bboy Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 For those of you who are past first day, first week or even first month, care to share a little progress in your life? Do you have the same reoccurring thoughts as often as before? How is your health doing? Anything else improved? Starting to see other men/women attractive? Some positive vibe wouldn't be bad. I've noticed for example that I sometimes can get in a good mood and think: "I hope she's doing well, she and I wasn't meant anyway" "I lived before I met her, I can live after I met her" "I'm actually looking forward to go have a coffee with a friend today" "I don't have to contact my support group 200 times a day, I just need one phone call with someone to make me feel good" "Oops, I'm more stressed about my job than about my ex..." It's by far not over, but there are small lights here and there..
skydiveaddict Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 sorry but I've ht the wall. It's going the other way
Iselia Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 For those of you who are past first day, first week or even first month, care to share a little progress in your life? Do you have the same reoccurring thoughts as often as before? How is your health doing? Anything else improved? Starting to see other men/women attractive? Some positive vibe wouldn't be bad. I've noticed for example that I sometimes can get in a good mood and think: "I hope she's doing well, she and I wasn't meant anyway" "I lived before I met her, I can live after I met her" "I'm actually looking forward to go have a coffee with a friend today" "I don't have to contact my support group 200 times a day, I just need one phone call with someone to make me feel good" "Oops, I'm more stressed about my job than about my ex..." It's by far not over, but there are small lights here and there.. 4 months in and I still think about her all the time. It's horrible. Doesn't help that she texted me today. At least I just deleted it on the spot. Health-wise I'm doing terrible. I barely ate today, never get any sleep (it's 2 AM right now). No one else compares to her still. On the plus side, I went shopping and got some new clothes. I'm trying to build my self-esteem at the moment. Just trying to treat myself gently. I'm glad you're making progess. You're doing much better than I am. Keep it up! sorry but I've ht the wall. It's going the other way *Hugs.* I know it's tough, just keep going. Tomorrow, do something fun that always makes you feel good. Eat a nice, big dinner at a nice resturant. Then get a good night's sleep. You may not feel fantastic afterwards, but you might feel an inch better.
Author bboy Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 Oh come on!!!! What you're saying is NOT true. I don't say this as some sort of pep talk. It simply is not true. You ARE blocking positive signals out and heading for depression itself. This has not anything to do with you ex. It's a condition. I bet $50 that you have something that you honestly can say is a tiny little better than it used to be. Could be as simple as brushing your teeth again? Went out for a beer and managed to talk about something else for 10-15 minutes? Called a friend to meet up? Ate three meals today? I'm not looking for heroic over achievements. Those are for Hollywood and fiction. Just some tiny improvements!
Author bboy Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 sorry but I've ht the wall. It's going the other way Are you sure? Did it take longer for you to hit the wall this time than before?
skydiveaddict Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 [quote=I *Hugs.* I know it's tough, just keep going. Tomorrow, do something fun that always makes you feel good. Eat a nice, big dinner at a nice resturant. Then get a good night's sleep. You may not feel fantastic afterwards, but you might feel an inch better. I'm going skydiving tomorrow. The ultimate high. Thanks for you concern and hugs to you as well
monkeymaid Posted August 15, 2010 Posted August 15, 2010 yo bboy, you sound amazingly positive. are you forcing it or are you genuinely happy? what progress have you made in the last week? dude, i wish everyone here could have this outlook, i think more of us would be feeling great in no time! how did you get yourself to look up and face the sun? gj btw!
Author bboy Posted August 15, 2010 Author Posted August 15, 2010 yo bboy, you sound amazingly positive. are you forcing it or are you genuinely happy? what progress have you made in the last week? dude, i wish everyone here could have this outlook, i think more of us would be feeling great in no time! how did you get yourself to look up and face the sun? gj btw! Hey there! Haha, it's a mix. I'm forcing myself to be happy and in return it actually creates a little bit of happiness inside me. Last morning I rewarded myself with a cup of coffee and a smoke. Not because I was miserable but because I was worth a mental break. Today I'm going to go for a lunch with a neighbour. Yesterday there was some sad songs on the radio and I didn't react to them. Woohaaa Progress!! I'm going through my second bad break up and have realized that the first one was nothing in compared to this one. I really respect what others go through. My ex. treated me in a horrible mean way that I don't wish anyone. My goal is simple = To mentally, honestly be able to forgive her and don't blame myself. I refuse to be single and bitter! No way! We don't have to be religious or compare ourselves with our surrounding (and definitely not our ex.) to find value within us. A strong heart is built bottom-up and not dependent on someone else. It's not until then the love is a genuine gift and not a demand. My progress is simple. It's really step-by-step. I don't know if I'll be recovered in a month, year or ever. But that is not the point. I need to find myself going into the right direction. I stop and look back sometimes, I really do. But it's part of the healing process. I respect that. Then there is a secret that we all need to find out. We need to start appreciate what we can do for ourselves and it begins with such small steps that we can't see it. These are actually physical reactions - not mental ones.
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