Engadget Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 It's strange, but it's entirely true. There's a limit to this of course and a truly ugly, or even obese woman probably won't be good for me. However, my ex girlfriend of 6 years by standard definitions of beauty was not that attractive, but I found her beautiful. Met a woman at the bar the other night who I initially thought was a lesbian, who I've had the best sex of my life with two nights now, with a third coming tonight. She was a friend of a co-worker and wore jeans, t-shirt and was not feminine at all. The reasoning for her more masculine appearance is growing up with four brothers, but I wasn't sure if she liked men at first. The topic of sexuality came up and she's not at all interested in women funny enough. Don't judge a book by it's cover I guess, but she's blown me away so far, way more than any other woman (including two attractive 19 year old girls I posted about) and I just find it interesting that the women I work with the best are the least "gorgeous". So for women constantly bleating about men being attracted to unrealistic beauty, here's another perspective.
Enchanted Girl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I agree with how you view things. I mean, the insides of people really affect how I see the outside of them when I get to know them. I don't know why other men haven't posted things like this. Because they posted about how they can see a really beautiful woman and she opens her mouth and then their attraction to her is destroyed. The opposite is very easily true as well for a lot of people. An unattractive person opens their mouth and can become very attractive afterwards.
Author Engadget Posted August 14, 2010 Author Posted August 14, 2010 I agree with how you view things. I mean, the insides of people really affect how I see the outside of them when I get to know them. I don't know why other men haven't posted things like this. Because they posted about how they can see a really beautiful woman and she opens her mouth and then their attraction to her is destroyed. The opposite is very easily true as well for a lot of people. An unattractive person opens their mouth and can become very attractive afterwards. You're absolutely right. For me it's always been more about personality than looks.
brainygirl Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I agree with how you view things. I mean, the insides of people really affect how I see the outside of them when I get to know them. I don't know why other men haven't posted things like this. Because they posted about how they can see a really beautiful woman and she opens her mouth and then their attraction to her is destroyed. The opposite is very easily true as well for a lot of people. An unattractive person opens their mouth and can become very attractive afterwards. Because women are status symbols to many of these guys. The appearance of the woman is her value. If she appears beautiful and chaste, then she's more valuable and offers greater status than a woman who isn't classically beautiful or is known to be unchaste. I, being a woman who isn't the prettiest and enjoys sex very much, tend to be attracted to the person, not the appearance. A man who looks like a greek god but is dumber than a box of rocks or has ugly attitudes is a lot uglier than a man who may be goofy looking or short or what ever but who is smart, funny and kind.
Green Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 I'm either attracted to a woman or not. I have to be completely 100% attracted in order to comit to a girl as I have my gf.
bobdole Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Those women not "gifted with hotness" have to make up for it in other ways to compete. Other ways generally being substance to their personality.
jamesum Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Well, personally in my mind I wont settle for a woman who is less attractive than super models. But in reality though, Im very easy to fall in love. I can have no interest in a woman based on her appearance in the beginning but once she gets into my life and I start to feel comfort around her then I will usually fall for her. Im picky in the mind, but not at heart.
carhill Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Yeah, but what will cook your noodle later is would you have been attracted to her more or less if she hadn't had sex with you the first night you met her. IME, women turn this stuff off and on like a switch. I watched how some did it with me when I was married, people I knew for many years. All of a sudden, there it was. Like a couple sage LS ladies told me, 'you know it has nothing to do with you, right?'. Of course, they were spot-on. It's just something women do to make a man *think* there's a connection, whether that be through sex or emotional intimacy. Anyway, the noodle is wet so just don't leave it in the boiling water too long, OK?
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