Indian guys in interracial relationships are rare, so have you seen exceptions?

[Labster12]

Humans - black, red, green, orange, etc. heavily mix when social norms allow for it, even in the south under slavery (have to use this example since if I said anything else, as an American you wouldn't understand it). Mainly why, it's nice to have diverse genes, in fact the more diverse the better. You don't look at a hot piece of ass and think they are great for no reason at all, there is millions of years of evolution at play. In fact, the most beautiful people they found are genetically the most average, meaning diverse. Point being, cultural norms are what are at play here, personally I have had a more than a fair share of gorgeous Indian women look at me like a hot tandoori meal but cracking the Hindi barrier was probably made it harder. My loss..

 

I've seen Indian men with white women mostly, but I've also seen a lot of children of Black/Indian background... and in NYC I've seen it ALL....

 

If by that you mean mixed = hotter, I disagree, personally for me, an Asian woman is a lot hotter than an Asian/White mixed woman, see, different tastes.

 

So in NYC, is it common to see Indian guy - Puerto Rican girl?

[Labster12]

You know this silly little poll of yours should be irrelevant to you...what matters is who you are attracted to and want to date...

 

Just a curiosity, man, quit making such a big deal out of it, don't like it then ignore it.

[Feelin Frisky]

I met a Pakistani girl last year. She was a "greeter" at a local CVS pharmacy. Really attractive but modest. A couple of days later, she's behind the counter at 7/11. I said: weren't you the greeter at CVS? She was so friendly and outgoing that it was such a refreshing rarity especially in NY. She went out of her way to find and make the flavor of coffee I wanted. When I thanked her for being so considerate she said: "what? What time to I get off from work?" I was a bit startled and assured her that I wasn't "that presumptive" and I was just appreciative of her thoughtfulness. She was half my age and gorgeous--not too ethnic at all. But after she introduced her brother and cousin who were also outstandingly friendly and seemingly unsuspicious of me, I felt that she probably deserved a proper Muslim counter-part as I'm a swaggering militant atheist. I kept it platonic with her but it was really compelling to go get coffee and fraternize with her. Her name was "Tuba" and she told me "just like the big horn". I wish everyone were as welcoming as these folk were. Hope Tuba is well.

[taiko]

Actually no, just no, this was a poll and survey.

 

As for the big cities thing, I know an Arab guy that lived in LA and was beaten up because the girl he was dating (now married to) is Puerto Rican. I am not obsessing over anything, that other topic is now basically over, this is a simply poll and survey type thing to see how rare interracial relationships with Indian guys are in other areas.

 

There may or may not be more Puerto Ricans then Indians in LA. Certainly not enough for a gang of them to care. If some Mexicans or Slavadorians started claiming La Raza as a cause it was probably because they thought your friend was Black and the area was were Black and Latino gangs were fighting for local turf.

[Sanman]

I have 1, 3, 5 on your list covered at one point or another. If I include marriages of other family members, I have the rest of your list covered. Also, you can include Pakistani on that list for me. I could have others, but I am primarily attracted to white/hispanic/Indian/middle eastern/jewish.

 

 

I'm black American and have dated an Indian guy and almost another and I personally know of other black/white American girls who have dated Indian guys. The Indian guys here are so isolated from everyone else that many girls do not consider them as an option. Honestly, I'm not sure if I could see myself doing it again unless he were more Westernized. Many American women get the vibe that Indian men will date/sex you but won't consider you for marriage. I know that not all Indian men feel this way, but it is stereotype that affects how many American women perceive Indian males.

 

It is thoughts like these that frustrate me. I am as liberal as they come and run into a lot of this. I was recently out with an Indian woman (born there) and she admitted she almost refused to see me because she thought I was as traditional as every other guy. She only gave me a chance because I was born here. Hell, I have dated two muslim women and that is as bad as it can get parental anger-wise. I primarily date Indian women now as I online date a lot and that is who mostly respond so it is easier to fgiltter my searches that way. There really needs to be an online dating filter so that I can see which women of all ethnicities wnat to date Inian men. As it is, I just have to guess. The non-indian women I have dated all came from real life experiences.

