Steve15 Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 Hey guys, thanks for taking the time to read. My girlfriend and I got together about three and a half years ago. Everything was great for a long while, until a few months before the three year mark. At that time, I began wondering what I wanted out of this time in my life and what the best way was to go about living it. After an extremely painful few weeks, it was ended. For about eight months it was horrible, as we were forced to have contact with one another fairly often through other circumstances. I was the one who broke it off, and although it was horrible, I felt as if I was being honest, and that was the best way to be, despite how painful it was. It was way worse on her though, for months she would break down at places we both attended, and I had an extremely hard time dealing with it. But now, eight months later, we’ve gotten back together. I reminded myself how great the relationship was, and how well this girl and I know each other, and how many inside jokes we had, and how happy I was. I didn’t there was anyone else I could share those types of things with. This girl truly loves me, and is funny, beautiful, and smart. We have the same friends, live close by, and have so much in common. I very quickly became very infatuated by the idea of her once again, and despite wanting to wait to tell her, I contacted her anyway. Immediately she agreed to get back together. Its been almost two months back together now, and I hate myself for feeling the same emotions I did at the end of our relationship previously. I think the idea of being in a relationship suddenly took hold of me, and I jumped on the opportunity to get it back. Looking back, I think I missed having someone who wondered what I was up to and what I was doing, rather than my girlfriend. In any situation like this, as I am sure many of you will do, I would tell someone to end it now, as delaying the inevitable will only create more pain. But I have put this girl through so much, and to break it off again after such little time would make it so horrible for her so fast. Our whole families know the entire story, and are so happy for us. Everyone is. It’s so horrible because I wish I could feel as strongly for her as she does for me. She is hilarious and absolutely stunning, many guys asked her out during the time we were broken up. I know what i have is great, and I want to want it. Another reason for delaying the break up would be maybe I could learn to love it again. Perhaps I am just in a weird phase and waiting another few months will give me clarity. I want to want it, I just cant feel the warm happiness I once did. If any of you have any advice on how I should approach this situation it would be greatly appreciated. I hate myself for what I’ve put her through don't want to again. To clarify, to point of waiting would be to both give her time and also to see if I can get the true attraction back. Thanks everyone
Enchanted Girl Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 What exactly is the problem you are having with the relationship? You went on and on about how great it was, but gave no real reason as to why you want to leave it. It's hard to understand the situation for me without an explanation of what that is exactly.
Author Steve15 Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 I suppose that's true. To be honest, there's nothing wrong with the relationship. It's just me. This girl is great, she's kind and understanding. I just cant feel as strongly as her, and I wish I could, I thought I could.
Enchanted Girl Posted August 13, 2010 Posted August 13, 2010 I suppose that's true. To be honest, there's nothing wrong with the relationship. It's just me. This girl is great, she's kind and understanding. I just cant feel as strongly as her, and I wish I could, I thought I could. What does feeling strongly for her mean to you? What kind of feeling exactly are you lacking? I know this sounds weird and like I'm asking a lot of questions, but I think this is at the root of whatever is going on.
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