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You can continue carping as much as you like, I don't see how your rants will help change my preferences or who I do or don't date. Obviously I won't be interested in you.

 

Anyways lets get back to interracial dating in the Indian community and how rare it is, this was supposed to be poll and survey and not debate. Condemning me for having a curiosity now?

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But still I find it sad how interracial dating is supposed to open up your mind, I have never been with a Latina before and I am curious about the culture yet I get flak for wanting to be with one with the snobs here. Lol, so I should be like most other Indian guys that chase after White girls and exclusively date them.

 

Eitherways, I wonder how much people would hate an Indian guy and call him stupid because he liked Black girls.

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Anyways lets get back to interracial dating in the Indian community and how rare it is, this was supposed to be poll and survey and not debate. Condemning me for having a curiosity now?

 

Nope, not at all. This thread appears to be an attempt to see how socially acceptable interracial dating is in the Indian community by fishing for instances in which Indian men have dated women from other races. Yet you seem to adamantly claim that you "go by [your] preferences instead of caring about what the society thinks"...just a contradictory statement is all...

 

And you seem to be new to LS...debate happens...

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Okay. I think you missed the point of what I was saying. Somehow you interpreted that I am trying to get you to date me and change your preferences, which I was not proposing. But since you are angry and have resorted to name-calling, then I'll just drop the argument.

 

To answer your original question, I have seen some Indian men 'date' (we don't really date at my school unless you think going to the school's cafeteria and hanging out near the server's line is equal to that) anyone of other races. Since no is thinking about marriage at this point in my school, most of them are just hooking up and fooling around. It really depends on what the Indian man looks like. One of my friends who is rather geeky, doesn't get as many 'dates' or girlfriends (not even many; he doesn't get any) as another one I met who is slim, tall, and clean-cut. He also smokes (everything), and that crowd on campus is known to be more open to sexuality.

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Nope, not at all. This thread appears to be an attempt to see how socially acceptable interracial dating is in the Indian community by fishing for instances in which Indian men have dated women from other races. Yet you seem to adamantly claim that you "go by [your] preferences instead of caring about what the society thinks"...just a contradictory statement is all...

 

And you seem to be new to LS...debate happens...

 

I know it happens but the thing is I have received so much flak from Indian family members, other Indians and Asians and even some White people in my area ever since they found out that I am into Latin chicks. One called me a "w3tback luvr" and one Indian doctor actually talked to me about my preference and he said that White women are "safer" and if I date a Latina I would end up loving someone who is a member of a gang family anyways.

 

Like first of all people ask me what type of girls I like, most Indian guys in my area (not that many, only know 5) say they like Indian or White girls and people clap and applaud them for having a good preference. I say I like Latinas the most and people want to throw a fit over it and bash Hispanics in general in the process which kind of pisses me off.

 

I agree I went a little overboard with my comment but hey, I just believe that as Americans we are all entitled to our own preferences. If people want to date outside their race, let em, if they only wanna date inside, let em, if people wanna date inside their own gender, let em, it is their freedom and this freedom is not given to many in the world. When we act politically correct and critique others for their preferences we are trying to take away their freedoms and implying that it is wrong to date who you are attracted to.

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But still I find it sad how interracial dating is supposed to open up your mind, I have never been with a Latina before and I am curious about the culture yet I get flak for wanting to be with one with the snobs here. Lol, so I should be like most other Indian guys that chase after White girls and exclusively date them.

 

Eitherways, I wonder how much people would hate an Indian guy and call him stupid because he liked Black girls.

 

Okay, I think it's fine if you are attracted to a particular Latina and want to ask them out. I even think it's fine if you're nervous about it and need to do surveys to assuage the cognitive dissonance in your own mind. I've lived abroad and dated people from other countries. I understand this thinking, to a degree. If you like a girl, regardless of her color or background, date her. If people have generalized preferences they realize they like, especially re: looks, I also think that's fine.

