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I'm good at it at work, and for asking for directions or for asking for the occasional smoke, or just normal conversation. I'm excellent at it.

 

But I DO require tips.. Because I really want to use my boldness to ask guys out. I hate the fact I am lonely at 18, and already hung up on guys. NO! I want to date around, and have good times!

 

But please answer me. :)

1) If a girl asks you out, irrespective of looks, is it emasculating? :(

2) If you want to decline a girl who asks you out, how would you do it?

3) How do I approach a guy? This is what I'd most probably do. Give them my best winning smile and then a funny little hello. And then I'd say, You are so cute to look at! And if they blush, I'd say, do you have a girlfriend? You are so kawaii!

 

ROFL. Well this might be because I'm picturing it with Asians who dont speak much english...

And then I'd say, can I have your phone numba? LOL. It is important to remember though, that most asians don't like assertive women (right?)

 

 

Honestly, though, I just need tips, because I DONT want to come across desperate. I just wanna have a great time!

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I don't think you have to approach people. Just join a club for asians when you go to college. They arn't only for asians. Then people will aproach you. Just be friendly with people.

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I don't think you have to approach people. Just join a club for asians when you go to college. They arn't only for asians. Then people will aproach you. Just be friendly with people.

Noooo. :( Asians just never approach anyone! Seriously, they never approach me, especially because I'm Indian. :(

 

IT'S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN IF I DON'T MAKE IT HAPPEN!

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Noooo. :( Asians just never approach anyone! Seriously, they never approach me, especially because I'm Indian. :(

 

IT'S NEVER GOING TO HAPPEN IF I DON'T MAKE IT HAPPEN!

 

Well if you see a guy you like just walk over and ask him what time it is. Then ask him if he is having a good day. Hopefuly he will make some small talk. If you still like him after talking to him then just say "heres my number" and either write your name and number on a piece of paper. or put it into his phone for him. Then just say "call me"

 

The real reason women don't hit on men is because it is scary to face rejection. As a man you just have to learn to face rejection... or you have a poor dating life. As a woman you have the option of just waiting for guys to hit on you. But if you are brave enough to face rejection then it will only help you get dates.

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But please answer me. :)

1) If a girl asks you out, irrespective of looks, is it emasculating? :(

2) If you want to decline a girl who asks you out, how would you do it?

3) How do I approach a guy?...

 

1) It's not emasculating. If someone as cute as you asked me out, I'd be extremely flattered. OTOH, if some butch with tatts and narrow hips asked me out, I'd gulp and probably say I'm flattered but I don't think that's a good idea.

2) See Item 1

3) You seem to have the goods to tickle many a man's fancy. And if you are as bold as you say you are, you will be soon fighting off suiters of all ilks.

 

You are wayyy too young for me but honestly, I hope to see you riding an elephant in full Indian attire through my dreams tonight. ;)

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1. Not even a little bit

2. Politely

3. "Hello" should do the trick. If he's awkward, follow up with something like "nice watch, where did you get it" or "what are you reading/listening to/shopping for/etc." You're not going to have any trouble initiating fine conversations as long as you accept that every once it a while it will awkwardly go nowhere.

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but honestly, I hope to see you riding an elephant in full Indian attire through my dreams tonight. ;)

 

Great comment! OMG that got me LOL

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1) If a girl asks you out, irrespective of looks, is it emasculating? :(

2) If you want to decline a girl who asks you out, how would you do it?

3) How do I approach a guy? This is what I'd most probably do. Give them my best winning smile and then a funny little hello. And then I'd say, You are so cute to look at! And if they blush, I'd say, do you have a girlfriend? You are so kawaii!

 

1. Absolutely not, it's just a myth certain women use to justify not leaving their comfort zone.

 

2. Tell her I'm not available that night and leave it at that. If it's an open-ended date request, "sorry I'm not interested right now" with no further detail.

 

3. Put yourself in proximity of him. If there's music, move a bit to it. If he is interested and worth your while he will pick up on your interest and take things from there.

