davegfx Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Alright, need some advice. I've been seeing this girl for about 2 months. A bit of background, she came out of a really bad breakup about 9 months ago, and seems to really take things quite heavily. She gets sad a lot. Initially, I think she was more into me than I was her. I was trying to take it slow and not rush into anything, and was dating a couple other girls at the same time. After a short time, i realised I really liked her quite a lot, and said i would like to see her exclusively. The last month though things have gotten strange. Even though she was in contact every day, we just weren't seeing as much of each other (maybe couple times a week but usually just sleepovers rather a whole lotta of time actually hanging out). She just didn't seem too interested in coming out with my friends or inviting me out when she did. At first I thought i was just overthinking it but, i couldn't really shake that feeling that something was up. So I spoke to her about it, and she later texted me: "im insecure. and really like you. im sorry i've put people ahead of you. i feel like you'll end up not liking me cuz im a bit much. do you think you can handle me even when im sad. cause im very sad. and things get heavy for me" I told her i really like her, and want to be there for her even. And understand that she has a tough time dealing with stuff. She also recently fell out with her best friend. So i saw her last week and things went ok, and i've tried to be really supportive and nice (probably too nice?) but a couple days later she texted me: i'm going through a really ****ed up time. i hope you can be patient with me. i feel like im losing my mind. After this, i just said i understand, and that she should take some time for herself. She said, thank you, and to call her when i was back from a trip im going on. Havn't really spoken to her in a week besides her messaging me on fb the other night. So......everything in my gut is just screaming that yeah, shes lost interest in me, but doesn't really have the balls to say it. Surely if she was really sad, she'd want to spend time with me? I don't know.....I can't understand women. Any advice appreciated.
AverageJoe Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I cant understand guys that want to play captain save a ho. Help me with that one dave.
Author davegfx Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 hrm, yup, i guess i am guilty of that.
ReadyforLove Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 She gets sad a lot. She is emotionally unstable. Why are you even bothering wasting your time with someone who is not capable of giving you 100% of anything?
Author davegfx Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Yeah, yeah.....to the question at hand...?
AverageJoe Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Oh C'mon, you kick her through the uprights. Grab your balls, (if they are still there) remind yourself you are a man and you dont have time for this ****.
ReadyforLove Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Yeah, yeah.....to the question at hand...? She's too consumed with her "woe is me" attitude to even bother being consumed by a (most likely) great guy like you.
Author davegfx Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 so what do i do to end this with some dignity? It seems a bit silly to just ignore it each and just have it fade out. Do i say we need to talk, and grab the parachute before she does?
sugarmomma Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Yea Dave please throw this one back. Find someone with a more positive outlook on life. She seems really unstable and I wouldn't want any parts of that. In the end, she'll screw you around and say "well, I told you I was Fvucked up". Then you won't have anyone but yourself to blame. Please move on.
amymarieca Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Allow me to rant here, but this is what I don't get. How is it that all these emotionally messed up women can still manage to find men who are really really into them and even willing to put up with endless amounts of crap? I'm an emotionally stable, successfull, attractive woman who can't seem to find a nice guy! Sorry, not related to the post, but I can't help but think this!
You'reasian Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 Yeah, yeah.....to the question at hand...? Davegfx, you don't have time for this... don't play the sensitive guy role unless you're just friends.
Author davegfx Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 Ok. So yeah I agree, I need to move on. So, whats the appropriate way to break up with someone who you've barely seen anyway in the last few weeks?
sugarmomma Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 I always say something along the lines of "I don't think we would be a good match for one another in a relationship". Hopefully, she won't take it personal.
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