Dating for two months, now what?

[oss91]

So, our families have known one another for a long time and I have known of this girl for a while. Never said more than hi, but I've known who she is. I am 27 and she 24. Back in the fall she was engaged but, for whatever reason, broke it off with the guy and subsequently moved back in with her parents. Fast forward six months and we we both attend a formal (banking) party. She is there with her parents and I say hi to her parents, but don't say anything to her. Two weeks later I get a message from her on Facebook out of the blue asking how I am doing. I message her back, she says we should get together sometime, and I agree and ask for her number. I call her and we go out a couple times a week for a few weeks. We never got too intimate, but I did start giving her a hug goodbye or a quick kiss each time after the third date. She seemed to be a pretty conservative girl that takes a long time to get to know. I then left for China for a month, which she knew I was planning on doing the whole time. I was in China for a month and we stayed in contact by email every two or three days. While I was in China, she asked if I would attend a wedding with her and whether she could pick me up at the airport when I came home. I agreed to both. She picked me up around midnight when I arrived. I was pretty jetlagged and tired (12 hour time difference) but everything seemed fine. I then got sick for a few days and didn't see her again until Tuesday when I took her out for dinner. I was still a bit jet lagged and tired, but she mentioned I was being pretty quiet. I mentioned she was being a bit quiet too. She then said a co-worker said she was "intimidating" and asked me if I thought so too. I told her she wasn't intimidating. The rest of the night was fine. I talked with her on the phone the next day and we texted many times over the next few days. On Saturday I picked her up and we went to the wedding, which was two hours away. She got us a hotel room. While getting ready for the wedding, she asked if she made me nervous. I told her no, but that I thought she was being very cautious around me. She kind of agreed to that and said it was because of her broken engagement. We went to the wedding and then the reception. After a few drinks she became very touchy feely and admitted to being self conscious and not a good dancer. I didn't buy into it and convinced her to dance a few times (I'm not a good dancer either, but I'll get out there and have fun). A bunch of her friends were there and said she was a very straight-laced girl and always followed the rules. Her friends said I didn't seem to be anything like that. She wanted to hold my hand and get touchy feely, which is fine with me. Back at the hotel, we hung out with some of her friends for a little while, before going back to our hotel room. Two separate beds. No big deal, I don't want to pressure her. We hugged and got close for a while before she fell asleep. After eating breakfast with her friend and her friend's "boyfriend" we drove back. I came in for a few minutes to play with the dogs and then hugged her goodbye. She texted me a few minutes later thanking me for the amazing time (which she always texts me after dates thanking me) and that we should do it again. This week, she has been really busy at work and I haven't seen her. I know she has been busy because her company just got bought (and she is the manager), so that is understandable. I tried, on Monday nigh after she had already gone to sleep,to set up a lunch date for Tuesday, but she texts me Tuseday early morning saying Tuesday wasn't good for it being so busy, but we could do Wednesday. Fair enough. Then she texts me Wednesday saying a last minute meeting has been called and she can't do it Wednesday (and has something on Thursday at lunch) so she'll have to take a raincheck. I responded that's ok and maybe sometime next week I could cash in the raincheck. She doesn't seem like a girl that would use work as a lame excuse, so that's not a worry. She is also studying for the GRE, and is busy at night. We haven't talked much this week. She actually left town this afternoon for a long weekend and a mini vacation with her parents. A few texts (just saying hope you're having a great day/good night I'll talk to you tomorrow, sorry for being so busy this week I feel really bad, etc.). I told her it's no big deal and understand. We all get busy (I am a law student/MBA student, so I really understand). Well, I was busy last night when she texted me and couldn't respond. She then texts me this morning around 9:30 explaining how hectic her week has been, but I was playing golf with a buddy and had my phone on silent. She then sends me a text around 3:30 saying that because she hasn't heard from me and she assumes I am offended at her being busy and that she hopes I have a good weekend. I text her 20 minutes later (when I realize my phone is still on silent) and tell her that is not at all the case, that I was playing golf and my phone on silent, and i hate she even thought that I was mad at her. We texted a few times back and forth, I told her I felt really bad she even thought that, she said not to worry about it, and then I said we would talk again later. her response, which can sometimes drive me crazy: . I sent her a message around 9:30 saying I hope she is having a good time after her crazy week. No response, but I am not reading too much into that.

 

Whew, I am exhausted from typing all of that. The thing is I kind of like this girl and am enjoying getting to know her, but I don't know if I came across as uninterested during the last week, or if she just was never really that interested. I'll keep trying for a little bit longer, but I can take a hint pretty good and won't keep pestering her if she truly is not interested.

 

Any insights? Any thoughts? Any more information needed from me? I just want an outsiders opinion. I'll back off if that's what I need to do, but then again I'll pursue her even more if that's what I need to do. I would like to try and make it work, but I'll move on if that's the right thing to do. Just curious. Cheers.

Edited August 13, 2010 by oss91
edited for content/clarification

[Fouts]

Bro, no one is going to read that wall of text. Break it down properly.

[BiAxident]

I kind of read that wall of text, but am not really sure what to tell you (other than to use the enter key next time). In general, I would let a few days pass, and then try to contact her again.