 

Don't do the things you list. The dynamics for a woman asking a man out are not much different than the usual man approaching and asking. Spare compliments, flirt and be light and witty without throwing yourself at him or kissing his ass.

 

One thing you must be aware of is that if you do decide to approach more men assertively, they will assume you will be willing to have sex with them quickly. That's not fair, I know, just a given reality you have to think about. If you are looking for sex yourself, though, no problem.

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god! That;s so sweet! This is why I love older men. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO COMPLIMENT YA! Guys my age give me compliments like "your hot lolz" I'm like, well THANKS but honestly? How does that make me special? YOU THINK MILEY CYRUS IS HOT!

:p

 

 

I like that advice. And yes, a LOT of my conversations with customers at work go awkwardly nowhere. It's because they don't want to hear about the latest promotion, or they're having a bad day and this idiot with dimples is going to piss them off :$

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god! That;s so sweet! This is why I love older men. THEY ARE NOT AFRAID TO COMPLIMENT YA! Guys my age give me compliments like "your hot lolz" I'm like, well THANKS but honestly? How does that make me special? YOU THINK MILEY CYRUS IS HOT!

:p

 

 

I like that advice. And yes, a LOT of my conversations with customers at work go awkwardly nowhere. It's because they don't want to hear about the latest promotion, or they're having a bad day and this idiot with dimples is going to piss them off :$

 

You can go out with older men if you want... I mean as long as you find them attractive why not.

 

 

That looks fun

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LOL.

Well India IS in Asia, right?

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LOL.

Well India IS in Asia, right?

 

I guess but I meant you like the type of asians you want to be dating

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Whoa Nellie! What a beautiful image. My vision of you're riding that elephant and looking down at me from your high seat--perhaps snapping your head away with a display of proud superiority--just got much more depth. I would worship the ground you walked on in that moo-moo. :love::D

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LOL if a human with a vagina talked to any of the Asian guys I know, I think they would simply faint in astonishment.

 

I think even if a robot or alien or what ever with a vagina talked to them it would be the same result.

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Reiterating, just stand close to them, you don't need to approach men. If you feel you must, just go "OWWW!" loudly. They will ask you what's wrong. Tell them a bug bit you and smile at them then start laughing lightly. If they have a pulse and aren't gay, they will start up.

 

Don't be in such a hurry at 18 to get a bunch of guys though, just get out and socialize, meet all types of people. You seem a little prematurely anxious, it will happen for you, don't rush it.

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You're only 18. If I'm still a baby at 22, you definitely are.

 

 

1) If a girl asks you out, irrespective of looks, is it emasculating? :(

 

 

Not at all. It takes a lot of courage to approach someone. I've been approached by good looking girls and some well...not so good looking ones. It certainly makes it easier for me and I know she's at least somewhat interested.

 

 

2) If you want to decline a girl who asks you out, how would you do it?

 

 

Honestly. Never lead someone on. It's hurtful and downright cruel. I would simply tell her I want to remain friends. A guy friendzoning a girl. Who would have thought lol?

 

 

3) How do I approach a guy? This is what I'd most probably do. Give them my best winning smile and then a funny little hello. And then I'd say, You are so cute to look at! And if they blush, I'd say, do you have a girlfriend? You are so kawaii!

 

 

Introduce yourself and simply start a conversation. Doesn't matter if it's about the weather. Anything to break the ice. But, do avoid saying someone is cute. It's rather awkward.

 

 

And no, it's not desperate to ask a guy out. If it's desperate for a girl to do it, it's also desperate for a guy to do it. This is 2010. Don't use tradition as a reason to not approach a guy because more guys are refusing to make the first move. If you want something or someone, you have to put in effort. That's how it works in any other aspect of life. You control your destiny.

Feelin Frisky Established Member

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...But, do avoid saying someone is cute. It's rather awkward...