 

What I think is silly is dating a Latina because you want to get to know the culture or because she is Latina.

 

Does this distinction make sense? You come off as the latter here. That may or may not be the case, but it's how you've come across.

 

Side question: Why do you have to date someone to learn about another culture? I sincerely hope you are not dating a Latina because you are "curious about the culture." I mean, there are other ways to be culturally informed.

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Okay. I think you missed the point of what I was saying. Somehow you interpreted that I am trying to get you to date me and change your preferences, which I was not proposing. But since you are angry and have resorted to name-calling, then I'll just drop the argument.

 

To answer your original question, I have seen some Indian men 'date' (we don't really date at my school unless you think going to the school's cafeteria and hanging out near the server's line is equal to that) anyone of other races. Since no is thinking about marriage at this point in my school, most of them are just hooking up and fooling around. It really depends on what the Indian man looks like. One of my friends who is rather geeky, doesn't get as many 'dates' or girlfriends (not even many; he doesn't get any) as another one I met who is slim, tall, and clean-cut. He also smokes (everything), and that crowd on campus is known to be more open to sexuality.

 

I want to take this time to say I didn't mean to go overboard but if you read my previous post you would understand why I had that reaction. You said you would date a guy like me and as a defense I said I would not be interested in you.

 

Also the purpose of my topic was to get more into Indian guys who have dated girls who have not been Indian or White. Obviously in the Indian community if an Indian man lands a White woman he is considered successful. If he lands a Black or Latin women he is "downgrading himself" in society, that is how it has been like with most Indians I have met in my life.

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Okay, I think it's fine if you are attracted to a particular Latina and want to ask them out. I even think it's fine if you're nervous about it and need to do surveys to assuage the cognitive dissonance in your own mind. I've lived abroad and dated people from other countries. I understand this thinking, to a degree. If you like a girl, regardless of her color or background, date her. If people have generalized preferences they realize they like, especially re: looks, I also think that's fine.

 

What I think is silly is dating a Latina because you want to get to know the culture or because she is Latina.

 

Does this distinction make sense? You come off as the latter here. That may or may not be the case, but it's how you've come across.

 

Side question: Why do you have to date someone to learn about another culture? I sincerely hope you are not dating a Latina because you are "curious about the culture." I mean, there are other ways to be culturally informed.

 

Culture is one of the reasons and in the past certain things have just turned me on about Latin girls. I won't write a novel on my preference but lets just say I have it, it's there and I want to stick with it because something about Latin girls just turns me on. I have dated girls who have been Asian and White and they just didn't do it for me.

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Do you find Rihanna attractive? You do know she is Latina.

 

Do you find indigenous women (native Americans) attractive? They make up a heavy percentage of the Latin population.

 

What exactly would all the women of Latin America have in common that would make them attractive to you?

 

It doesn't seem like you know Latinas very well, at all.

 

Are you fantasizing of some Jlo doll? Or maybe a Penelope Cruz, but instead a Latin American rendition? Maybe you like Shakira? A victoria secret model?

 

Maybe you liked a black Latina from Cuban? The puertoricans?

 

How would you feel if there was a male Indian model, and I said, man Indian men are so attractive, but the only thing I based that attraction on was the male Indian model? Would you think that a fair and accurate representation? What if the male Indian had long, dark shiny hair to his hips, beautiful abs, and stood over 6ft and spoke in a British accent?

 

You talk about Latina culture. There are some Latinos in America who don't know how to speak Spanish. Some girls do not know how to cook so if you're expecting warm enchiladas when you get home, don't bet on it. Some women can't dance, so asking a Latina girl to a salsa club might not do you any good. What kind of culture are you looking for? When will it be authentic?

 

I am talking about the superficial nature of your attraction to women. It's not based on the women at all, but just how you think they ought to be. It also seems to be about shocking other people. You want people to say, "Wowzer! A Latina girl with that Indian dude! I ain't neva seen that before." That's called a trophy wife. I mean, your relationship with the girl isn't based on your relationship with the girl, it's about how other people respond to your relationship with the girl. It's about how you are talked about because of your relationship, the popularity or infamy you recieve.

