so_mo34 Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 things just ended with this guy i was seeing casually for a year. friends with benefits i guess. im 22 and he is 35,but i meant nothing to him at all. he treated me like **** actually. but he did tell me that he wants to find someone to settle down with and have a family. anyways i am absolutely heart broken because i have really strong feelings for him. it just sucks so much. it's been about 3 days and every morning i wake up i feel so empty. i have nothing to look forward to anymore because he was the only thing that got me excited. i miss his texts and flirting with him at work. yes we work at the same place which makes it harder although i am looking for a new job since im finished school. has anyone else been through a similar situation like this? how long did it take you to get over it? any tips and will i get better eventually? i just feel so hopeless and depressed right now.
Nappeal Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I had the same situation not toooo long ago; a friends-w-benefits thing that lasted a little more then a year. I had always held out hope that things would one day work, but they never did. We were a each other's booty call, & though I knew he had feelings for me somewhere, it was all about sex. I can't say it was all a waste w him, but if I could've fast-forwarded a year to see that nothing would materialize, I would've kept my emotions guarded. You know what helped that you don't want to hear? Time. I would get obsessive w my phone just hoping I'd hear something from him, but as days passed w nothing, things got easier for me. Soon enough I got a new BF when his calls suddenly started again (3 months later!) but because of the new relationship, I was too preoccupied to respond to him and he got the picture. I still think of him occasionally, but nothing serious. You will get over it, w time, I promise.
skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Nappeal is right. only time will heal this. But I think it's a good thing you are out of the relationship. FWB's are utter poison in my opinion. Someone always gets hurt. Next time find a guy that loves you for who you are and wants a real relationship. But you will get over this. Try to stay busy and find new hobbies (Lots of available attractive men are skydivers ya know). Give that a shot. It's a lot of fun too, and that's what you need right now. a distraction from your broken heart. good luck
BiAxident Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Try to stay busy and find new hobbies (Lots of available attractive men are skydivers ya know). Give that a shot. It's a lot of fun too, and that's what you need right now. a distraction from your broken heart. good luck I had been wondering how you racked up so many comments. Now I know, shameless self promotion
BiAxident Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 But yes, in all seriousness, things will get better overtime. Given that you are only 22, you have a lot of time left ahead of you to find someone else to make you happy. Given his age, it sounds like he was pretty much just using you. Keep your head up, you just finished school, your life is about to enter a whole new chapter! And like Sky said, there are a lot of men out there, many of whom will probably treat you better than this guy did.
skydiveaddict Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I had been wondering how you racked up so many comments. Now I know, shameless self promotion Probably right, but it is the biggest rush in life:D:D:D
BiAxident Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Whats that, the skydiving or the shameless self promotion? That reminds me, did you end up getting any sleep last night? I didn't!
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