[NYCmitch25]

If by that you mean mixed = hotter, I disagree, personally for me, an Asian woman is a lot hotter than an Asian/White mixed woman, see, different tastes.

 

So in NYC, is it common to see Indian guy - Puerto Rican girl?

 

You are too one-dimensional my friend.. :-)

 

Well, there is some grey area, hate to burst your bubble but that Asian woman is probably very genetically mixed to begin with. For instance there are like 4 races of "white people" in what makes up I think is the are that makes up Sweden. Many Brazilian women and latin American women are touted as beautiful - all have brown skin but have African mothers in their DNA long with European and indigenous people. Italian people live on the borders of a lot of the world, I'm sure their Arab and other mixed background adds a lot to the mix. Also, you are talking your preference so it's your opinion and we can leave it at that.

 

 

PS> the show stopper is this - we are all of African background.. don't tell the KKK they might have to change thier mascot. There is only something like 200K years of evolution between all humans.. thats like out of 10 million ..

Edited August 19, 2010 by NYCmitch25

[allina]

I am a white woman (Eastern European but raised in the US), I am marrying my fiance, who is Indian is a couple weeks.

 

I think that as time goes on interracial relationships are seen more and more often, especially in very culturally diverse areas.

[ViciousViolet]

If by that you mean mixed = hotter, I disagree, personally for me, an Asian woman is a lot hotter than an Asian/White mixed woman, see, different tastes.

 

So in NYC, is it common to see Indian guy - Puerto Rican girl?

 

Now I'm confused. You just said that you find Latinas to be very attractive in another thread. They are some of the most racially mixed women you will find--European, African, and Native American. Take the goddess known as Adriana Lima for example. She's mixed with some of everything and this racial diversity makes her look unique and is very alluring for many.

[alphamale]

I met a Pakistani girl last year. She was a "greeter" at a local CVS pharmacy. Really attractive but modest. A couple of days later, she's behind the counter at 7/11.

hmm a pakistani behind the counter of a 7-11, isn't that original?

[Feelin Frisky]

hmm a pakistani behind the counter of a 7-11, isn't that original?

 

That girl was a keeper. She worked at least two jobs that I know of and always looked fresh and in command as well as friendly and out-going. I'm sure her dad was the 7/11 franchisee and her future will be a great deal brighter than merely checking out 12 packs and lottery tickets. No way she settles for that.

[Labster12]

Now I'm confused. You just said that you find Latinas to be very attractive in another thread. They are some of the most racially mixed women you will find--European, African, and Native American. Take the goddess known as Adriana Lima for example. She's mixed with some of everything and this racial diversity makes her look unique and is very alluring for many.

 

I just find it unfair to say that mixed is hotter than someone who would be considered to be the same race but lets not even debate that.

 

Anyways, I hate it when people say just because you are biracial you are hotter than someone who is lets say just Black. I have seen some busted up ugly biracial girls, I hate it when people put biracial people on a pedestal.

 

Be back in a few, I have something to tell you guys about what happened today.

[alexlakeman]

Dude, no white / hispanic woman is going to take you home to mom / dad... stick with the same race, don't mix it up.. you should come where I live, tons of pakisanis and other indian type people that come work over at a local company on visas... probably 100+ lol... good luck...

 

If it doesn't work out, there's always strip clubs.... good luck

[alphamale]

i know lots of indian dudes married to chicks from other races. but most of them are tall, lighter skinned, not nerdy and are professionals

[Labster12]

i know lots of indian dudes married to chicks from other races. but most of them are tall, lighter skinned, not nerdy and are professionals

 

Tall? I am about 6"1 the last time I measured myself (today)

Light skinned? People say I am a tan darker than White and most of the Hispanics, Middle Eastern and Italians I have run into have thought I am one of them.

 

One girl in my class who watches soccer told me I am a Black hair and brown eyed version of the goal keeper for Spain in the past world cup but I don't know who she was talking about I am not into soccer.

