brainygirl Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 A small town resident? Ok, here's the deal. The guy I've been posting about is history. And I am wanting to get back out there. But I've moved to a VERY small town and now I work as a teacher in the high school. I'm afraid that my profile being online is going to be seen as a bad thing if it gets out. But I'm not a bar fly and I feel like meeting people to date at work or at church is not a good idea. So, anyone been in that situation? Any thoughts?
spookie Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Work I understand - although at my company, I know at last a dozen married couples who met on the job. But what's wrong with church??? And is there any chance you can move to a bigger town??
lso802 Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 You could create an anonymous profile and send the guys messages with a picture of yourself. I also limit info. about myself online due to work.
Author brainygirl Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Well, for starters there aren't many youngish men who aren't attached already in church, and its kinda frowned upon. I just moved here to take a job that pays almost twice what I had been making.
jadedone Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Post a profile without public pics. Any bigger cities within an hour drive? then you could post your profile as if you live in that bigger city. Many guys will still be interested if you tell them you actually live an hour away.
Author brainygirl Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 Post a profile without public pics. Any bigger cities within an hour drive? then you could post your profile as if you live in that bigger city. Many guys will still be interested if you tell them you actually live an hour away. More like two hours from three different cities. A bit far to lie about.
Serenitynow Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Any bigger cities within an hour drive? then you could post your profile as if you live in that bigger city. Great way to start things off , with a lie. And we all wonder why theres so much friction in the dating world. .
jadedone Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 More like two hours from three different cities. A bit far to lie about. yeah 2 hours is stretching it, that being said I didn't mean for you to lie, you could have used a zip code from the bigger city but clearly state in your profile that you actually live in a different town.
Author brainygirl Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 I went ahead and put the profile visible and "winked" at two guys. I'd been using the free ones and meeting nice, but weird/unemployed people. One of the guys is a teacher (like me) and one is a lawyer, unless they lied. I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens.
Green Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I remember how we used to laugh our asses off at teachers dating profiles and the crap they'd write and the pics they would put up
Enchanted Girl Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 Why would they judge you for doing this? I don't understand.
meerkat stew Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 More like two hours from three different cities. A bit far to lie about. Wow, that is far out. In your shoes, especially as a teacher, I'd forego net dating and focus on getting involved with local groups and charities. And as far as it being a lie to use a different zipcode, that's BS. There is no rule that you have to use the zipcode where you actually live as opposed to where you do most of your dating or want to socialize. For example, I live in a small suburb 30 miles from a large metro area, am a commuter, and work, date and socialize almost exclusively in the city. I tell prospective dates this in the first mail and it hasn't caused any problems, but has gotten me rejected a couple of times by women who want a guy right down the street. That's fine, their prerogative. Using the zipcode where I live would be more misleading than using a city zip.
zengirl Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I'm moving to a big city, but I'm a teacher who is on an online dating site. There are many other teachers on there. (I don't put up anything about sex, any drinking pictures, etc, but I wouldn't do that anyway. I'm not really terrified that kids, parents, or my principal might find out that I'm single or that I date. I'm more worried about not listing "Christian" as my religion, but if I do, I get Christians I don't want to talk to and exclude the Atheists I do, so I stick to "Other" or no answer.) Maybe it's the small town stigma though.
Author brainygirl Posted August 8, 2010 Author Posted August 8, 2010 I'm moving to a big city, but I'm a teacher who is on an online dating site. There are many other teachers on there. (I don't put up anything about sex, any drinking pictures, etc, but I wouldn't do that anyway. I'm not really terrified that kids, parents, or my principal might find out that I'm single or that I date. I'm more worried about not listing "Christian" as my religion, but if I do, I get Christians I don't want to talk to and exclude the Atheists I do, so I stick to "Other" or no answer.) Maybe it's the small town stigma though. I guess I just worry too much sometimes. I wouldn't put anything up showing me drinking or partying because I'm not like that. I hate the religeon thing because while I consider myself Christian, there are people out there who are really extreme and its a challenge to weed them out.
alphamale Posted August 8, 2010 Posted August 8, 2010 I guess I'll just have to wait and see what happens. indeed brainygurl
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