acj Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 I have known this guy since the beginning of the year... we are members of the same club. We have done a little flirting, then a month ago we were at an event and spent the whole night talking, him putting his arm around me and getting cozy. We saw each other again at another event two weeks later, which is when the sparks flew... way too heavy make-out session (he also made it a point to tell me that night that he was not dating anyone else this night). Saw him the next day at another event, had a great time, with a hug and kiss at the end of the night and he asked me out for the next day. We got together the next day, had a blast, at the end of the night another heavy make-out session. A couple days later we see each other at a happy hour, he hugs me and talks with his friends about the fun time we had a couple days earlier. When he was talking to me only he seemed nervous... talking non-stop. This past weekend, two more events where I see him and we hang out, one of the nights ended up in a make-out session. So on Monday, he emails me info about an event this weekend, and says he did not know if I knew about this. I say this would be fun, is this an invitation? He waits two days, then responds back saying he is sorry he did not get back to me sooner, that it was more of an fyi email, then tells me that his dad just had surgery and he was taking it day by day on the fun. I am not sure why he would send an email like this... he had to text me to get my email that day before he sent it! Of course my insecurities come out, my thinking he is not interested, thinking we should not have had the heavy make-out sessions, that maybe that was all he is interested in...and I blew it! I really like him and would like to go on a date with him and get to know him better.... away from the club events. I do not just want to be his "club fling"... that is not who I am! However I will not chase after him either! Ugh! Thoughts?
jamesum Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 What? Are you guys like 14 years old? Its not like you guys had sex.
seibert253 Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 His dad just had surgery. I'm sure this is foremost in his mind right now. I'm not convinced you blew it, he's got other things on his plate right now. Here's a suggestion: Email or text him expressing your sympathies for his dad, and you hope he has a speedy and successful recovery. Tell you if needs anything to ask, and end it with that you would like to get together soon. His response will let you know how he feels about you.
Author acj Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 I did respond to his email saying that I hope his recovery is going well and that I hope he gets to feeling better soon. That was just a couple hours ago... no response yet, although I am not really expecting one. I hate it that my insecurities take over and I start negative thinking... I must stop that!... I certainly do not want him to know that!
Author acj Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 What? Are you guys like 14 years old? Its not like you guys had sex. No, we are not children. Just a confusing situation to ME that I though this forum could help me sort through.
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