loverofloveandstuff Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Background information: I do this thing where I'll give my number to (some) guys (that ask for it, obviously). They'll be attractive and nice and I think that maybe I'll be interested. I'll go on a date with them, justify that there was no chemistry and will never call them again and I won't have the balls to say 'I'm not interested.' On occasion, I've actually planned to meet up with them again, but then just turned my phone off when it comes to the day as I know they'll be calling and I don't want to deal with them. I know it's cowardly and I don't know why I do it. A part of me wants to be in a relationship so I want to give guys with potential a chance, but I'm not excited when I meet anyone. So this is the dilemma. A guy from another department at work asked for my number. He's really nice and even said 'You can think about it and give it to me next week at work if you want.' On impulse, and the fact that I know he's a great guy, I wrote out my number and handed it to him. I get home from work and receive a text saying he couldn't find me when he was leaving but wanted to say bye and wanted to know if he could take me out this week. I haven't texeted back. Overthinking it, I know I'm not really interested. I really don't want to mess with his head (I'll be seeing him around work so it would be majorly awkward and everyone would think I was a total bitch) so how do I say (nicely), that I made a mistake by giving my number to him and I'm not interested. What are some excuses I can use?
Shakz Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Maybe you should just explain it to him in the same way you've explained it to us: That you were flattered by his attention and your impulsive nature got the better of you. He offered you a week to think it over so he shouldn't be too upset if you are honest with him. He'll likely be disappointed, but not angry. If you string him along, however, he will be hurt.
denise_xo Posted August 9, 2010 Posted August 9, 2010 Maybe you should just explain it to him in the same way you've explained it to us: That you were flattered by his attention and your impulsive nature got the better of you. He offered you a week to think it over so he shouldn't be too upset if you are honest with him. He'll likely be disappointed, but not angry. If you string him along, however, he will be hurt. I agree with Shakz. No need to complicate things more than necessary.
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