Katie29 Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 (edited) Hello! I need some advice regarding a man I recently met. I went to a wedding on Saturday (didn't bring a date). I met a friend of the groom (I'm a friend of the bride). This was not a huge wedding, something simple on the family property. So about 2 hours into the reception I met this guy (chris) when I was speaking the bride. He was at the table and just kind of got into the conversation and than the rest of the night he was pretty friendly with me. We chatted and when we were standing, he would place his hand on my back. I did drink and got well... smashed It was made clear that anyone who needed to stay over was welcome to, if they could not drive home. (This is a huge house with a "guest quarters/house lol) Midnight came around and there were still about 9 of us partying with the bride and groom. I decided I needed to stay in the guest house and just drive home in the morning. The bride and groom went to bed and there were 4 of us sleeping over. Chris and I layed outside on this swing type contraption for a few hours. We just talked about silly stuff and he would drag his hand up and down my arm, kind of tickling me. I don't remember who started it but we ended up kissing which than turned into a fun make out session. We kissed for a little while and than he started to fall asleep. I woke him and let him know I was gonna head to bed. He just nodded and continued to sleep on this swing. I said good night and went to bed. I woke up pretty early Sunday, and had to work at 11am that morning. So I left at like 6am. He was in another room so I didn't get to say goodbye. My friend called me today. While I had her on the line, I asked her about Chris, just wanted know what his story was. She told me he is a good guy with but he has a son with an ex, the ex doesn't make things easy for him. I asked her what that meant and all she would tell me is that he is not romantically involved but she is around because they share custody of their son. She said he isn't a player, but he isn't innocent either. But she felt that if anyone could handle it, I could. She told me I should find out for myself. Not sure what to do with that info, and I would like to get to know him more and if I find out more of what she means and if I felt I couldn't deal, I just wouldn't continue anything with him. I know maybe I went a little overboard with the info but I wanted to give all I knew to get the best advice possible. I'm not sure if he would be someone I would date exclusively but he may be someone I could have fun with. So My question is how do I proceed? Him and I seemed to hit it off but we were both drinking and partying. Next Sunday is my friends birthday, so she is having a cook out, and she did tell me he is expected to come. So I guess I will see him and I can see how he reacts to me..I would be open to hanging out with him again, I felt amazing physical chemistry with him. I'm not afraid to say I wouldn't mind something fun and casual, but how do I know if it wasn't just this one time and only cause he was drinking? Advice for when I see him? *We are both 27 Edited August 10, 2010 by Katie29
alexlakeman Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 Go with the flow and keep in mind the inside info you have...
Author Katie29 Posted August 10, 2010 Author Posted August 10, 2010 Go with the flow and keep in mind the inside info you have... Whats "go with the flow" exactly? lol. No just kidding I know what it means, but I just think I'm going to be so nervous when I see him again. And I'm gonna be wondering what he really thinks of me, sober..
Green Posted August 10, 2010 Posted August 10, 2010 I often take the term "hook up" to mean SEX. I was disapointed that all you were worried about was kissing. He seemed pretty drunk and tired so idon't know if this is the start of a relationship or not. I wouldn't want to get involved with some person who has an ex you have to watch out for anyways.
Author Katie29 Posted August 10, 2010 Author Posted August 10, 2010 I often take the term "hook up" to mean SEX. I was disapointed that all you were worried about was kissing. He seemed pretty drunk and tired so idon't know if this is the start of a relationship or not. I wouldn't want to get involved with some person who has an ex you have to watch out for anyways. Sorry to disappoint you! I'm not thinking we would date seriously. From what I now know I'm game for some fun with him. The chemistry was there for me...
Author Katie29 Posted August 10, 2010 Author Posted August 10, 2010 I don't consider hooking up to be just sex..
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