[Labster12]

Looks like number 3 maybe happening for me. In my class there is this one girl (Puerto Rican), kind of White for a Puerto Rican girl, basically looks like a White girl with dark curly hair but she has a hot body. We talked for an hour today during break and we just talked and talked and had a lot of common interests, she sent me a friend request on facebook and well, we are talking right now about class and sharing interests. A week ago she was smiling at me when she looked at me, she said she thought I was a Hispanic dude, she asked me today if I was Hispanic and that is how the conversation was started.

 

Anyways that is as far as I will take it, I just got out of a relationship about 5 months ago and it was a painful break up. That was one Asian chick with a really bad temper that I was dating......

 

She says that she had a crush on me the first day we met but me being Indian will be tough for her because her mother used to date an Indian man that knocked her up and left her for an Indian woman......

Her mother had to take care of the kid who is her older brother.......

She said that her mom may throw some fits about her dating an Indian guy due to the fact that she had such a bad experience with an Indian guy.......

Edited August 20, 2010 by Labster12

[Chubbi]

It sounds to me that the OP likes the idea of the girl more than the actual girl. I'm a Latina, but I wouldn't want anyone to like me just because I'm a Latina.

 

Then, he uses ethnicities as descriptions, and though they are, they're actually empty and don't tell you anything about the person at all.

 

Men like this at my college I leave them alone. Their world is too simple for me. Everyone has a category and people are supposed to fit in them neatly. I can't live or think of the world like that. My depth of characterization is way more complicated than that, but alas I am a fiction writer.

[SarahRose]

+1. I work for an Indian company and have been to India (Mumbai) several times. There are powerful, powerful cultural forces at work preventing Indians from marrying outside their caste, much less their ethnicity. Indians (of both genders) almost never do it. It's even more rare than Japanese-foreigner marriages, which is something I know a lot about.

 

Have you been to a large multi day traditional Indiana wedding? Amazing! Great fun!

[Labster12]

It sounds to me that the OP likes the idea of the girl more than the actual girl. I'm a Latina, but I wouldn't want anyone to like me just because I'm a Latina.

 

Then, he uses ethnicities as descriptions, and though they are, they're actually empty and don't tell you anything about the person at all.

 

Men like this at my college I leave them alone. Their world is too simple for me. Everyone has a category and people are supposed to fit in them neatly. I can't live or think of the world like that. My depth of characterization is way more complicated than that, but alas I am a fiction writer.

 

I have my preferences and could care less if others accept them or not, don't want approval. If someone wanted to date me because I was an Indian guy, I would be flattered rather than throwing a fit. And don't worry, I would probably not even bother with you if I met you in real life, especially not right now...

 

Also it would be idiotic to say I would date any Latina, like lets say a girl from South LA with a gang family, stereotypically speaking that is, and my god I cannot stand the ones who are preppy and heavily White washed.

You need to stop kidding yourself.

Edited August 20, 2010 by Labster12

[zengirl]

It sounds to me that the OP likes the idea of the girl more than the actual girl. I'm a Latina, but I wouldn't want anyone to like me just because I'm a Latina.

 

Then, he uses ethnicities as descriptions, and though they are, they're actually empty and don't tell you anything about the person at all.

 

Men like this at my college I leave them alone. Their world is too simple for me. Everyone has a category and people are supposed to fit in them neatly. I can't live or think of the world like that. My depth of characterization is way more complicated than that, but alas I am a fiction writer.

 

+1 Agreed.

 

I was holding back judgment till the fellow said he'd be flattered somebody wanted to date him because he's Indian (what a crappy reason to want to date a person), because sometimes these things are just misconstrued. But good call.

 

(This is not the same as saying, "I happen to be attracted to blahblablah" gals or "Most [ethnicity/country/culture] girls have these attractive physical features" etc, of course.)

[temporaryvisa]

I honestly have not met any Indian men worthy of dating!

I LOVE INDIAN MEN, BUT--I honestly don't know any yet. I hope I meet some where I'm going to school!

