agt2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 (edited) Okay first of all this isn't a girlfriend and there are no titles between us so I didn't put this in the break up section. We have been talking for the past couple of weeks and met up on what was a really good first date. She is very pretty and we get along really well but there are some issues I have. 1. she is starting to get too clingy way too fast for my liking. Talking about possible future trips, and stuff involving "us" way down the road, calling me and texting me all the time, introduced me to her sister, tells her mother about me, stopped talking to someone she was talking with before me and told him she met someone new (me) ! 2. out of the blue she invited me to her cousins wedding at the end of this month only after one date!! It threw me for a total loop, I told her I'd probably go w/her becuase it caught me so off guard and I didn't know what else to say at the time! 3. She is starting to remind of my one of ex's that I was with over 3 years ago. They have similiar backgrounds, upbringings, and certain personality traits that are starting to surface that were a key part of our breaking up. I'm starting to notice she is very much like my ex in too many ways and I don't feel like going down that path again. Sometime it actually feels I am talking to my ex if that makes any sense lol. I know people make mistakes and all but she admitted to me that she has cheated in the past (red flag). She sent me some racy pics via text (not naked) and trust me I'm far from a prude but she said these were on her facebook at one point! WOW I said to myself, this one may be rather permiscous. I am talking to another girl too that is much more up the alley of what I am looking for as far as a long term relationship but even if that doesn't workout this other girl just isn't long term material in my eyes. She would either be a friend or great f*** buddy material but that isn't what I am looking for at this point of my life. So how do I let her down easy without causing too much damage or coming off like a jerk? Do I lie to her and make it seem like it's something with me so she doesn't feel hurt? ANy tips from girls, guys, whatever. She is a nice girl and I don't want to hurt her but she just isn't for me. Any advice is much appreciated!!! Edited August 7, 2010 by agt2010
dispatch3d Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 you need to get out of going to that wedding asap. Do that first ffs.
O'Malley Posted August 7, 2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Her feelings are going to get hurt (although I agree that she was proceeding way too fast here), and no, she's not going to like you for it, but you will doing her a favor by ending this. I would do this over the phone as soon as possible (because, despite her feelings, you two were not legitimately invested in anything other than a single date). No texting/email or dropping off the face of the earth; it just makes you look like a heel. "I'm sorry, but I don't feel enough compatibility with you to continue to pursue anything. It isn't working out, and I think it's best that we both move on." No in depth discussions, no offers of friendship (if she wants to be friends or still wants you to come to the wedding, say you think it's best if you don't contact each other). After that, silence on your end, regardless of any attempts to contact you.
Author agt2010 Posted August 7, 2010 Author Posted August 7, 2010 Omalley at least you agree with me she was moving too fast. I thought it was just me! Okayi feel like the compatability line is going to be tough to use because we do "click" well. But what the heck maybe ill use that line since like you said ill be ignoring all future contact so who cares I guess
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