 

It's all fine and dandy if you're in college and you want to fit in and fit out at the same time, which I think is what you're going for. I know the feeling. But don't expect it to last very long unless you start realizing she is a woman, with trials and tribulations, attributes and flaws regardless of her background.

 

The reason I said I don't want anyone to date me because I am an Latina is because all throughout my relationship, I don't want to have to check off boxes that prove I am latina. Do your family have papers? Is one of your family illegals? Can you speak Spanish? etc.

 

I like mac and cheese better than tortillas. One of my favorite singers is Britney Spears. I do like to salsa dance, but I like all dances anyway. I did bellydance for a year and was pretty good at it. I did both Latin American ensemble at my school and Japanese Dance.

 

People who see me as Latina wouldn't see me at all. That's what I mean when I say, you like the idea of the woman than the actual woman herself.

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Why do you like Chocolate?

Why does orange taste better to you then apple?

Why does Caramel test better to you then chocolate?

 

Please sir, do give me a one page essay on your tastes, I believe that you think all chocolate is going to look good like the chocolate you see on the Hershey commercials. You should be more open minded and stop having preferences on what you eat.

 

See what I mean? You are really wasting your time typing up that BS, I have a tough time believing you are in college.

 

Labs? You say you like Labradors? Do you think all Labs are going to be like Marley? You shouldn't pick a dog just because it's a lab?

 

That is kind of where you are going with this, just wasting your time trying to change my preference and it will just go on to a heated debate with one of the users getting banned and this thread getting locked, I really want this thread to stay on topic and talk about Indians and interracial dating in the community. I feel that I made a large mistake, now in real life I will keep my preferences to myself since there are people out there who believe we don't have the freedom to like what we like or who we like.

 

PS: "It doesn't seem like you know Latinas very well, at all."

 

I thought Latinas didn't fit any category xD.

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I honestly have not met any Indian men worthy of dating!

I LOVE INDIAN MEN, BUT--I honestly don't know any yet. I hope I meet some where I'm going to school!

Honestly, though...Where I come from, Indian/white is NO big deal at all. You see it literally everywhere.

 

Can I Date you ? LOL

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I am counting on NYCMitch to lead us away from this debate and on to the topic at hand about Indian men and interracial dating. I find it rather stupid and pointless to defend my preferences since they are my preferences.

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LOL...Why that request? xD

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I just find it unfair to say that mixed is hotter than someone who would be considered to be the same race but lets not even debate that.

 

Anyways, I hate it when people say just because you are biracial you are hotter than someone who is lets say just Black. I have seen some busted up ugly biracial girls, I hate it when people put biracial people on a pedestal.

 

Be back in a few, I have something to tell you guys about what happened today.

 

I see where you are coming from. I don't believe mixed is better and I do encounter the whole thing with biracial people being placed on a pedestal. However, I can see why many people find mixed race people to be attractive. They usually have a unique/exotic look that can appeal to many racial groups.

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I see where you are coming from. I don't believe mixed is better and I do encounter the whole thing with biracial people being placed on a pedestal. However, I can see why many people find mixed race people to be attractive. They usually have a unique/exotic look that can appeal to many racial groups.

 

Yea, people keep thinking I am mixed with something. It is like everyone I have run into thinks Indians are supposed to be dark and have that certain look to them ya know, like people think Indians who have the lighter skin tone are Arabs or whatever.

 

Also, I found out something, I look A HECK of a lot like this guy that one girl in my class was making a preference to. Except I am a bit darker and have Black hair and but in terms of nose and shape face, so much more identical......

 

Wow, the girl I was chatting with watches soccer and she says his name is "Iker Casillas".

