caramel c Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 Where are the great women like you? Keep looking! After all, you only need to find ONE
caramel c Posted August 18, 2010 Posted August 18, 2010 That's true, but where is she? I don't yet know where to look. I'm hoping to find her before I'm in my 40s. The question is: Where was she? You will only be able to answer that question after you find her! Now is the time to keep your eyes and ears open. Just keep living your life day to day. Accept invitations. Show up and look good! Maintain your friendships and your relationships with family members. They know you best. You never know when you will meet someone.
caramel c Posted August 19, 2010 Posted August 19, 2010 I have much more quality than quantity in my friends. I need to get out more and I need to ask for more phone numbers when I talk to someone new. This is something that I can change. I wish I was better at reading signs as to when a woman is interested. I think I'm poor at this and it's very possible that I could have missed some signs of interest and had absolutely no idea. I'm not sure if this is something that can be changed. How do I tell the difference between her just being friendly and her showing interest? Well, the thing to remember is that you don't need to actually know she's interested before you ask. Try to take the pressure off of reading signs. Sure, they do help, but they should not be the only determining factor. What I think would help you is to practice taking a little bit of risk in this area. You will encounter rejection I'm sure, but it is normal and it is easier to handle the more you get used to it. Of course the goal is NOT to be rejected, but you will never know if you don't ask. Try it!
carhill Posted August 22, 2010 Posted August 22, 2010 My advice would be to cease projecting aspects of your personal dynamic onto the psyches of others. None of us knows what others think or feel other than what they *communicate* to us. We can *guess*. A woman's body looks like your body, only female. Bodies are bodies. A good relationship won't end from some awkward sex. Trust me
carhill Posted August 23, 2010 Posted August 23, 2010 LOL, I think nearly 100% of the women in my 'date a separated man' thread said (communicated, I didn't read their minds) they wouldn't date a separated man, yet I've still found women to date and kiss and hug and all those things. If I wanted to f*ck some women, I'd find those too. It's a big world. You're forgetting that I was a late virgin. I've walked your path. Your choice if you don't want to listen. Good luck
FearandLoathing Posted August 24, 2010 Posted August 24, 2010 My last boyfriend was a virgin, I didn't mind because I liked him as a person and wanted to be in a relationship with him. Anyway, people get better with practice and he definitely got better Everyone's got to start somewhere
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