 

 

I think that would be cute in and of itself. I'd say "yeah? do ya think?" (like the sly devil I am). :D

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Whoa Nellie! What a beautiful image. My vision of you're riding that elephant and looking down at me from your high seat--perhaps snapping your head away with a display of proud superiority--just got much more depth. I would worship the ground you walked on in that moo-moo. :love::D

:$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$$?

 

THAT'S NOT A MUMU.

it's a sariiiiiiiiiiii, theyre so nice.

 

I'm nothing at all! Want to see my idol?

 

PREITY ZINTA!

 

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/hs103.ash2/38509_417823289726_516764726_4435121_2422740_n.jpg

 

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/hs103.ash2/38509_417823304726_516764726_4435123_4658031_n.jpg

 

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-snc4/hs231.snc4/38887_417824224726_516764726_4435126_1667713_n.jpg

 

http://sphotos.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-ash2/hs111.ash2/38887_417824234726_516764726_4435128_521739_n.jpg

Feelin Frisky Established Member

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Thanks for straightening me out--on the sariiiii. I want to get it right.

 

Nice idol.

 

Here's one of mine:

 

http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a242/RareBird0/freida1.jpg

http://i12.photobucket.com/albums/a242/RareBird0/freida2.jpg

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I'm good at it at work, and for asking for directions or for asking for the occasional smoke, or just normal conversation. I'm excellent at it.

 

But I DO require tips.. Because I really want to use my boldness to ask guys out. I hate the fact I am lonely at 18, and already hung up on guys. NO! I want to date around, and have good times!

 

But please answer me. :)

1) If a girl asks you out, irrespective of looks, is it emasculating? :(

2) If you want to decline a girl who asks you out, how would you do it?

3) How do I approach a guy? This is what I'd most probably do. Give them my best winning smile and then a funny little hello. And then I'd say, You are so cute to look at! And if they blush, I'd say, do you have a girlfriend? You are so kawaii!

 

ROFL. Well this might be because I'm picturing it with Asians who dont speak much english...

And then I'd say, can I have your phone numba? LOL. It is important to remember though, that most asians don't like assertive women (right?)

 

 

Honestly, though, I just need tips, because I DONT want to come across desperate. I just wanna have a great time!

 

I like you. Where were you when I was 20?

 

If you're already good at 'normal' conversation, you're already there. Next time, have a 'normal' conversation. But, make eye contact with the guy and smile. If he smiles back and looks away, reach out and touch his arm. If he's still smiling, ask him if he wants your number.

 

Done.

 

1 - Nope, not at all. I dig it.

 

2 - "Hey, I'm flattered and everything but I have a gf (even if it's a lie).

 

3 - I wouldn't come on so strong with the 'you're cute to look at' things. It's a little pushy. See what I wrote above... A guy would have to be thick, or not into you to ignore that.

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I think even if a robot or alien or what ever with a vagina talked to them it would be the same result.

 

 

anyone wud be astonished if an alien or a robot talked to them! LOL

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I like you. Where were you when I was 20?

 

If you're already good at 'normal' conversation, you're already there. Next time, have a 'normal' conversation. But, make eye contact with the guy and smile. If he smiles back and looks away, reach out and touch his arm. If he's still smiling, ask him if he wants your number.

 

Done.

 

1 - Nope, not at all. I dig it.

 

2 - "Hey, I'm flattered and everything but I have a gf (even if it's a lie).

 

3 - I wouldn't come on so strong with the 'you're cute to look at' things. It's a little pushy. See what I wrote above... A guy would have to be thick, or not into you to ignore that.

 

 

ohh my god! THAT IS THE WORST! I do that exact thing (come on too strong) like... On a first date, I was kissing the asians hands and stuff and we were laying on the grass and I pretended to check his head for lice. And then I kissed him and told him he was beautiful!! And he totally cited that when he dumped me.

 

And online, i used to tell this guy that I wanted him bad, but only because I already knew he didnt want me, and i wanted to turn him on :(

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