dispatch3d Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 some comments she gave would be: "That guy is staring at me in the car ahead." "That guy keeps looking at me it's making me uncomfortable." "I could tell (some dude) was about to hit on me so I kinda just left there. I talked to him last week." That is it. Literally all she said about them. She talks waywayway more about the ones that are successful than those guys. And even in all those instances it isn't guys who have hit on her, it's guys who are thinking about hitting on her.
Author MrNate Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 Woman laughing about the guys that hit on them just doesn't happen. Like at all. I'm friends with a girl who when she goes out gets hit on by usually 7-10 guys minimum. I have barely heard about her talking about ANY guy she's rejected. In actually fact, I have definitely definitely talked more about some guy/guys she's had to reject than they have. Specifically there was one time where it was a bunch of girls+me+mayyyybbee one or two other guys dancing with the girls and literally 10-12 guys formed a circle around us staring. I have never been so uncomfortable. And she still has never mentioned anything about those guys. I was very good friends with her, and still am pretty good friends with her. So just trust me when I tell you this - it doesn't happen. They forget you even existed within 2 days. That's what I think. I would imagine most women have lives, and would not obsess over the fact some guy hit on them at some point in the past. I would say a woman is more likely to be impressed that the guy has guts, as opposed to just laughing at him.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 That's what I think. I would imagine most women have lives, and would not obsess over the fact some guy hit on them at some point in the past. I would say a woman is more likely to be impressed that the guy has guts, as opposed to just laughing at him. So true so go hit on them and UPDATE us tomorrow. Talk is cheap, action is where its at.
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 This is absolutely what my gut is telling me. I feel like that I'm a pretty normal guy with no quirks. If you saw me, you wouldn't tell that area was lacking haha. But I really do agree with this, I feel like everything I'm concerned about will come together once I actually try. I knew I struck a chord with you for some odd reason, no homo. Yep...I definitely related to your post...and you're still hella young, so you should have absolutely nothing to worry about... No homo.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Yep...I definitely related to your post...and you're still hella young, so you should have absolutely nothing to worry about... No homo. Even if he was old he would have nothing to worry about.
USMCHokie Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 Even if he was old he would have nothing to worry about. I agree...but especially for a guy in his early 20's who comes here hopelessly wondering whether he'll ever date or if it's "too late" for him, being 21 is nothing...they worry primarily because they compare themselves to their peers from high school and college who did nothing but hook up with girls and be in relationships...so they feel that if they missed out on all of that, then they must be screwed for life, which you know is hardly the truth... I'm proud to be a late bloomer.
Green Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 I agree...but especially for a guy in his early 20's who comes here hopelessly wondering whether he'll ever date or if it's "too late" for him, being 21 is nothing...they worry primarily because they compare themselves to their peers from high school and college who did nothing but hook up with girls and be in relationships...so they feel that if they missed out on all of that, then they must be screwed for life, which you know is hardly the truth... I'm proud to be a late bloomer. I think its made me better that I was able to conquer my fear of rejection at 22 as compared to being a young teenager who got laid ect.
Author MrNate Posted August 19, 2010 Author Posted August 19, 2010 OP, did you know they named a hamburger after me? (RE: you being called 'fat' as a child). Really, IMO, all it takes is rote repetition and caring less. Everything on the path to failures I experienced over the years with women essentially boiled down to that; not enough asking out and pressing flesh, along with caring too much about people who shouldn't have mattered because they had not yet earned the privilege of mattering. So, in the next week, talk to ten women and don't even think about dating a one of them. Experience them just as human beings. If you say you do that already, good; do it again Then, talk with them and *feel* the attraction. Don't verbalize it. Feel it. Experience it. Still, no dating. Get used to talking with women and *feeling* it and not letting it affect you. Then, start looking for social cues of their interest (widely discussed or you know already) and integrate that into the dynamic, still without expectations of asking her out or dating her. Care less about that and more about how you interact and feel. Make it about *you*. This is not a methodology to 'get' women, but rather a potential method of feeling differently about *yourself* when you are with a woman. The dating tips widely discussed here for 'getting' women will work just fine once you're in the right frame of mind. Or, you can get married and divorced like I did. Sure cure. After rereading this, I think I'll take you up on this, Carhill. It seems well thought out.
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