that girl Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 Let me get this straight...... You are 31, your boyfriend is 28. He refuses to talk to you on the phone and will only IM. To the point that he refuses to answer calls. In two months, he has never treated you to anything. All expenses are 50/50. He wants you to split the cost of condoms but refuses to split the cost of lube because he thinks you should just do with out it. Why on earth are you dating this guy? He sounds horribly selfish.
nineyearsgone79 Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I don't know... I am getting back there into the dating world. I was trying to give him a shot ya know? I've turned down a few other guys because I wasn't ready to date. I was in a long relationship for 9 years and broke up 11 months ago. So I am just back out there again. It's nice dating someone again but I just wish he could be more thoughtful and wasn't sure how to coax it out of him. I thought .. well maybe i'm just comparing him to my ex to much because my ex did those things. I realize he's a different person but thought are most guys like this and did I just luck out with the last one.
Untouchable_Fire Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I don't know... I am getting back there into the dating world. I was trying to give him a shot ya know? I've turned down a few other guys because I wasn't ready to date. I was in a long relationship for 9 years and broke up 11 months ago. So I am just back out there again. It's nice dating someone again but I just wish he could be more thoughtful and wasn't sure how to coax it out of him. I thought .. well maybe i'm just comparing him to my ex to much because my ex did those things. I realize he's a different person but thought are most guys like this and did I just luck out with the last one. Why did you dump the last one? And why move DOWN instead of up? You seem desperate to me.
Author that girl Posted August 6, 2010 Author Posted August 6, 2010 I just wish he could be more thoughtful and wasn't sure how to coax it out of him. It isn't up to you to make him a better man. I do think people can adjust to meet expectations in a relationship, but this guy is falling short in too many ways.
nineyearsgone79 Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I didn't dump my ex he dumped me. We broke up because we were in different areas physically and there were a lot of other issues... he couldn't find work and didn't want to stay with me.. blah blah blah it ended and was really really sad. We don't speak anymore he broke up in an email and said he didn't want to stay in touch that it would be to hard. So we never spoke again.
Untouchable_Fire Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 I didn't dump my ex he dumped me. We broke up because we were in different areas physically and there were a lot of other issues... he couldn't find work and didn't want to stay with me.. blah blah blah it ended and was really really sad. We don't speak anymore he broke up in an email and said he didn't want to stay in touch that it would be to hard. So we never spoke again. Suck. I'm sorry that happened. It explains to me why you've been putting up with this huge jerk. Listen... I'm going to tell you with honesty... You can do much better than this!!!
nineyearsgone79 Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 Thank you.. yah I think I need to find someone better. After being in the other relationship so long and finding myself suddenly single.. I think I've been a little afraid I'd end up single. I missed having that connection with someone. We were each other's best friends. This new guy can't even compare .. and I think i want to find the good things my ex had in him but he obviously isn't him. Yah.. I have to find that right guy I connect with. Thank you!
Angel1111 Posted August 6, 2010 Posted August 6, 2010 A little piece of advice - you can never coax anyone out of anything. They are who they are. You're seeing who this guy is and either accept it or not. I say 'not'. Personally, I think he looked up a bunch of girls from high school and I would not be surprised if he were sleeping with several of them, giving them the same line of bull that he gives you. In the future when you meet someone new, I recommend that you just sit back, let his personality unfold and only until you feel comfortable that his personality meshes with yours, and you both have feelings for one another, then consider sleeping with him. There are too many screwed up men out there, there are too many diseases, there are too many con artists. Don't be so naive that you don't even know how to keep yourself protected from these things.
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