Honestly, though...Where I come from, Indian/white is NO big deal at all. You see it literally everywhere.

[Labster12]

Uh no its not, if you are attracted to someone you date them, period. If I am attracted to Latinas I am not going to date a Blonde if I can date a Latina and I am not interested in a politically correct loon that throws a hissy fit because I find a certain ethnicity and culture attractive.

 

And last time I checked, you are not running my personal life, I like Latinas and Asian women the most, I am not into White girls or Black girls generally speaking.

 

Eitherways this is pointless as I am dating to be with someone who I find the best match rather than dating to impress some politically correct loons with a snobbish demeanor who take the time to critique the preferences of others. I don't hear Indian men who obsess over White skin hearing flak.

 

So go on, write a hate message on this board about how people like me are inferior to you because we actually go by our preferences instead of caring about what the society thinks. I will (hopefully) be spending my time with someone I am attracted to and taking my spare time to post on here as usual.

 

What next? I am "close minded" and "sexist" because I only date girls and not guys? You people need to get your heads out of the gutter.

[Labster12]

I honestly have not met any Indian men worthy of dating!

I LOVE INDIAN MEN, BUT--I honestly don't know any yet. I hope I meet some where I'm going to school!

Honestly, though...Where I come from, Indian/white is NO big deal at all. You see it literally everywhere.

 

See that is another thing, I am not like most Indian men who obsess over White girls. We have like three male Indian students at my university and all of them slob over White girls and ask other guys how to get with the "American women". And by that they mean White girls.

 

Heck, I am not even that crazy over Latinas, I posted this for a poll and survey purpose but obviously most people are not mature enough to handle a conversation about a strict culture and feel the need to go on menopause because of the preferences of others.

 

And I mean so what if I like Latinas more than White and Black girls? I have the freedom to have my preferences.

[Chubbi]

I have my preferences and could care less if others accept them or not, don't want approval. If someone wanted to date me because I was an Indian guy, I would be flattered rather than throwing a fit. And don't worry, I would probably not even bother with you if I met you in real life, especially not right now...

 

Also it would be idiotic to say I would date any Latina, like lets say a girl from South LA with a gang family, stereotypically speaking that is, and my god I cannot stand the ones who are preppy and heavily White washed.

You need to stop kidding yourself.

 

It took me a moment to wonder where this answer came from, and then I realized you were upset that I said I wouldn't date men who classify the world so simply in neat little category boxes (that no one actually adheres to). Ohhhh.

 

And then you go on to demonstrate to all of us the limits of what a Latina's background is... either gangs or white washed.

 

Thanks for proving my point.

Edited August 20, 2010 by Chubbi

[Labster12]

It took me a moment to wonder where this answer came from, and then I realized you were upset that I said I wouldn't date men who classify the world so simply in neat little category boxes (that no one actually adheres to). Ohhhh.

 

And then you go on to demonstrate to all of us the limits of what a Latina's background is... either gangs or white washed. LOL

 

Thanks for proving my point.

 

Actually, many people even the politically correct classify the world into categories. People who call other racist and close minded in most cases are just as racist themselves and close minded themselves so no need to get on a high horse and feel like you are superior to everyone because you are "open minded". I have my preferences, can't respect them? Too bad, go to a country where people do not have the freedom to date who they like.

 

For the bold, you need better reading skills. I said that it would be IDIOTIC for you to assume I would date a Latina just because she is a Latina, I gave two examples of the type which I won't date right off the bat. Obviously a 500 lb Latin girl wouldn't be on the top of my list. I am interested in Hispanic culture and the women, and I can definitely say that you would be an exception to that preference.

 

Some of us like Chocolate ice cream, some like strawberry, some like Vanilla and some like Caramel. I won't be changing my taste because some politically correct loon has an issue with it.

[USMCHokie]

So go on, write a hate message on this board about how people like me are inferior to you because we actually go by our preferences instead of caring about what the society thinks. I will (hopefully) be spending my time with someone I am attracted to and taking my spare time to post on here as usual.

 

You say this, yet this thread exists...that made me lulz...