Chicagocutie Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 I need a read the situation with my guy. We met almost 2 months ago. We met online, chatted, clicked, and texted a lot before a great first date. Then came a great second date, third, and a meeting before the third because we just couldn't wait anymore. That's when things started getting physical. Up until then, we were texting almost constantly. Every day, he would text to ask about my day or share an inside joke. Then, all of a sudden, it dropped WAY back. Just a few texts every couple of days. One to say he was eating one of my favorite foods at his mom's house. Another to say he was thinking of me and hoped I was having fun with my friends. Now, 8 weeks later, we see each other twice a week (at his invitation), we have sex, we're hanging out with each other's friends (he likes that I hang out with some without him), and we're sleeping over. But we're not talking much, and only then every other day. Text messages to report on something important, like a job interview. Text messages to arrange dates. And most of the messages he initiates are in response to something I post on Facebook. When I text or call, he always responds and if he doesn't get to it immediately, he apologizes. We seem to be going slowly emotionally, not physically, which I like. But eventually, I want to get back to where we were with the inside jokes, the daily contact, and the intimacy that it brought. Does this sound like a good beginning, or is something missing?
bobdole Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Some people (like me) dislike talking on the phone or texting or emails and much prefer conversing in person. Could be he feels the same and everything is fine. Why don't you ask him.. I generally tell people this upfront and they have no issues with it.
Fouts Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Sounds like maybe there's not much depth to the relationship now, maybe some detachment on his part. Most affairs that fizzle, do so within the 3-4 month mark, so you'll probably find out soon if it'll turn around and develop more fully or grind to an end.
caramel c Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 Take the time you're saving from texting with him all day and do something for yourself or for somebody else. Don't sit around wondering about this. Get a life! (in a nice way)
spookie Posted August 11, 2010 Posted August 11, 2010 If he keeps asking you out and you've met his friends etc. sounds like everything's fine. Not everyone likes texting. If you want more conversation/ intimacy, how about steering your dates to venues where you can talk? Example, a dinner date instead of a sleepover.
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