loverofloveandstuff Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Usually when I'm not interested in someone, I'll just ignore their calls and texts and they'll get the message. I went on a date with this guy a couple of weeks ago. We had arranged to have dinner but when we met at a bar/restaurant, he decided he wasn't hungry. Then within 10 minutes of meeting, he grabs my face and kisses me (and also starts sucking on my lips, wtf?). I wasn't reciprocating, yet he kept doing this within the 2 hours I spent with him. I'd be in mid sentence and BAM! He'd grab my face. I felt very uncomfortable and said that I had to meet up with a friend. He then proceeded to ask me if I would rather go back to his place and watch movies and my response was of course no (yeah sorry mate, not getting lucky tonight... or ever with me). I got calls from a private number all that week (assuming it was him as he'd always send me a text not long after he'd call). One of them saying 'hey baby, anything wrong asian girl?' UGH. WTF. Firstly, I have a name. And secondly, if you're going to address me by my race, I'm actually half Asian and half Caucasian (he knows this). Douche. Yesterday, I again got calls from a private number all day and then got a text from this guy saying 'wanna hang out tonight baby??' Yeah, I know I should've just told him that I wasn't interested straight up, but in the past (99% of the time) I've just had to ignore guys a couple of times and they'd get the message. This guy is an idiot.
somedude81 Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Yeah, I know I should've just told him that I wasn't interested straight upWell, it seems you've solved your own problem. Congratulations! BTW then within 10 minutes of meeting, he grabs my face and kisses me (and also starts sucking on my lips, wtf?). I wasn't reciprocating, yet he kept doing this within the 2 hours I spent with him.You let him kiss you like that, even though you didn't like it for two hours?! Don't you have any self-respect?
kalikula Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 (edited) Sorry... Agreed.. If he tried to kiss me and I didn't want him to I would have left immediately. But this guy does sound pretty annoying. Just keep ignoring him and eventually he'll get the message. He does sound pretty desperado though... Edited August 14, 2010 by kalikula
TaraMaiden Posted August 14, 2010 Posted August 14, 2010 Ignoring him isn't getting the message through.... After the first kiss, he would have received a stinger across the cheek, and a quick exit by me. And a definite - "Contact me again, and you'll be sorry, you douchebag jerk!" (let him pay the bill.....!!) You need to answer one call, in order to let him know in no uncertain terms that his behaviour is creepy, disgusting, inappropriate, unwanted and unwelcome. Tell him to go find some other poor victim of his idiocy. But you are frankly Not Interested. Never were, never will be. Goodbye, loser." That might do it.
Enema Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Poor guys gets to make out with you for 2 hours (probably thinking you loved it) and then you don't respond to his calls and texts. I could easily see this guy posting on another forum asking for advice on what your deal is. Talk about mixed messages! As the others said, you need to learn to communicate a bit better. Silence Post is starting to sound critical but I bet if you were into this guy and you had good conversation / rapport you'd find "asian girl" cute.
meerkat stew Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 He does sound like a jerk, but have to press you on the "letting him kiss you for two hours" as others have. It makes no sense. What's up with that?
robdrm32 Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Poor guys gets to make out with you for 2 hours (probably thinking you loved it) and then you don't respond to his calls and texts. I could easily see this guy posting on another forum asking for advice on what your deal is. Talk about mixed messages! As the others said, you need to learn to communicate a bit better. Silence Post is starting to sound critical but I bet if you were into this guy and you had good conversation / rapport you'd find "asian girl" cute. Don't be bitter. To the OP: Thank you for sharing the story, it reminds me of how non-creepy I am.
Philetus Posted August 16, 2010 Posted August 16, 2010 Hey, What everyone says above is absolutely true. The minute he did something that upset you, you should have just left. You let this guy disrespect you and you didn't set him straight. The message to him is, he can continue to do it. However, it's important to remember that you made a mistake and you've come here and hopefully you can learn from it. Take the advice you've received and never let anything like this happen again. If someone does anything that makes you uncomfortable, tell them. Make sure the behaviour stops or it'll just escalate. You sound like a really good person. Obviously you were willing to give this guy second chances. Don't let people walk over you. They won't respect you and you won't respect yourself. Good luck.
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