 

http://sportige.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/IkerCasillas.jpg

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DUDE YOU TALK ABOUT YOURSELF AND YOUR UNINDIAN LOOKS SO DAMN MUCH! It's honestly tiring me out, and I haven't even read half your posts.

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CRAP, I just realized I'm guilty of talking about my looks too. LOL BUT ITS DIFFERENT, HOKAY!

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ARRRRRRRRRGGHHHHHH

 

I was just gonna edit my post and delete the stuff where I talk about myself to stop another flame war from happening but it stopped me from doing so!!!!!

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No flames, man. I just...like, I don't get why you keep going on and on about not looking Indian.

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No flames, man. I just...like, I don't get why you keep going on and on about not looking Indian.

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Because I find it odd that I look different from other Indian guys...

 

=(

 

Nobody wants a light skin Indian brotha, everyone goin for dat Chocolate Indian look!

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Yea, people keep thinking I am mixed with something. It is like everyone I have run into thinks Indians are supposed to be dark and have that certain look to them ya know, like people think Indians who have the lighter skin tone are Arabs or whatever.

 

Also, I found out something, I look A HECK of a lot like this guy that one girl in my class was making a preference to. Except I am a bit darker and have Black hair and but in terms of nose and shape face, so much more identical......

 

Wow, the girl I was chatting with watches soccer and she says his name is "Iker Casillas".

 

http://sportige.com/wp-content/uploads/2009/12/IkerCasillas.jpg

 

Well you shouldn't have any problem out there! You sound hot:laugh:! The Indian guy I dated was South Indian and darker than myself, I love dark skin so I was feeling it, but I find the lighter Indians to be more exotic and some of the men are very sexy. There are none of those types here. Good luck and don't let anyone give you flack for liking what you like.

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I see where you are coming from. I don't believe mixed is better and I do encounter the whole thing with biracial people being placed on a pedestal. However, I can see why many people find mixed race people to be attractive. They usually have a unique/exotic look that can appeal to many racial groups.

 

Maybe it's just 'cause I grew up in the South, but when I was young, I definitely did not feel like I was put on a pedestal looks-wise because I was biracial. I just thought I looked weird.

 

I do find it odd when people say all biracial babies are more likely to be cute. I hear that one a lot these days. . . though most white/Korean babies (the biracial babies in question here are generally this) I've seen ARE pretty darn cute.

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Because I find it odd that I look different from other Indian guys...

 

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Nobody wants a light skin Indian brotha, everyone goin for dat Chocolate Indian look!

 

Ha! Reminds me of what goes on with many black people. The chocolate brothers get all of the love. The lighter men, not so much. However, when it comes to the women, it is the total opposite:p.

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Maybe it's just 'cause I grew up in the South, but when I was young, I definitely did not feel like I was put on a pedestal looks-wise because I was biracial. I just thought I looked weird.

I do find it odd when people say all biracial babies are more likely to be cute. I hear that one a lot these days. . . though most white/Korean babies (the biracial babies in question here are generally this) I've seen ARE pretty darn cute.

 

Really? What part of the South did you live in? I grew up in the South and I remember hearing people say "all mixed kids are so cute" and the black boys went crazy over the biracial girls--but these girls were pretty hot so I understood why. Did you live around a lot of black people? I notice that the whole color-discrimination thing does not happen everywhere, but it was very real where I grew up.

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Vicious violet if I met a sista like you I would date her in a heartbeat over the Latina that gave me flak for my preferences but my preferences are generally speaking.

 

Anyways as for the light skin brothas stereotype, I have a good friend, Black and Asian mix and he has the facial structure of rapper T.I (hope you guys know who that is) and he gets so much love from Black and White girls. I seen light skin Black males get a lot of love in my area, girls find them attractive. Light skin Indian males? Well I have only been with three girls and I am only 18 so I wouldn't know, not exactly a pimp here.

 

Also, nice to see the night end on a good note, the girl I was chatting with went to bed 20 minutes ago, I need to get some sleep to, will check back tomorrow, bye guys!

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