lovebound Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I reconnected with a guy from high school on facebook. We started seeing each other and for 4 months it seemed like it all was progressing forward, had a great time together. We mostly talked or texted on the phone since we lived 4 hours away, but managed to meet few times during that time and it seemed like it had some great potential, we were having such an awesome time, i felt i could finally give this a shot. Last week his ex of 3 years came back and i noted a change in him. He told me that he had to be honest with me but that he was going thru a period of confusion. he was with her 3 years and of course feelings were still there. though they were not back together at the moment, he felt the right thing to do was to retreat for some time so that he could analyze the feelings he had with his ex, and that he felt that it was best for us to take a break because he felt it was not fair for me to keep me hanging like that and see two people at the same time. I dont know why they broke up to begin with, but i cant help to feel hurt not knowing if this could of been a great relationship between him and me, and i miss him so much, and the daily contact we had. we never fought,on the contrary, it all seem to go well so that is why i allowed myself to open up to the possibility of this relationship. In my experience i had gotten back with exes in the past and it never worked out. so has anyone gotten back with the ex to regret it later and regret leaving someone which you could of have something more significant? curious.
alexlakeman Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 How can you fight? You were four hours away! LOL Yeap, if my ex gf calls me up, I'll drop who i'm with, basing this on the specific women I've been with since her..Doesn't mean, that tommorrow I'll meet someone that will make me forget her 100%... Ella fue el coquito mio
Author lovebound Posted August 11, 2010 Author Posted August 11, 2010 well, true, i cant compete with that! but its a shame that this could not go forward, however, i wanted to see if anyone ever regretted going back to the ex in the end regardless of who they left behind.
phineas Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I've never gone back. However i've had women leave me for their ex then come running back saying they made a mistake. Yep. They sure did. Then they hear the sound of me hanging up or watch me close my front door on them.
a_woman Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I've never left anyone for another person ex or not, it's not the right thing to do. If someone is prone to do that then you should forget about him.
Author lovebound Posted August 12, 2010 Author Posted August 12, 2010 haha! phineas, i have to say that was a bit funny. yep, hanging up the phone! well, all i can say is that if he ever comes back, maybe by then, could be too late.
2sunny Posted August 12, 2010 Posted August 12, 2010 haha! phineas, i have to say that was a bit funny. yep, hanging up the phone! well, all i can say is that if he ever comes back, maybe by then, could be too late.[/QUOTE] could be? he placed you as his option - and his exgf as his priority - that alone tells you enough - and all you need to know. YOU weren't the priority...to him. why would you even CONSIDER it in the future? so he can, once again, make you feel second best? not in my world... it doesn't happen that way...
Author lovebound Posted August 13, 2010 Author Posted August 13, 2010 2 sunny, u r correct. i dont want to be an option. it hurts to be an option. it is funny too as to how ironic it is that maybe he was an option too in this relationship with his ex. who knows if she had him as an option too. hmmm...
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