but a fundamental constitution in place to marginalize them. I hope we do the right thing in the elections (again).

[zengirl]

America is by far the most racist nation on the planet and the stats don't lie.

 

I'm not European, so you are preaching to someone who isn't from there.

 

Not European? Do you really think basic geography considers where you live outside of Europe?

 

America has a lot more racial diversity (numbers wise) than most countries that seem less "racist" than us and has been racially diverse and a bastion for diverse people (diversity even existing within white, I agree with FF) for a long time. There are more interracial marriages in America than most other countries. America has loads of racial tension because we have lots of diversity. That's not to say some people aren't racist or that racism doesn't become an issue in some areas -- it sure does -- but it's a little silly to say it's the most racist nation.

 

It's not even the most racist place I've lived. Korea is far more racist but nobody really notices because there is little racial diversity within Korea.

[ViciousViolet]

I am not into White girls, I like Latinas, Asian girls and Indian girls and those are who I want to date. I am Christian and would like to keep the circumcised info to myself.

 

Take back the I am not into White girls part, Mediterranean and Italian women are beautiful but I rarely see an Indian guy pairing with those type of girls. Usually its a Blonde or Redhead, girls I am just not that much into.

 

White Brunettes are hot in my eyes too, well some of them are, Veronica Rayne is a prime example (her profession may not be appropriate for some though).

 

Honestly, the more I read what you have to say on this topic, the more I'm starting to feel like you are very obsessed with this whole interracial dating thing. Chill out. I feel you on the whole subject, I don't see a lot of black women with non-black men, but I don't let that deter me from being attracted to all types. Who cares if you've never seen a certain type of woman with an Indian guy, what does that have you do with you as an individual? Perhaps the Indian guys just haven't pursued enough Latinas or Italians. Indian men are NOT at the bottom of the food chain. I hate it when people proclaim that an entire group is undesirable. Those women might go for white and black men now, but once they meet you that might change.

[Labster12]

Honestly, the more I read what you have to say on this topic, the more I'm starting to feel like you are very obsessed with this whole interracial dating thing. Chill out. I feel you on the whole subject, I don't see a lot of black women with non-black men, but I don't let that deter me from being attracted to all types. Who cares if you've never seen a certain type of woman with an Indian guy, what does that have you do with you as an individual? Perhaps the Indian guys just haven't pursued enough Latinas or Italians. Indian men are NOT at the bottom of the food chain. I hate it when people proclaim that an entire group is undesirable. Those women might go for white and black men now, but once they meet you that might change.

 

I was curious because I heard that Indian men have a bad reputation, what if women don't want to give me a chance based on that reputation.

 

I still don't know why Indian guy - Latina is so rare though, so many Hispanics in the US and everything.

[Labster12]

Anyways, today at 7 PM I am going to see Scott Pilgrim vs the World with her, the girl I was telling you guys about. Seems like she is into me and I am into her, lets see how far we can get with it.

 

Also to Vicious Violet, I have lived in the Southeast for about 6 years now and lets say it has skewed my perception of the world. I have caught a lot of racism for being an Indian and hope to get outta here soon. I find that Whites and Blacks here are not that racist but the Hispanics (generally speaking) and Asians here are in most cases.

 

I remember back in high school when I almost got into a fight with this White/Asian mixed kid because he hated Indians and viewed them as inferior, it was because I was dating a White girl. Not to mention that a lot of older and middle aged Whites didn't take kindly to it either, some of the young ones didn't either.